I came clean and got shot down!

[HedHurtz]

I have posted here before as a Fioricet and Adderall addict. I see that some people have read it. Well, I came clean to my husband last night. I wish ANYONE could have been a fly on the wall for this converstaion. It went down like this. First, I must tell you my husband is a DEA agent in Miami, so telling him was definitely rough. I told him that I take too many pills and that I want and need to quit. He said that he already knew, but he though that I seemed fine, taking care of our 3 month old daughter just fine and that other that spending too much money all was JUST FINE. Okay, I said that I'm not fine and I need to go into detox. He absolutely refused to let me go! He said there is no way that I could go, noone could take care of our baby and he could not do it himself. I would have to detox at home. I said, I could try to do it but I will need help. He said...(get this) just stop and take a couple of shot s of Vodka if I get shaky. So here I am, he's at work....I have Vodka and a 3 month old. Thank God I have a few pills left. He took the rest that I didn't have hidden. I cannot beleive this! What the hell am I in for?

[J.B. to Brian and Vicky]

In my experience, the more you come down on a situation like this, the farther you will drive someone away from you.  I think that most parents will agree with this.  As much as it hurts, you have to let the person work things out on their own terms lest we become just as controlling.  I'll stay out of this one from now on and watch what happens.  Good luck to Hedhertz!  J.B.

[cindi]

I do have to agree with you when you say this is something for Dr. Steve, I don't think anyone here has meant to hurt hedhertz, She came to this forum for obvious reasons and we all put in our 2 cents worth whether you disagree with it or not, She does not have to take any advice, and to be honest I don't think she will,  as pretty much indicated in her last post,  Her husband is her life,  Now, she needs to do what she needs to do.  As far as the "man" thing goes, I don't think this was the intent of anybody here, to bash the men  to be honest with you that is not what women gather to do at tea time.  so no, we don't always focus on the male bashing.   It just so happened that in this case hedhertz had stated her husband refused to let her get treatment,  My big thing is why does a grown woman have to "be allowed" to do something.  However, you are absolutely right when you say that none of us knows what is really going on,  We did take what she told us about the guns etc.  We read what she told us and we became concerned and afraid for her safety and for that baby, and for us to not be concerned would not be human.   All of us in this forum cannot agree on everything, not one of us is absolutely right and not one of us is entirely wrong, You as well as the rest of us are entitled to our own opinions and that is what we gave, opinions, she asked, we answered, to make us out to sound like we are some kind of male bashing feminist group looking for an ax to grind is ridiculous.and yeah, some of us may have issues re: the DEA but I couldn't give a rat's ass if he was Christ himself, The woman portrayed him as a controlling gun fiend that she was obligated to OBEY...were we misinformed?  possibly, but honestly   I think we all really cared about this woman and did the best we could do to try and help her in even some small way and I don't feel it was a bit uncompassionate or unconstructive and if you didn't have anything to really say to her why did you feel so compelled to blast all of us? This had nothing to do with you or anybody in your family involved with law enforcement but yet you seem to have taken all of this so very personally...We all really do see things in very different ways.

[PS >>>>Annie]

.....Man u talk about the proverbial pot calling the kettle black.  You seem to have a great deal of anger bound up.  We only responded aggressively, mirroring her detailed account of the situation.  We are all friends here.  That includes you, I hope.
As far as the DEA.....There are bad apples in every walk of life.
I'm sure they are not ALL bad. Don't take it personal.  We all have our personal opinions on the DEA.  Mine happens to be it's involvement in medical field. You stated that there efforts were valid in some cases. If we tilt the boat to far to the left or to far right....then we loose a few lives.  The key is balance.  That doesn't seem to be happening in this country.  
This is also my argument...When we "police medicine" as we have, it also affect treatments for addiction.  Man this is serious stuff.  We are talking lives here.  So forgive us, if show a little holy anger from time to time.  Lives, dude....lives!
Conclude w/ this scenario....Doctors are free to treat chronic pain as they see fit, and people are pouring into dr's ofc's getting help for addiction from methadone, etc......I'd say the DEA could go on a long vacation.  But that cost money doesn't it???  Chill out.  Take a deep breath, man.

Annie

[Brighty]

Annie... the testimony of Dr. Hurwitz was gripping. Do you know the outcome of his case ?? Where is he now and what is he doing?

I wonder if he had a counter action ??  Anyway, thanks, it was a thought provoking article.

LOL.. sharks... great whites, sand sharks, card sharks, loan sharks.... :-))

Cindi.... always covering the bases !! :-)) Man bashing... seems our men here also "bashed" the man :-)) You hit the nail... seems like Hedhurtz is still not ready...which is also ok... it takes time and courage... I pray she finds it.

Love, Brighty

[Brighty]

This is what forums are famous for... open discussions about topics... all facets... it's not a right or wrong thing.. just a point of view thing... we all stated our ideas both good and not so good... you were a catalyst for interesting discussion !! That's good in my opinion.

Now the biggie ..... are you a male of female ??? Well I thought hedhurtz was a male at first... and Francoise a female... and Francoise was dating models and flight attendants... so I figure now she/he's a man !!! :-))) I have discovered it's not safe to assume anyhting anymore !! :-)) Just curious before we tackle the "man" bashing issue :-))) which has nothing to do with addiction medicine or religion for that matter :-))
Please come to the forum and send us a smile :-)) Love, Brighty

[Brighty]

I am still laughing my ass off over the butch haircut thing !!! You are a genuine article !!! How are you doing lately ??? Love, Brighty