Hemorrhoids

[little miss]

Hi! I wanted to make my name little missy, but it was already taken. My name is Melissa, but everyone calls me Missy. I have been having a problem and went to look it up, that's when i found this site. It seems really nice. I hope you all can come up with an answer that will help me and make me feel better. I don't want to go to the doctor, I am very shy. i have been having hemorrhoids really bad. They will bleed even when I'm not going to the bathroom (#2). Today I had blood all over my panties. My Mom told me to put an ice pack. I have and it doesn't help. My boyfriend of seven years and i have anal sex a lot. i know it doesn't help the hemorrhoids, but I really like it. Do any of you know of anything that will help? Thank you in advance.  Missy

[lucylocket2]

I say run, run far away. His Dad married you? is he a preacher? is it down on paper that you are married? Where in the world are you from??  You could have a std and not even know it! Listen to your mother. Are you afraid of him?

[nanis]

I agree, r u in a cult?If there's ever been an abusive relationship I think your in one.  1st- your in pain & he does not care?2nd-he cheats & you dont care?And if he is leaving everything to GOD why did he not mary you,but has had five kids with you.You sound like your not happy!Sorry were not judging but,It sounds like he's having all the "fun"while you stay at home watching your 5 kids with a pain in the a**.And I dont mean the hemorrhoids.If your MOM is saying leave "what r u waiting for?She sounds like she has your best intreasts at heart as we also do, so why stay?Cheats,inconsiderate,does not care about your input?What holding you?..nanis

[siren of the sea]

well i know why he likes it better. your not "stretched out" but the butthole (lack of a better term) is definately much tighter. why wouldnt he? and you say his family doesnt believe in birth control. well let them not take it. he isnt your husband. he isnt raising 5 kids. he isnt the one to deal with it. sweety do what you want. you seem very strongly against another baby. i understand i will step on toes but it isnt up to god to give or not give you a baby if you have sex without bc. he gave us the equipment and its up to us to determine how to use it. remember it is your mind, body and spirit. its up to you to use bc or not. and if you choose not to and fall pg. its isnt gods will it was yours and your bf's.

[trasauma]

I have to agree with just about everyone here.  You need to stop having anal so often.  I understand the like for it.  But I can only do it about once every few months or I HURT!!..I Can't imagine doing it more often.  As for the BC issue will he get a vasectomy?  My hubby did after #4 because financially I knew we could never afford another one and we never used BC.

[sparkeler]

You say your husband leaves it in "GOD'S" hands.  If he's so religous, why hasn't he married the mother of his 5 children???  And he has other women?  He doesn't believe in birth control and I wonder if he's using condoms w/these women.  And you engage in anal sex unprotected with hemmroids?  Honey, that's how people contract stds and hiv.  Think about your health.  He's going to winde up giving you something that you can't get rid of.  You have to have more respect for yourself.  You are a mother of 5 children that need you.

[lucylocket2]

What?  oh my Gosh! It sounds to me like your beating a dead horse here. Are you in a cult or something like that? i couldn't imagine being like that. He has another woman?? Doesn't that tell you something? If he really loves you he wouldn't want you to be in pain and wouldn't find another woman. My hubby would do anything to help me not be in pain and he know's I'd leave him in a heartbeat if he cheated!!.Is there not a clinic close where you could go get the depo shot? that way he wouldn't know. IF YOU STAY THAT IS.