worried

[elcharles]

few months i lost
interest to sex
due to fears on
std,i no longer feel to sex
bt i want to,i dnt
feel anything
while watching
porns but i my
penis get
erection .i gain
faster erection
while
romancing..am so
worried,just mere
thinkin of sex i
gain erection
before but nw i
dn't or less i hav to
romance..could this
be an effect of
masturbation cos some hours after masturbating,i feel weak and a slight headache, could the poor sexual urge be a bad effect of masturbation
or
fear,am
worried,wat cld be the cause of this? pls i need
ur advice and remedy pls

[sunshinerinker]

Sex is a very physical thing that people do. You said that you get an erection but you still do not want to have sex. My dear that is a mental thing. Your body is ready but your mind says NO.  There are many reasons for this. Have you tried with a different female and if so is the result the same? If that is the case than it is your mind telling you to stay away from that one. You would be surprised at what your sub-conscience minds knows that you are not aware of fully.

I would not say go and become a ***** but try with one other person.

Also if that is not the case than what you are missing is the good feeling about the other person. You know the whole "can you feel the love?" You might be pulling away because of that.

Like I said there are many reasons that your mind is stopping you.  










wow how do I put this?

[elcharles]

am waiting 4ur reply

[elcharles]

thank u bt am no longer worried,just that a few months back(27 august 2010) i had a protected sex with a sex worker bt was worried(my first sex experience) but later realized that condom protected sex is safe.since then i waz scared,i found out dat i hardly get aroused by the thought of sex or less there is a romance or close body contact(unlike before when mere tot of sex get me aroused quickly),i had a romance with my girl friend few days back i gained a strong erection but with the thoughts of it,i feel nothing....my worries now is this: i would like to know if i'll get back to my normal self again without visiting a therapist?cos am less worried now and we've few therapist down here in africa

[Dr. Kokil Mathur]

Hi
Welcome to the MedHelp forum!
Yes, poor interest in sex can cause erection problems. Anxiety can decrease libido, make you tense and depressed. You have a fear for STDs which needs to be addressed by counseling. Sex therapist can teach you how STDs spread and precautions to be taken. Usually monogamous relationships with a trusted partner are safe. Take care!

[elcharles]

thank guyz,

[puppiov]

I believe that you can get over anything you put your mind too.  A mental health specialist will help you find out the reason why you do not feel like having sex.  The first step is finding out why/and what is causing your non-interest in sex and then the healing process can began. Either you or the mental specialist can do this.  It could be an obvious reason or it could be something that is dormant (you do not remember that it occurred).  The mental health specialist can treat you in a way that can help you gain this knowledge.    

[8218]

You should not let the fear of STDs stop you from enjoying one of nature's best gifts. If you are that scared of STDs then it means you should make a conscious decision to always practice safe sex as the knowledge as safer sex will put your worries to rest.

[elcharles]

seriously for nw am no longer anxious on std,what worries me most is the sexual uninterest but or less i've to romance or touch a girl to gain an erection....i do gain a strong erection normally bt i dn't feel like havin sex,i believe it's a psychological problem but can i get over it with time?without visitin a mental specialist?

[puppiov]

Hi, Elcharles.

It sounds like you  may have anxiety issues because your initial loss of interest in sex. Your physical issues after masturbation maybe anxiety that is manifesting itself as being weak or having a headache. Please see a mental health specialist (social worker, psychologist, etc) to talk about your issues around loosing your interest in sex.  This seems to be a mental health issue and not a physical health issue.

thanks