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Orgasm thru intercourse
all i haer is how great sex is and how much they are looking forward to doing it again, when i have sex it feels good, i enjoy it, but i am almost positive that i dont climax. during intercourse i am pretty sure i have never had an orgasm, but everytime i recieve oral sex and thru mutual masturbation i have an orgasm....am i not going long enough, or am i just not ready for full on intercourse? because i was wondering what i could do to help that along, but still have sex just the same as alwaya......no changes made there.....
I've come close to orgasm before, but my boyfriend can't go long enough, one time i was on the brink but because we've tried so much, we've given up on orgasm during intercourse, and becasue i didn't want to lose my concentration i didn't tell him, anyway he came before i could and that's the closest it's been since. After that there's been times when it's possible (always whn i'm on top, or on a rare occasion when my legs are over his shoulders while he's on top of me) but he can't go for long enough, what can i do to mak him go for longer?
I have been having sex for years and have never had an orgasm during intercourse. I have also tried stimulating the clitoris while having sex and that doesnt work for me either. The only way I can achieve orgasm is if I do it myself or through oral... I talked to my OBGYN about it and he said that 10 percent of women cant achieve orgasm through intercourse at all, some can't achieve it without clitoral stimulation, and for some it's all in there head. For instance if you grew up hearing that sex was bad before you got married and you in fact had sex before that point some women have a fear in the back of their head that what they are doing is wrong and there for can not achieve orgasm. Unfortunately for me I am in the 10 percent of women like many i have found that can't achieve orgasms during intercourse. I wish you the best of luck in doing so because I hear its a wonderful thing.. lol...
Im not alone it seems. Its so good to hear that i'm not the only woman who cannot orgasm during sex. And in fact, the only time i have orgasmed with my husband was when he went down on me. And that only happened once, we can't figure out how to duplicate that night, but it was amazing. I just really wish that i could orgasm with him, I feel like that would bring us so much closer. lately the only way i orgasm is when i masturbate and the only way i get off is using my handy vibrator. Anyone have any tips on how to get that same feeling like a woman does with her vibrator, with her man?
my advice would be to get on top... i cannot climax MOST OF THE TIME if my hubs is on top or behind or whatever... so we usually fool around, he gets on top and we do whatever, then i get on top.. if you get on top sit up almost, place your hands on his shoulders/chest and lean forward so when you're moving you have clitoris stimulation.. it works everytime for me! try different things, different places... or before you get on top, have him rub you (like if you were masterbating) to where it almost gets you off, then get on top and do what i told you. have him hold your hips down.. i hope this works for you!
I'm the same way .. I can't orgasm during sex .. I come close but it hasn't happened yet. I think I concentrate too much. During fore play, I have to tense my legs, and arch my feet in order to finish. It's stressful. Are there any good books, with different positions, to help reach climax?
It's not abnormal, you probably get cramps from tensing too long. Everyone's different, so different techniques work for different women. Keep experimenting. Have you ever tried not to focus on orgasm, just going along for the ride and enjoying the moment (but making sure your bf is hitting the spot along the way of course) without stressing on - 'I'm taking too long", "this is never going to happen
' etc? Try it. Use your leg tensing method on and off during it if it helps bring you closer but try and just go with it. Your orgasm will be more intense if you're not stressing over it.
' etc? Try it. Use your leg tensing method on and off during it if it helps bring you closer but try and just go with it. Your orgasm will be more intense if you're not stressing over it.
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