vicoden question

[1968mustang]

My wife was addicted to Vicoden more than a year ago. I have more than just afeeling she's back on them again.

She has a deteriorating vertebre in and was in recently to see a specialist. I know the pain is real,
but I fear when she went in to genuinely check it out, she was offered a script and didn't turn it down.
During her addiction I discovered she was getting prescriptions from several doctors and using an on-line drug seller from Canada to get more. She fessed up to me afer I confronted and even informed the doctors involved so she couldn't shop them again. Her cell phone has been ringing lateley when I'm with her and she;s admitted that "its those people I hate" calling again. While she shrugs it off, and likely feels like that admission is close to the truth, I think she's using them again.

I need to know what these things look like or if they have a V symbol on them Not sure iwjhatf the Canadian (generic) looks like, I think she's hurt herself on purpose and is now contemplating going
to the doctor. We're sliding downhill fast. Please help. This is getting scary.

[1968mustang]

Hey, sorry your husband isn't more supportive. Though, when my wife went through this the first time I could have been MORE supportive. I'd discovered the pills and found out that the usage was increasing and that she'd been Dr. shopping the first time. I addresssed it, but it was more from a tone of anger and disappointment. Later, she came to me again and wrote me a very lengthy note about her relapse. I did a better job.
She was scared I wouldn't be there. I was. Her doctor helped her wean off and things were apparently fine. My support for her faded as I thought the problem was over. I never really knew if I should ask how she was doing later on, months down the road. We never re-visited the subject until now....and we haven't had it out in the open yet. I think she's scared to say anything (obviously). I am very tentative about bringing it up also. We are in a very raw place between us at present. I have no intention of being anything but supportive, but I don't always do it very well, at least in her eyes.  This time, finding the pills and putting together the signs of use again left me scrambling. I looked up various drugs on the net trying to find out what she was taking. I think they are Vicoden, but I have so many conflicting posts, I don't know. I would think that would be natural to gravitate back to what was used before, but I don't know. This relapse just hit me like a ton of bricks. The thought of losing her is unbearable. We've drifted for a long time and drifted apart. I really want to get past this and have a strong marriage. She's an absolutely wonderful person and mother, but she's off track now. Time is ticking and I don't want to look back at a black hole of time wasted.

I hope you can hang in there with your husband. Would he be open to marriage counselling instead of a drug rehab meeting? Who do you have for support? Do you have a pastor or priest to share with?  

Have you tried writing your thoughts to your husband? I know in my relationship, we sometime communicate better in writing. It eliminates "tone" that sometimes causes reactions during spoken communication. My wife can express herself well to me that way. I can at times, but not as well.  Have you just flat come out and told him I NEED YOUR HELP WITH THIS. WILL YOU PLEASE HELP ME? Sometimes I find it easier to
have it laid out on what my wife needs. For long term health, you are going to need him and likely others too. I hope you can find what you need to stay on track. 38 steps in the right direction have you in a better place, even though it's still a challenge. You deserve credit for your progress. Tell your husband you need his feedback and tell him you need his love.

[believe0509]

Not really, he thinks this can just go away...like alot of people do.  He feels I went through rehab now lets get on with our lives.  He did say he would go to a meeting with me, but the weather has been pretty funky in PA. and by the time I get home from work I am exhausted, but on the other hand if I take him to a meeting this is admitting to him that I am a drug addict and I don't think he could handle this so I keep it to myself.  It would be a huge help if I could confide in him, but I have ruined alot of trust so this is my fault.  What kind of communications did you and your wife have the last time you found out about her addiction...did she come to you (sorry if this is in one of your previous posts).  Why wouldn't she come to you now?  This stuff is tough on a marriage.  You can have all the support from a spouse, but sometimes enough is enough and one or the other will just throw in the towel.  I am very close to this so I have got to make myself well and with the help from God I know I will.

[1968mustang]

Congrats on 37 days clean, if I'm interpreting your post correctly. :-)  Good for you.
Do you and your husband have an ongoing discussion about the addiction and staying
clean? I'm unsure as to how to address this setback for my wife in the future. I don't know if bringing it up will make her feel ashamed, or if bringing it up will let know know I care?  Does excercise help to detox? My wife and I have discussed an exercise facility
nearby as a time for us together, just us.

Thanks for your reply. I was hoping to see a message from someone this morning.

Mustang

[believe0509]

My husbands job dictates his absense, he has always been married to his job first then me, but we were together 11 yrs before we got married almost 4 yrs ago and I knew he traveled, but it just made it easier for me to self medicate.  This does drive a wedge between a marriage no doubt, but if she is coming off of the pills she will get better and the two of you can get close again.  My husband and I are very close despite my addictions because we do love and need each other very much.

I am on day 37 and still want to crawl in bed after I put in 8.00 hrs of work, but if she is just a couple of weeks into this...she is extremely tired and distant, but this will pass its just the withdrawls,, but it will take some time.  Just respect her healing time and the fact that she may be embarrased and know that YOU cannot fix her.  Talk soon hang in there.

[1968mustang]

Hi Lucy, I checked the site and photo you mentioned. It's close, but not what I saw.
The pill was a beefier version, sribed in the middle. This pill looks smaller in diameter
to me. The V is similar, but I was sent to a link by someone else who claimed it was percocet (link is--www.pharmer.org/files/images/ed642eaf057775fe38b5dd1515a-797.jpg)
I have also had 2 people claim they have the pills in front of them with the V on them.
I'm wondering if the V is a specific pharmacy imprint and they offer all types of meds?
All of the info conflicts.

I do appreciate your info though

Thank you.

Mustang

[lucyred68]

I realize this is an old post, but for everyon's info, from the pill description she is taking a muscle relaxer called methocarbanol.  i looked it up at drugs.com.  they have pictures of the pills. you type in a description, and they come up with a bunch of pictures.  i found the pill you described on the third page of pictures.