Why r people judgemental?

[ang_811]

It frustrates me so much when I hear people judgng people in recovery or bc they were addicts in the past? Y is that? Y Im bringing this up is bc we have a new girl at work now and on her application she put on (where it asks u what speacial iterest or classes u take) that she goes to na meetings. Well it get out at workand people r making rude comments like , better watch ur stuff, I can't beleive they would hire someone like that, it's getting on my nerves!!! Y would neone make someone feel bad about the fact that they r making a better life for theirselves? What would they think of me? I'm tappering off suboxone and couldn't be doing better. Those things really hurt my feelings!! (no one knows about my having an addiction) would they talk badly about someone gettiNg kemo for cancer? I just had to vent a lill.. Kinda interested in what everyone thinks...

[gizzy32]

Ya know, when I was younger and before I had ever picked up a drug, I turned my nose down at druggies and thought they were scum. Karma, haha cause I become a druggie, drunk, addict, but for the most part I functioned and went to work everyday and not many knew how bad drugs had a hold on me until I completely bottomed out and almost died. Now that I have been through this, I have the upmost compassion for addicts and can now see that MOST are really good people with a disease that can take us down fast.

Noboby has a right to judge until they have walked in someone shoes. Those co workers have no right to yap and I would tell them to **** off lol. Who cares what others think, I have learned that through recovery and I am proud of you all. WE ARE STRONG and have a lot to be proud and thankful for now

[dominosarah]

You look at those close minded people, shake your head and be glad you arent like that.  People who do that are just not educated about addiction.  I have found that people who react like that are very threatened by us as they dont understand.  Addicts are very stereotyped as they expect us to be living on skid row.  They only see what has been portrayed about addicts.  That is why i am not afraid to tell people i am a recovering addict.  Addiction is rising at an alarming rate.  I want people to understand that this happens to ALL walks of life, rich, poor, young or old and that we are good people.     sara

[ang_811]

Great advice mark but I can't befreind her anymore bc she never showed for her shift yesterday, which I don't blame her, so she isn't working there nemore. I feel badly for her but what r u going to do with close minded people?

[gnarly_1]

HI ang ...it su##s how people look down upon addicts epically those in recovery ..this is a very treatable disease with aftercare....im sorry you work with such close minded people
sometimes the ones with the most problems point out others to make there character defects seam less apparent dont let this get you down but if you can befriend this girl
she could use it you dont necessarily have to tell her your secret but just being there
for someone is enough I think there will always be a stigma attached to addiction you just need to look past it and not let it effect you ...I know I have told non addicts that im an addict and I could see by there expression they dident get it but thats not my problem
as Lisa said our character will shine and people will really see what where made of
we might just have to work a little harder at it then the non addict ..be true to yourself
god bless.....Gnarly  

[ang_811]

I've actually read where addiction, once ur n it, is a brain disease...

[OIFMc09]

Hey Ang,

Well cancer and addiction aren't exactly the same thing.  A lot of people think that the whole "addiction is a disease" thing is bu*lshi#.  If I was that girl I wouldn't have written that on my application.  Maybe once you're hired and feel comfortable with the people you work with you could bring it up, but until then it's unnecessary.

[10356]

HI ang.. I feel bad for the girl but Proud of her being accountable for herself.. People are judgmental. I have only told my family a few close friends and my sister.. ones who know me best and are in the position of offering support.. also my Dr. although I would tell if asked, if they judge me so be it my character will prove the better.. as yours would and as this girl from works will. take care. lesa

[ang_811]

I forgot to add this is the reasone y I haven't said anything to neone about my being addicted to pills I'm scarred of how people will react..