No orgasm...huh?

[Nina0108]

I CAN'T HAVE AN ORGASM DURING SEX!! I've been with my husband/partner for 10 yrs, of that time, I've had one....yes ONE orgasm during sex! Clitoral orgasm? No problem, but I want that explosive penetrating orgasm :(

I'm totally attracted to him so that's np, I enjoy our sex, I think we just have to work hard at it (my orgas)? Oh I should also mention that for the past 10 yrs I've been faking orgasms! I must be good at it :)....but about 3 mos ago I stopped, NO MORE ACTING!

We've talked about my lacking orgasmic (if that's a word) abilities. So far we've concluded that we need more foreplay, the mood needs to be right (like kids asleep). Oh but the biggest thing? He doesn't know I'm a one hit wonder:( ....I feel bad and I know I should tell him but I think that would hurt his ego too much. Eek!

Hellllllp someone!!!!

[ducky406]

I would also suggest trying a vibrating/gel penis ring, which you can find at most sex shops. No matter the position, I find they give more clitoral stimulation. My husband said it was a little awkward at first but it didn't really hinder his sexual experience in any way. Also, if you're feeling experimental some women find anal stimulation a good way to get a non-clitoral orgasm. So perhaps you should have a look at the toys available. Good luck!

[Nina0108]

Thanks for the reply!! Hopefully tonight would be a good night and I'll try it....well see!

[matey1982]

the best way to get this ultimate orgasm you seek is you on top. works everytime because the penis will hit the right spot in this position. and yes the kids asleep and lots of foreplay will help. good luck!!!!!!!!!!