I cant enjoy sex?

[i_luv_revenge094]

I just don't want to have sex, i cant even get wet. Its really hurting me because i want to have sex, but my boyfriend thinks Im not attracted to him, and I have been really stressed.
HELP!!

[DuBuiss]

Another reason could be if your hymen hasn't tear up properly. You know like the first time you have sex, it's suppose to break, be sore, bleed a bit... Well for some women, it doesnt. It tears a bit but it's there and sore every time you have sex. A friend of mine had to have hers surgically after more than 5 years of painful sex.

Even when it doesnt all tear up, what remains is supposed to be elastic and flexible when you get wet. If you're very dry, it won't get flexible and that could be why it's sore for you. And that's easy to see: Take a good look at yourself with a little miror and you'll know right away if this is your problem.  

[Marisaz]

I remember a friend having the same problem and she found out it was her birth control. For some reason it dries some women up. Are you taking any? If so, you may want to switch to a low dose, and I've even heard dehydration (makes sense) can cause major problems there..you should be drinking at least half your body weight in water (divide your body weight in half, that's how many ounces you should drink a day).
Also, if you are on any kind of anti-depressant it completely KILLS the libido. I took one in college when my mom was going through breast cancer treatment and couldn't orgasm to save my life!! It was sooo weird. Needless to say I haven't taken any since...I'd rather have the fun :)
I know there are several meds that can cause this to happen...either go over it with your doc (trust me, they've heard it all before), or try eating and drinking healthier...you wouldn't believe all the things being properly hydrated can cure.
Best of luck!!

[DuBuiss]

Don't worry. A lot of women don't start enjoy sex until they had it many many times. How often have you had sex? Is it a new thing for you or have you been trying for years and years? The first couple of times I had sex, it was also very sore and not enjoyable. There were even times when I was so stressed that my  muscles were so , my boyfriend couldn't get in. After it stopped being sore when having sex, it took a lot more times for me to start enjoying it. And now, I wouldn't live without it! :)

There are a few things that you can try: First, try to really relax yourself, take a deep breath and ask him to come in slowly and to stay in for a little while before starting moving around. While he does, remember to breath and try to relax your muscles.

You may also want to try extra condoms. They are really good and the help with the "not wet enough" thing.

You can also use Lubes that you can by at the pharmacy or baby oil (Just make sure the brand you use doesn't say "for external use only")

If it's still too sore, there are other things that you can do. Sex is not all about penetration. You can perform oral sex on each other. Kissing, touching, caressing can also bring people closer and show your boyfriend that you do love him and are attracted to him

But remember one thing. This could also just be because your mind/body are trying to tell you something. It might simply be that you aren't ready and yet with the idea of having sex. And there's no age for that. If you feel you might not be ready, talk to him about it. Sometimes, time is all that's missing.

DuBuiss