is driving kids while detoxing safe?

[libbybolt]

My husband just admitted last week in counseling that he has been taking 15mg oxycodone 6-7 times a day.
I am stunned by this news but more importantly concerned that he has been driving the children around.  He refuses ti give me the name(s) of any of his doctor(s) who can assure me he is safe to drive. I know now from a friend who is a pharmacist that he is on record of buying several oxy Rx's  at several pharms in our area...so i know his addiction is far more serious than he lets on.  Further- he is on day 3 of detoxing with suboxone and clonidine and 800 mgs ibiprofen. Ihe has become enraged when ive asked him to pls not drive the kids  untilbhe can provide skme facts that it is safe.  Tonight he threatened to stay home with the kids 24 hours a day to keep them from me.  J am a fulltime mom of iur 4 kids and i am very afraid he will hurt us or me. Is this behavior normal for a detoxing person?  If so I dont think its okay tk deyox at home. Help me understand thjs stuff!

[libbybolt]

Thanks Dan.  How right you were.  April 17 I ended up calling 911.  there's still a protective order in place and he's been arrested three times.  Still claims he took three days' of subox and is clean.  I don't believe a word he says, although we cannot speak to each other with the OoP in place.  We just have to fight it out in court.  

I just wanted you to know how very prophetic and on target your comments were.

[libbybolt]

Thanks for your comment in April when I first wrote that.  I guess I should've clarified that he didn't even tell me he was detoxing or planning to detox until the night I wrote that (April 16).  I just thought he was sleeping all darn day over the weekend =- which is not unusual behavior for him.

Update:  on April 17, things escalated out of control and I had to call 911.  We have an order of protection against him that is still in place two+ months later.  He claims he has tested clean and that he actually never had a problem.  He can say this because our counselor refuses to testify, so he knows I can't prove it BEYOND the pages and pages of Hydro and oxy and propoxyphene rx's in his prescription records.  
This is a living nightmare.  He had supervised visitation last weekend, drove the kids, went of fproperty, etc. (court ordered to not do those things), was arrested the THIRD time for violation of order of protection.  

My question to you is...Could he really be clean if his behavior has not changed and now he is denying everything and trying to get full costody of the kids (he didn't know the kids' bdays or even ONE of their teachers when questioned under oath).  Kids say he's super-shaky and a different person (in a weird way).  Tan, ripped, beard, newly redecorated house, new pets, new pictures, entire new wardrobe, etc. New life - so he doesn't have to deal with old one.

He and I haven't spoken since April 17 - we are fighting it out in court.  

He said he took 3 days of suboxone and he was done.  Just like that.  Could that be?

[ayla60]

Call a local Woman's Shelter and talk to someone who will be able to answer these concerns. Your doctor and your therapist are clueless. Talking with someone in Narcotics Anonymous would be intelligent on this subject also. Search online for contact information. Good luck to you.

[bahamamama13165]

Try to have some patience with hin and prais whim for admitted his problem and starting to detox.  His emotions will be crazy during detox.  I can't answer your question on whether he should be driving on his detox meds.  Maybe you could call a nurse hotline.  Is the anyway the kids can stay with someone else for a week.(maybe their grandparents) Just tell him you want to give him a break so he can sleep a lot and get thru the detox.

[forgottensick]

It doesn`t sound like a good situation and from what you`ve said, he will be busted and end up in jail before too much longer. If he is hiding things from you then I believe it is much worse than he it letting on. Other will come on and give you some ideas. Hang in there for now and try not to upset him anymore. He`ll burn himself from what you`ve said.
Dan