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im25 and very LOW labido
i had a hysterectomy when i was 21 and i have two lil grls and over the last two years my sex drive has dropped so much that i swear if i never had sex again that would be okay with me. but my husband of six years is running out of patience. i feel violated when we even talk about sex and i used to want to all the time we used to be all over each other our sex life was at least twice a day. and now its once a month and i hate every minute of it. somebody please tell me if im crazy, or is it lack of hormones, or is it just that me and my husband have been married for 6 years and this is normal.
Hi Ksykes,
You are not crazy!
I'm so sorry you've misplaced your libido. You'll find it again!
I have a similar problem with my libido because of medication. It is such a hollow feeling, isn't it? Then anticipating the disappointment my husband is going to suffer , when I'm not into it, makes me feel just awful. Then I REALLY don't want to have sex.
Some one on this website suggested flaxseed or flaxseed oil to help boost the libido. I tried it and you know IT WORKS . You can buy it at Whole foods or a natural food store. I take the flaxseed oil every day.
My first thought was " Are you on hormone replacement therapy?" I know getting the right dose of hormone pills can be tricky. When I'm feeling "off" some where in my body I always check out meds first.
I really heard that you feel violated. Who is or has violated your boundaries? Sometimes I say,"yes" when I really want to say "no" and cross my own boundary. Some times in the past others have crossed my boundaries.
I know keeping the lines of communication open with my husband has helped. I'm not so tense about it. And, he knows what is going on with me, so he doesn't feel as rejected all the time. It's not perfect. Sexuality in a marriage is complicated.
It is still a delicate balance, but it can work.
I hope I helped, even just a little.
You are not crazy!
I'm so sorry you've misplaced your libido. You'll find it again!
I have a similar problem with my libido because of medication. It is such a hollow feeling, isn't it? Then anticipating the disappointment my husband is going to suffer , when I'm not into it, makes me feel just awful. Then I REALLY don't want to have sex.
Some one on this website suggested flaxseed or flaxseed oil to help boost the libido. I tried it and you know IT WORKS . You can buy it at Whole foods or a natural food store. I take the flaxseed oil every day.
My first thought was " Are you on hormone replacement therapy?" I know getting the right dose of hormone pills can be tricky. When I'm feeling "off" some where in my body I always check out meds first.
I really heard that you feel violated. Who is or has violated your boundaries? Sometimes I say,"yes" when I really want to say "no" and cross my own boundary. Some times in the past others have crossed my boundaries.
I know keeping the lines of communication open with my husband has helped. I'm not so tense about it. And, he knows what is going on with me, so he doesn't feel as rejected all the time. It's not perfect. Sexuality in a marriage is complicated.
It is still a delicate balance, but it can work.
I hope I helped, even just a little.
If it was a full hysterectomy you may not be producing sufficient amounts of estrogen to motivate you on a chemical basis towards sex.
However, you lack of interest in the very mention of sex suggests that you may have underlying emotional issues that should be considered and addressed with your husband or a professional.
However, you lack of interest in the very mention of sex suggests that you may have underlying emotional issues that should be considered and addressed with your husband or a professional.
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