i was dating this guy for a few days over 2 years when he broke it off with me after christmas 2008. all of 2009 we were great friends and towards him coming home from college became even closer and realized we might still have that spark we thought we lost and became more of "friends with benefits" if you will. when i met someone new i let him know that i was dating someone so our friendship could remain but the physical aspect needed to stop and he agreed and was fine with it.
us being such close friends, i had asked him a few times if he was interested in anyone new just trying to scope it out and see what was going on with him and he told me each time that he wasnt interested in anyone else. he also had told me that i was still the only girl he has slept with. recently after this past christmas, we talked and realized the spark is for sure still there and we have decided to give it another try.
he lives a couple hours away from me now and he asked me to come to his apartment and visit for a week and that is where i currently am. yesterday on accident and i swear on accident, i saw some messages in his phone from another girl and i read back through them a little bit and saw a message from him saying that they might has well just be single if thats how things were going to be. this message was sent about 4 days before he and i worked things out so im a little worried about his real intentions with me...
now i havent confronted him because that means admitting i read those messages and im not that person but its eating at me. how do i begin this conversation and know that hes being honest with me? and how do i know that this thing with him and that girl wont start again and ill be dropped like old meat? also i want to know if they have had sex because then i could be in danger of some bad things, so how would i begin to ask about that?
i have 4 days left here and i dont want them to go horrible but i cant stay here and pretend any longer either....
any advice is great! and thank you in advance!