The woman I cut off went crazy. I really stood up for myself and said no more!

[catlover8]

Hey all! I have been eager to post to you since last night so I can fill you all in on what happened after I told my "friend" no more. I changed my number, and I thought I was pretty much in the clear. Then somehow, she started calling and texting my best friend. She told her that if she did not give her my number, she would show up at my job. I am a teacher, so my school would take this kind of thing really seriously. So, I freaked and told my other friend who is a guy to call her and just lay it out there. Tell her I am sick and that I just need to get away from her to get better. No hard feelings. Please just leave me alone. He did and she started threatening to kill herself. So, he told her that if she came to my work, we would call the police. All night she hounded my friends cell phone telling him to just give her money for one month. She needs help. I am a terrible person for leaving her high and dry when I said she was my friend. I have told her a lot of secrets in the past, and she was threatening ot tell these secrets. Big things that would end my friendship with this guy. And probably my marriage. So, I just kept waiting for the other shoe to drop. She kept saying she was going to tell him everything if I did not give her money. My friend tired everything. Politely asking her to stop and then telling her we would involve the police. Eventually we got a text from her BF that said things had gone too far and he was sorry. She would not be contacting us again. We said thank you and moved on. I am hoping it is over. It was so emotionally draining. Guys, I do not owe her one cent. I never took anything without paying. I simply refuse to pay her rent this month and not be committed to this. I want to be sober, not drugged up and paying her bills. My quit date is Thursday. I am scared, but even more convicted than before after how crazy she got. I would never want to put myself in that situation again. I am now surprised at myself with my first couple of posts when I said I wasn't sure if I should cut her off or just try to leave it be. Obviosuly, with recovering addicts, we need to give all out sources up. Cut them off! I made the right choice. I am sure of that. It was super hard, but I am not one step closer. Not a one source is left, so I am setting myself up for success. I will follow the Thomas Recipe to the T. Thank you for listening.

[Calamity2]

GO TIGER!!!!  I mean catlover.  Good job. Congrats on your decision. How many pills are your taking daily until thursday?

[moonshyne777]

I'm so glad she's out of your hair and I think she now knows you mean business. This woman is purely toxic to you and the fact you have cut her loose is the first step in regaining your life. I'm set to go ct tommorow and although I've been filled with anxiety all day I'm finally calming down a little and giving myself all sorts of little pep talks and reading the posts here just reinforces my determination to get clean.

Don't stress yourself about your secrets, just concentrate on getting clean and as someone else said, I'm sure the rest will fall into place. And getting to a few NA meetings would probably be a great idea, try and find the one that feels right to you and no doubt you get get lots of help there and this place is amazing for support.

WE WILL DO THIS!!! And kudos to you for taking those first steps neccessary in getting your life back. That took balls and you have the courage needed to do this! I also got all my stuff for the Thomas recipe and am ready to conquer! ;)

[Tamethepain]

Hey kitty cat! Your "friend" is a world class manipulator & you are better off without her. She sounds as though she is mentally unstable & needs help. Are you sure she isn't using something? At some point her source will dry up. Eventually the pharmacies she procures from will get wise & she will get busted. I myself am flagged as my insurance company noticed how many were being filled & cut me off thank God! Please also remember that we own our own baggage & problems. Her threats of killing herself over something you have done (or not done in this case) are unfair & unrealistic. Please keep moving forward. You also need to face up to some of these awful "secrets" that you think she holds over you. I'll bet once you have some clean time they won't seem so huge & you can address the one at a time. At AA & NA that is part of the steps. Seek out a meeting as you sound like you could use the "live" support. Good luck! XOXOX

[dominosarah]

How are you feeling today?  Sounds like you have a really good supportive friend.  That is what you need to surround yourself with.  Keep it going~~~~~sara

[catlover8]

It is now Sunday, and I am pretty sure she is leaving it be. Maybe if I had not changed my number, she would have kept on calling, but she can't call me. When I have my I am scared moments and I get a little depressed, I just remind myself that I have cut ties for a reason and that she showed me why when I did cut ties. She cared nothing about me or my health. Only about herself and how she would get money. I am still in awe that she kept asking my friend who was taking up for me to help her with money. He was dumbfounded. If it wasn't for his love and support, I could not do this. He told me he loves me so much that he would give his life for me, so making a call to help me get healthy is a small thing.

[pharma9]

You did a wonderful thing by refusing to talk to your former dealer.The school could not fire you now if you are clean can they?More reason to be clean as soon as possible because if she carries through with her threats she is the one who is breaking the law,not youKeep strong and be a good example to your students.You really have no choice but to go forward and make sure you are clean.Lots of love  to you in your healing.

[fuzzypeach27]

Its a bog deal cutting of you source. Once you've done this you are now official saying that's me done and dusted no going back. I pray she will leave you alone. If she does bother you again tell her to post med help and we will kick her *** for you. You did the right thing and were amazing to stay strong and not give in even though with all they threats. You stayed true to yourself. Some people don't want others to get clean for many reasons. My most important day was cancelling my meds from doctor. No going back now I thought.

GOOD FOR YOU !!!!!

[dominosarah]

Hopefully she will leave you alone now.  Glad you cut off your source. There may come a time when you will run into her and then you can tell her face to face if she says anything.  I had a person in my past who loved to think blackmail would work and it did for quite some time.  Only when i cleaned up did i see these were idle threats as he was the one holding the pills, not me.......Dont fear the wd's, they are no fun but you are making the first step to a new life of freedom.......sara