Be careful lil'l toung what you say!!!

[outotown]

Ive been on this site for almost 2 months and see so many ?s as what the limit of a drug is or how dangerous is doing a certain thing like people are wanting us or someone to say that its ok, then they feel it is alright to do something. Almost everytime most tell them like it is and thats good, but everynow and then someone will same as say if you do something a certain way its not that dangerous. This is a site to help people get clean and stay that way. Not to help people get thier jolly's by doing drugs in a safer way. Also a good friend of mine was hurt reall bad because she said something that soeone else didnot see things the way they did. THIS SITE IS A SAFE HAVEN for us and in time of rehab and detox is not a place to kick someone while they are down. My friend left here cuz of being kicked I NEEDED THEM AND THEY NEEDED THIS SITE. Please lets be carful ok!!!

[worried878]

true domino...there r days when i am touchy/nuttin to do with addiction/just after a tough day even the slightest thing can be misconstrued...but during detox and for a while after..the mood is dark alot of the time..and u got a group full of people here who are at various stages of recovery and many still in detox mode..guess if u look at it like that, we really have less ugly stuff written here than would be expected! Holy cow!  really if u think about it..lots of people here r depressed or anxious, night after night with little sleep...legs kicking all over the place when they lay down. running to the bathroom every 5 minutes til their buttocks is raw and hemerhoids start popping out, many trying to make it to work thru all of this, some with an angry significant other,   when u think about it, we do pretty darn good!  LOL   not funny / one of this is funny...sorry bout the LOL but in a way it is ok to smile about the precicament we put ourselves in sometimes!  May as well cos it is sumpin we gotta go thru to get clean and all of us here can relate...guess in a way we do pretty good tho

[dominosarah]

There is a difference between constructive criticism and negative.  There is also a time for tough love......this is an addiction forum and the truth needs to be spoken.  I dont agree to the calling of names or the pure lack of respect.  Each person is an individual and we all need to remember that just becuz one of us can take the heat that person maybe cant at that moment.  Good post by the way!!!          sara

[outotown]

I have said something on here that was done with good intented and it was taken wrong by the one I responded to I said I was sorry shook hands so to speak and went on. While we are writing we dont see jesters or expressions so lets be very careful from now on not to say anything that might be taken wrong or sometimes just out right hurtful.

[nick30]

yeah i agree wholeheartedly. I have difficulty putting my words on the net the way i mean them, and they often get taken the wrong way(ok, and every now and then i'm just a bit of an idiot). So to anyone i've offended, sorry. and please try to remember my
net-dyslexia. I usually don't mean any harm.

[worried878]

My momma always said..if u cant say sumpin nice, then dont say anything at all...it is true tho, when typin or textin, communication can get twisted and people can pick up the wrong message when the person did not mean it to come off that way...if someone wants to have a serious talk with me, i refuse to do it via email or texts, and  as of late the world seems to be leaning towards voiceless communication....not always a good thing tho...here on the forum, there is no choice, so we do have to be careful of what we type...and I have also seen some pretty nasty stuff said on here directed at people and it is so childish..
I do agree as a certain post(s) came to mind about IV drug abuse which I did not find therapuedic at all..was almost like the person was bragging about knowing the IV lingo...I dont really like it when people come on here trying to find out how to pass a drug test, etc when they r not trying to quit...forum abuse really...i really try to avoid posts when I dont feel I have anything positive to say...using while pregnant is one I avoid...dont even open those up ...but we r all here to help each other/a great group who really sticks together...and I wish more people would stay and add their experience and advice to newbies on the forum...good post and I feel this is a good topic to be thrown out there

[imanaddict]

I was reading a post from about a year and half ago yesterday, and oh man it was HEATED!! I was thinking the same thing. That sometimes things are said and can be taken as hurtful or just downright mean. I also think that sometimes things can be taken out of context because the things we are saying is being read by someone else, not spoken, so it can come across way different than intended.

[kim715]

I second that Amen!!!!!!!!

[SophieShine]

Amen to that!!!

[beatingthis]

Here Here!! Well said!


Terry