I am a female who is experiencing no sexual pleasure or straight up pain during sexual activity, be it penetration, fingering, oral or vibrator (makes my legs twitch and that’s it). If anything, these activities make me feel uncomfortable and damp. I have never been able to experience pleasure in any of the erogenous zones or an orgasm on my own or with a partner.
For reference, I have been with the same sexual partner for 4 years since I became sexually active. No STD’s etc. I’ve not given birth or been pregnant before. I have no problem with arousal or lubrication. I am in my 20’s.
I really don’t care for sex at all, but my partner does and it’s been a source of tension in our relationship because I am unable to do the things that normal people can. I have been given advice by my girlfriends to just find a guy with a bigger size and call it a day lol. I feel like I’m very much in love with my partner and this advice is not viable. I would appreciate it if anyone could possibly suggest what is wrong with me as it would be just too embarrassing to ask my real life doctor. Also, if anyone has experienced something like this, how did you go about resolving the issue?