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western blot question
Hello again Doc H
i have 2 questions this time
1. my gf claimed she had 1 coldsore when she was very young and nothing until 4 yrs ago when we met. she is in her late 30's now
she had 1 coldsore per year in the last 4 or 5 yrs we have been together. she had already 2 coldsores this year. it seems like she is getting it more frequently. why is this happening? any suggestions to help her out please?
2. as for myself, i have not yet seen any sores any where on me. is there some where i can go to get a western blot done in ottawa or Toronto? if not,can you provide a phone # or website i can go to for further arrangement at U of washington please?
thank you for your time.
This discussion is related to Asymptomatic Shedding hsv-1.
i have 2 questions this time
1. my gf claimed she had 1 coldsore when she was very young and nothing until 4 yrs ago when we met. she is in her late 30's now
she had 1 coldsore per year in the last 4 or 5 yrs we have been together. she had already 2 coldsores this year. it seems like she is getting it more frequently. why is this happening? any suggestions to help her out please?
2. as for myself, i have not yet seen any sores any where on me. is there some where i can go to get a western blot done in ottawa or Toronto? if not,can you provide a phone # or website i can go to for further arrangement at U of washington please?
thank you for your time.
This discussion is related to Asymptomatic Shedding hsv-1.
Hi Grace
i have no idea where the infection site is on my body. it can be both oral and gential for all i know... with such little info, there is not much i can do to prevent transmission. no contact no transmission, thats the only thing i have been doing to protect others.
i am not afraid of rejection, it happens often despite of hsv.
just that no one i know shows sypmtoms that i am aware of. the talk will only alert my frds or potential lover to get tested to only find out they are already infected. it can deliver potential sadness and unnecessary panics.
i guess knowledge is not always valuable...
i have no idea where the infection site is on my body. it can be both oral and gential for all i know... with such little info, there is not much i can do to prevent transmission. no contact no transmission, thats the only thing i have been doing to protect others.
i am not afraid of rejection, it happens often despite of hsv.
just that no one i know shows sypmtoms that i am aware of. the talk will only alert my frds or potential lover to get tested to only find out they are already infected. it can deliver potential sadness and unnecessary panics.
i guess knowledge is not always valuable...
just be honest with her as to why you are breaking up with her. Nothing sucks more than not understanding why someone has ended a relationship.
have you asked your friends things like would they date someone who gets cold sores to get more opinions than mine?
have you asked your friends things like would they date someone who gets cold sores to get more opinions than mine?
she is living a full and happy life right now without me , it will break my heart and hers to infect her with the virus. and if she is infact already hsv1+ without symptoms, my take on it is -there is no need for her to find out about it now. she has the potential to get really work up on it....
with that said, i heard what you are saying. i will continue to believe that i will one day meet someone as educated and understanding as you are and have a happy life myself. thanks Grace.
with that said, i heard what you are saying. i will continue to believe that i will one day meet someone as educated and understanding as you are and have a happy life myself. thanks Grace.
why in the world would you end a relationship over hsv1? That is rather ridiculous don't you think?
thanks Grace
what i meant was-i am going to end my relationship with this person so i dont have to have the talk with her. she will be fine bcos i have not kissed her or have sex with her.
thanks for the link. it was great info.
what i meant was-i am going to end my relationship with this person so i dont have to have the talk with her. she will be fine bcos i have not kissed her or have sex with her.
thanks for the link. it was great info.
http://www.ashastd.org/std-sti-works/Herpes/oral-herpes.html
sorry, they just updated their site and I didn't change my link!
if you care about someone, you will have "the talk" with someone. ignorance is absolutely not bliss!!! it's oral herpes - 1 out of every 2-3 people you know has it. it's nothing to be "destroyed" over!
sorry, they just updated their site and I didn't change my link!
if you care about someone, you will have "the talk" with someone. ignorance is absolutely not bliss!!! it's oral herpes - 1 out of every 2-3 people you know has it. it's nothing to be "destroyed" over!
Hi Grace
thanks for the link but somehow its not working.
i am really struggling with this hsv1 issue. i care for her too much to have to put her through the talk. she is not the type that reacts well to this kind of talks. plus i dont want her to get tested only to find out she might has it too. she is living a happy life right now, my educating her on this will only make her life miserable..i remembered i was destroyed when i found out bout my hsv1 infection. any insights you might have to share?
thanks for your time
btw, i didnt kiss or have sex with her.
thanks for the link but somehow its not working.
i am really struggling with this hsv1 issue. i care for her too much to have to put her through the talk. she is not the type that reacts well to this kind of talks. plus i dont want her to get tested only to find out she might has it too. she is living a happy life right now, my educating her on this will only make her life miserable..i remembered i was destroyed when i found out bout my hsv1 infection. any insights you might have to share?
thanks for your time
btw, i didnt kiss or have sex with her.
You should be having "the talk " with anyone you want to have sex with. it's part of being sexually responsible :)
Talk to your partner about their std past. Talk about their std testing ( make sure they are getting more than just a yearly pap test done - that's not proper std testing ). Talk about condom use as well as birth control - cover it all in the same talk so that you are both on the same "page" about it all. Then let your partner know that you know you have hsv1. Let her know that you have never noticed any symptoms orally or genitally so you assume it's oral which is where most adults have it. http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm has terrific info on oral herpes for more reading - for both you and your partner.
keep asking questions!
grace
Talk to your partner about their std past. Talk about their std testing ( make sure they are getting more than just a yearly pap test done - that's not proper std testing ). Talk about condom use as well as birth control - cover it all in the same talk so that you are both on the same "page" about it all. Then let your partner know that you know you have hsv1. Let her know that you have never noticed any symptoms orally or genitally so you assume it's oral which is where most adults have it. http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm has terrific info on oral herpes for more reading - for both you and your partner.
keep asking questions!
grace
Hi Grace
your advise is much appreciated here
i am a male in my early 40's. my blood work confirmed hsv 1 +(hsv2 negative) in 2008, i was with my then gf whos also hsv1+ hsv2-
its been 4 yrs and still i have yet to discover any sores any where on my body. i have met a girl recently (no sex yet) whats a proper way of telling her about my condition if i may ask please
thank you for your time and happy new year
your advise is much appreciated here
i am a male in my early 40's. my blood work confirmed hsv 1 +(hsv2 negative) in 2008, i was with my then gf whos also hsv1+ hsv2-
its been 4 yrs and still i have yet to discover any sores any where on my body. i have met a girl recently (no sex yet) whats a proper way of telling her about my condition if i may ask please
thank you for your time and happy new year
this is not the doctor's forum. you have to pay to post there.
if you want to ask your question on the patient to patient forum, please post on the herpes forum.
thanks!
grace
if you want to ask your question on the patient to patient forum, please post on the herpes forum.
thanks!
grace
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