UPDATE!!

[mysticalzoe]

Well everything came to head yesterday for me, my husband said this, that i was annoying him way too much, he likes to be alone, he says i know I am unhappy, and if I don't change soon, he doesn't want to ever be around me, hince he may want out of this marriage. He begged me to see a shrink, and told me he wants me to just talk with someone. I got angry and told him they don't help with anything, and blah blah blah! i did change the subject and went on to college talk, he thinks I'm going to make friends through college, I personally doubt it. I will tell him on Monday that I will see a shrink, but i will not be bringing up my past, i am sick of telling people about it, just about life. No medication, you're all in denial about medications though, it is a huge conspiracy. They make the side effects, so you take more and more medication, it's the way the government controls you, and you're all being controlled without knowing it. that's how I really feel. I told my husband that yesterday, and he said that's not true at all, and i was crazy, in a joking way, he said he was joking. I will not let him know that he won. The fact that it may ruin my marriage terrifies me to no end, and that would mean I would have no one. My family knows nothing about this, it's too embarrasing to let them know, so as far as they know i am a happy person! So, now i just need to get over the fear of calling people on the phone and call for an appointment, or i might make my husband do it, he brought it up. by the way I'm 28 years old.

[AndiJ.78]

I definitely think that what you need cannot be offered via the internet. Not even the professional on the Mental Health forum can offer you the type of assistance and attention you need.

Please, please, please, seek out professional help in person. If you need your husband to make the call for you, have him do it. You are demonstrating seroius s/s of mental illness and this warrants further evaluation by a mental health professional.

No one on here can offer you a diagnosis or treatment plan. No ones personal experience can make this any better for you.

Again, you need to seek professional help and I also think it may be a good idea to let your family in on this.

Andi

[mslkpage]

I'm sorry...who is Brenda?  Did I miss something?

[cutiemama]

It doesn't really sound like you want any real sound advice here. If my dh weren't on med for anxiety and depression, I'm sure our marriage would have ended years ago. If he weren't on meds for migraines, he wouldn't be able to function, etc. I need not go on. Generations ago people with mental health problems were institutuionalized until the development of these incredible drugs that let millions of people function normally in theor daily lives.

You really need to find a good psychiatrist who will put you on the right stuff. You seem to suffer from paranoia if you think pharmaceuticals are a gov't conspiracy of some sort.

[greenpixie]

I don't think anyone here is mad at you.  I think the reason people keep bringing up meds is b/c the fact is that many people do need them.  There is such a large variety of mental illnesses.  Yes, sometimes therapy is enough to help.  However, there are often more serious conditions (OCD, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, severe depression, to name a few) that therapy is just not enough.  There are tons of studies that show that patients with bipolar disorder are less likely to become suicidal when they take their meds appropriately.  I can understand your resistance toward them.  I don't share your belief that there is a government conspiracy about them, but I do think we are sometimes too quick to try drugs instead of really treating the problem.  Having said that, I think most people offering advice here want you to at least be open to the possibilty that you may need to be on medication.  The first thing to do is to see a therapist.  You can tell your therapist how you feel about medication and a good therapist will try to help you without trying to put you on meds right away.  Just be open to the fact that eventually, medication may be recommended for you.  Ultimately it is your decision.  No one can force you.  I hope that at you at least make the decision to see a therapist. Startin is the hardest part.

[blondie72]

THIS IS NOT TO BE RUDE BUT - I again don't personally think this is for real.  I have seen it many times on this forum (mostly maternal/child which is where I started).  People come on here with outrageous stories and then get all mad and defensive at ppl for NOT going with what they say.  Why start the fight???  So you do NOT think the meds are right for YOU and maybe they were not but there is NO NEED to come on here and ask why everyone is getting so P***Y (and besides isn't that swearing???)  I am sorry I feel this way but like I have said 2 yrs is a long time to be on a board.  You do learn a thing or two.  Also like I always say if this really is a legitmate post I do apologize and I really hope you get the help you need.  Good Luck to you.

[dandeelyon]

I believe this post is real.  This combined with another post sounds very plausible.  If you were truly concerned about keeping a peaceful environment and "not being rude", you would have kept you opinion to yourself and contacted the administrator.  That is not difficult to do.  You are quick to judge and very brass with your opinions.  Maybe after two years it's time for you to take a break.  I know I personally could really care less about any advice you have to give and will skip over anything you say from now on.

You clearly have no understanding of mental illness.  This woman has very clear signs.  I could probably guess the diagnosis but that is not my place to do it.  She needs help not your nasty opinion.