boyfriend is not going to change

[dove3053]

It's very clear to me that my boyfriend is not going to change. He accused me of drinking yesterday, to justify him getting pills. I have given it my best to help him and I have no more to give and don't really care anymore.

I can see if he doesn't move out soon this will drag me down. It's depressing enough to see him sitting around doing nothing.  I call it "Romancing the Pill". That all he wants and could care less about me. I think he saw it in my attitude yesterday.

How do I get him to leave without any major scenes. It scares me somewhat what he will do when I tell him to hit the road?

Dove

[taekwondo_fighter]

you are scared for what he will do to you when you tell him to hit the road, or what he will do to himself?

[worried878]

yey...if u want him gone u can do it!  He may not take it well as now he may have to fend for himself....you seem to be making alot of healthy changes since you quit...good for you

[GoingToMakeIt]

Good luck with this. Stay strong in your decision. Change the keys for your locks too.

[mintz]

You may have to get the authorities involved.  I would tell him why you want him to leave and give him a DATE he needs to leave and THEN if he does not leave file a petition or get the womans shelter involved (free) and they can get him evicted and help get a restraining order so he can't come within 100 yards of you or your place.

[avisg]

you can do this hun ,it has been a long time coming it is time to take care of you now .....

[VicUser]

I can tell you are defiantly making moves to make your life better. That’s great, keep going, you are doing a good job.

[dove3053]

I want him to leave on his own without involving anyone else. I also would like him to realize why he has to go.

Dove

[Flutterby111]

DO you have any big guys friends that can play the "bouncer" when you ask him to leave and escort him out?  Gosh, that's a scary situation.  People on drugs are so testy, to say the least.  My little sister is in the same situation, kind of...alcohol though.  We all hate him and want him to leave, but she'll do it when she's ready.

[dove3053]

It's a condo and the deed has been in my name for 15 years, long before I ever knew this man.  He has in the past made some threats about 4 things he can use against me. I asked him a few days later and he said he just made it up.

I have enough to deal with and I just made my mind up this morning---it's over for good. I'm firm in where I stand on this.

Dove

[toxictome]

Have the police there ?!?!? Didn'tyou say he's on probation...or is that another story??
Well...if he is ..that should get him moving!!!

God..i am SOO confused!!!!trying to keep all these stories straight!

I know this has been an ongoing issue for you...I wish i could help in some way....

stay STRONG and STAND your ground....~hugs~

[deceasedwithin]

have you tried other options before just leaving him? pill addiction is a hard struggle and sometimes you dont even realize what your getting yourself into until its to late. He needs help.

[deceasedwithin]

have you tried other options before just leaving him? pill addiction is a hard struggle and sometimes you dont even realize what your getting yourself into until its to late. He needs help.

[mintz]

You are doing the right thing if he is a "druggie"  is this your place?  Do you rent or own?  What is he taking?