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What is she using now?
My girlfriend has been a heroin user for 3 months until she admitted herself to the local hospital. The hospital sent her to a rehab clinic where she stayed for 3 days of detox. The doctors there prescribed suboxone, which seems to have worked great for her as she didn't experience any withdrawals. She started looking totally different (in a great way) and is very proud of her accomplishment to get sober.
However, the past couple of days, she went back close to the city where she used to get her dope and would act very strange when she comes back. She also asks me for money but I have no idea what she goes and buy but I know it's not legit. She would get very upset with me when I question her and I very carefully look at her arms and there are no fresh needle marks. Also, she takes suboxone in front of me. Is there a way that she is already back on heroin or is she using another drug now? If so, what drugs can one use while on suboxone?
However, the past couple of days, she went back close to the city where she used to get her dope and would act very strange when she comes back. She also asks me for money but I have no idea what she goes and buy but I know it's not legit. She would get very upset with me when I question her and I very carefully look at her arms and there are no fresh needle marks. Also, she takes suboxone in front of me. Is there a way that she is already back on heroin or is she using another drug now? If so, what drugs can one use while on suboxone?
All I can say is: You are a wonderful man. You obviously love this girl very much.
Being a crazy romantic myself,I hope this all works out...for her sake. I hope she knows what she's got!!
I wish you all the best...you deserve it. Please keep posting when you can.
We'll be here...
Vicki
Being a crazy romantic myself,I hope this all works out...for her sake. I hope she knows what she's got!!
I wish you all the best...you deserve it. Please keep posting when you can.
We'll be here...
Vicki
There has been some major developments to this story the past couple of days. We spent both days together and I have used many advices from here.
First, thanks to all of you for your concerns and advice and here is what I have.
As soon as we met up, I said we arent going anywhere until I, 1) see the suboxone 2) see you administer it appropriately. She immediately pulled it out of bag, put it under her tongue and let it dissolve. She had absolutely no reaction whatsoever.She again reassured me that she will never do heroin again and that to this day, she still doesn't understand how she ever did that. So far, I believe that she is no longer doing that.
Second, I wanted a valid explanation as to why she needed money twice to go close to the city. She said that she owed her aunt money because she was getting her the drugs and she wanted to pay it off so it can serve as some sort of closure. I know for a fact that her aunt is a user and used to provide her with the drugs at her own house. Both times she went by there, she met her aunt at her job, not her house (I am certain of that).
Third, I wanted some explanation on how she got the job so quickly and she said that they only gave her a Sales Associate position and that I am welcome to call when she starts next Friday. Also, coincidentally, as we were driving, another job she applied for called and asked her a dozen questions and invited her for an interview Monday.
Some of you said that she can find a way to get placed without a car but I can assure you that it is virtually impossible for her to go anywhere. She lives in a small mountain community and she walks 2 miles just to buy a pack of cigarettes. So based on all these facts, I went ahead and bought her a car so she can get on her feet. It was an inexpensive car for her to get started. If she blows these chances, I am confident and relieved that I tried everything in my power to "resuscitate" this girl.
Last but not least, she insisted that I meet her parents and while I was hesitant at first based on unfair comments they made about me, I went to their house and it was delighting to talk to them. They pretty much have the same concerns I have and are on their last bit of rope. We all said the same thing, if she turns it around, we'll all be there for her but the second she slips, she will be shown the door and they have no problem doing that.
Ladies and gentlemen, I don't think I am out of the woods as there are still alot of questions to be answered and there are still suspicions out there. She still takes extended bathroom breaks, she still tries to hide text messages from me (and no, I don't believe she is unfaithful), she still doesn't sleep at night and she is still extremely negative about life. If this works out for her, I would be the proudest man alive, if it doesn't, at least I know I did everything I could for her and would not hesitate to turn the page for good.
First, thanks to all of you for your concerns and advice and here is what I have.
As soon as we met up, I said we arent going anywhere until I, 1) see the suboxone 2) see you administer it appropriately. She immediately pulled it out of bag, put it under her tongue and let it dissolve. She had absolutely no reaction whatsoever.She again reassured me that she will never do heroin again and that to this day, she still doesn't understand how she ever did that. So far, I believe that she is no longer doing that.
Second, I wanted a valid explanation as to why she needed money twice to go close to the city. She said that she owed her aunt money because she was getting her the drugs and she wanted to pay it off so it can serve as some sort of closure. I know for a fact that her aunt is a user and used to provide her with the drugs at her own house. Both times she went by there, she met her aunt at her job, not her house (I am certain of that).
Third, I wanted some explanation on how she got the job so quickly and she said that they only gave her a Sales Associate position and that I am welcome to call when she starts next Friday. Also, coincidentally, as we were driving, another job she applied for called and asked her a dozen questions and invited her for an interview Monday.
Some of you said that she can find a way to get placed without a car but I can assure you that it is virtually impossible for her to go anywhere. She lives in a small mountain community and she walks 2 miles just to buy a pack of cigarettes. So based on all these facts, I went ahead and bought her a car so she can get on her feet. It was an inexpensive car for her to get started. If she blows these chances, I am confident and relieved that I tried everything in my power to "resuscitate" this girl.
Last but not least, she insisted that I meet her parents and while I was hesitant at first based on unfair comments they made about me, I went to their house and it was delighting to talk to them. They pretty much have the same concerns I have and are on their last bit of rope. We all said the same thing, if she turns it around, we'll all be there for her but the second she slips, she will be shown the door and they have no problem doing that.
Ladies and gentlemen, I don't think I am out of the woods as there are still alot of questions to be answered and there are still suspicions out there. She still takes extended bathroom breaks, she still tries to hide text messages from me (and no, I don't believe she is unfaithful), she still doesn't sleep at night and she is still extremely negative about life. If this works out for her, I would be the proudest man alive, if it doesn't, at least I know I did everything I could for her and would not hesitate to turn the page for good.
I have to maybe rephrase what I said I would like to hear that you are still helping her because it seems as though she needs you however I do not think you should get her a car. People find a way to work with out a vehicle, it ***** but it can be done. The child needs someone for sure and if she wants to be clean she needs to know that there is someone there who wants her to be clean as well.
U need 2 google an Al-anon meeting, u can NOT get her a car, apartment etc. This is enabling. By her continuing 2 get all she needs she WILL NOT get the help. She will not feel she is that bad off and will continue the self destruction. U are not helping her by getting her those things. At these meetings there is people with loved ones who have gone thru and no exactly what u need 2 do! And give u the support u need.
U can help her child, "What is the best interest of the child?" 4 the child's sake, only u should stay in touch 2 continue monitoring what and where she is going with her child. Who's watching her while she's going 2 work? That's a scary thought.(If she isn't now speaking 2 her parent's?) If the child is in danger u have 2 call CPS or where is the father?
I'll be praying 4 u and her and the child, keep us posted!
U can help her child, "What is the best interest of the child?" 4 the child's sake, only u should stay in touch 2 continue monitoring what and where she is going with her child. Who's watching her while she's going 2 work? That's a scary thought.(If she isn't now speaking 2 her parent's?) If the child is in danger u have 2 call CPS or where is the father?
I'll be praying 4 u and her and the child, keep us posted!
Vicki-I forgot about the two hour distance. I guess he could ask her when she starts work and then call her. If they say nobody by that name works there he has his answer.
Listen its sounds like you have already done everything you can she has to want to get clean .You have to TAKECARE OF YOU .Its not your job to spend the rest of your life trying to convince her to get clean .She has to hit her rock bottom and who knows when that might be .You need to move on with your life ... Maybe she will get clean and down the road if depending on where you are in your life maybe then you could work something out .However I would stop putting your life on hold .
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