Father- Daughter incest? Or is it just my imagiation?

[sweetiegirl1985]

I have been with my fiance for about 1 year. He is a bit older than me and has a daughter that just turned 14 years old not too long ago. Her mother has not been in the picture since she was 4, so he really had to pick up the slack for her not being there. He learned how to do hair, nail, shopping, and is very opened about talking about "girl things". Anyhow, we just watched a scary movie  and ever since then she thinks that there are demonds in our house. The movie scared her so much that the night after we watched the movie she didn't sleep all night. The reason I am writing this is because now my fiance is sleeping in bed with her because she is scared and this moring he had glitter all over his chest. I asked him what that was from and he told me from her shirt. I understand that it could just be that, but why was he holding her like that? I tought for some reason that was weird. They have a close relationship, but I think this is too much.. Can someone help me on this topic?

[sweetiegirl1985]

Also, I have never dated any1 with kids, expecially a 14yrold. Should I talk with both of them, or just him? And if I do talk to both what should i say to her?

[sweetiegirl1985]

When she was a little girl he used to do her nails and hair, but not anymore... If that even helps. I will talk with him tonite about it, but I dont know what signs to look for if he did do something. This moring I woke up at 8AM, and THEY still weren't up. So I let the dog out and took a shower, got ready and by that time it was 9:45AM. Still, no signs of anyone up, so I was furious, so I left for the day to do some arronds. Right when I got n the car I guess he just woke up and came to the window of the car and asked me where I was going and why I had an attitude? I told him I was running arronds and that I was a little irritated. (Im 4 mths pregnant) so I left. No call, till 1PM. I think he has a guilty concious. He is always up by * THE LATEST, b/c he runs his onw company... I know that I am pregnant, but I know it's not just all in my head. This is wrong, right? I have done a lot of research on this topic. Father-Daughter incest is the most common incest there is.    Can anyone help me on this?

[RockRose]

Glitter does come off all over the place,  and sticks to skin.    If he had some glitter on his legs,  face,  back,  whatever,  that would indicate glitter falling off the shirt onto the sheets that's understandable.  To have glitter on his chest that matches the glitter space on her chest,  I think that's bizarre and a little irrefutable.    This is a tiny point,  but he does her hair and nails?  I think that's weird too.  A child just needs clean brushed hair and clean trimmed nails,  and if she wants to mess with her nails and hair further that's fine as she grows into it.  For him to do her hair and nails seems a bit off.

I would ask again about the glitter.  Really seems incriminating.

[jo929]

No matter what the excuse the girl gives she should go to her own bed and her dad can leave the light on in her room there is no excuse a 14 year old gilrl can have to sleep in the same bed with her dad and he should have told her to sleep in her own room, then again she may be doing this because she is jelous of you  luck  jo

[margypops]

It may have been from her shirt and nothing loie incest however it does sound as if she needs to sleep by herslef, so it would be a good idea to discuss your concerns with him.