You are in this together and she has to contribute. When she is using I would just ignore her. I know this will be hard for you. Love will see you through this! She is already being sneaky and isn't going to stop until she commits to recovery. You have to be strong darlin and tell her NO MORE!!!! Tell her this isn't negotiable and see what happens. I know you will do this in a kind sensitive way. She knows you love her and right now she is probably feeling terrible. I want you to think of how you are feeling right now. The pills should go right down the toilet tonight!!!!
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Love out to ya,
Tim
Tim,
I have been reading tehse posts for about a week now and i think its awesome that you know so many people and take the time to answer so many messages with such good advice. I wish there were moe people like you in this world. Where i live, it's just the scum of the earth (and me, of course) that get hooked on drugs. I do not know another person other than dealers that are in the trouble that I am in. I have never been so scared in all of my life. I've dealt with addiction before but this oxy addiction has been a total nightmare.
I know you must feel so hurt right now . This is going to be a long road hun... She just needs to dust herself off and try again . Remind her how good thing were last week when she was back to her old soma free sally ,stick to your guns !!!!! ((((((((((((((((deb))))))))))))))))))
thank you. i am scared because we have such honest and good communication, i am afraid if i am too rigid it will drive her to be sneaky. i know being sneaky is her choice, but i really feel like we are in this together. is that wrong?
i feel like i put just as much effort in this (obviously in a different way) than she did. tell me i'm not crazy?????
It is exactly what I mean sweetheart. I think that is a very good start and stick to your guns. She does not want to lose you and will probably get help. It is going to be hard for you, but I know you two will make it through. You have to do this in your own way and what makes you feel comfortable. She has to want this bad. I am praying for you both.
Tim
she just called and told me she picked it up because she wanted to get high. so at least she is being honest. she also promised me that she wont use it every day and that she only wants it for once in a while. i stuck to my guns, you guys. i told her i dont want it in our house or in her posetion or in my posetion. i told her again to flush them and taking the soma once in a while would be like smoking pcp once in a while. it wont work. i told her to get on here and talk or call her therapist or our doc and really search her heart. i told her she is right back in the pool of denial. i told her it will basically take a miracle to change my mind.
this is what you mean by tough love right, tim?????
debs