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No Posts? Am i kicked out?
I posted this morning, i am going through some bad stuff, and i know my post from last week was removed, but, i was in alot of issues, husband being abusive, etc. but now no one wants to talk to me. I thought you guys were on here to help people, not ignore them. I thought the Forum was supposed to help people through w/d's and bad times, well, im having a bad time............so you ignore me................i am truly hurt, this is one place i can vent, so i vented, and now no one wants to talk to me...tired of oxys, where are you girl, i need to hear from you. Im am truly crushed............im sorry about posting that nite, but my husband was totally out of control, i need to get to that doctor for my back, and get better. You all seem like your upset with me, whats the deal, ive seen worse posts on here, alot worse...talk to me somebody. thanks ................a whole bunch
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I can feel some of the frustration from a few of you and it is justified so i will just say this, Take what you need and leave the rest. This is the time when we learn to pick our battles. Hope this helps a bit~~sara
Yeah, Kat said it so well. I spent an hour last night writing and then erasing, writing then erasing trying very hard to tone down the fury I was feeling. To me, the remark "just addict behavior" sounded as if we should all just dismiss her because she's just a lowly addict not worthy of consideration. Life is hard enough as it is, it shouldn't be humiliating too.
Kat~~ Nicely stated. No one feels more alone than an addict who's actively using or actively recovering. It's very hard and we DO get needy. Being loved and supported is paramount. If we aren't getting it,we're begging for it! Many of the feelings "wannabfre2b"
was expressing are part of the human condition and not particular to addicts alone. We all here know that; well almost all of us...
was expressing are part of the human condition and not particular to addicts alone. We all here know that; well almost all of us...
I have seen several posts from various people that seem rude and short. I agree with Kels Eye and Vicki. We are here for support compassion and this forum is MY online fellowship. This forum gave me the strength and courage to attend my NA meetings. Yes Brother Frankie we are addicts. Yes we have addict behavior. And yes we DO deserve and CRAVE compassion and sympathy from our peers on this forum. While I believe you are doing your best to be a man of God I also believe you are still learning what that exactly means. God IS forgiveness and compassion and sympathy. Atleast MY God is. We do not need reminders from you or ANYBODY that we are addicts and thus display addict behavior. We need reminders that we are loved. Not alone. And that no matter what we can ALWAYS come to this forum for comfort advice whatever we need. We dont need to be condemed and written off as oh thats just addict behavior. We have already admitted we are addicts and we are doing our best to change the behavior. Forgive our humanity.
Thanks for the support everyone, we dont need the "looking down our nose syndrome" on here, we come on here for help, NOT condemnation, thats why i put that bible verse in the end of my post. Im just trying to get along , and understand where this "man of God" is coming from. This is a med help forum, and the last thing we need is someone preaching down our throats. thanks you guys, that made my day. Have a good weekend. and GOD BLESS US ADDICTS...amen
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I'm glad to hear your finally going to take a few days away and go to some meetings with your sister. I think if your comfortable you might want to share your story and get some feedback from the people there. There's a really good chance that one or more of the women have been right in your shoes and can share some insight and advice on how to go about turning your life around. Is there any way you could stay with your sister for awhile? I just hate to think of you spending even one more day in the environment your in. I know how bad you WANT him to care. I remember crying and thinking how the hell can you treat me like this? Why don't you love me enough to stop? And those thoughts would fuel my own depression and make me feel worse about myself. A vicious cycle for sure. Thing is it has nothing to do with you. I know that sounds wrong but this is a problem HE has with himself that he projects onto you. He takes all that self hate, loathing, guilt and sorrow and turns it on you and you internalize every bit of it. It makes him feel better to lash out and blame everyone else then to have to face the truth about himself. You cannot move forward in recovery or in life while tied to a situation thats destroying you in every way. See if you can stay at your sisters and go to meetings with her and get help. Nothing changes if nothing changes, you need to be the one to shake things up and take control of your recovery. Yes it's frightening and I know how hard it is to admit that it's done but I promise that by leaving you will open many doors for yourself. Staying in a toxic relationship will just slowly destroy you. I pray you get out of there asap.