cocaine

[desperate0503]

My husband is a cocaine addict. Is there any hopein getting him to stop? The longest he stopped was for 6mths and not by his own choice I don't think. He is always full of promises and regrets, but chooses to do it again the next week.

[marcdmoz]

If you really want to help him, you would do the right thing. What I mean is you should have already contacted a drug treatment center, so they could take care of him. It'll be for him, if you can't convince him, let the rehab facilitators/doctors do it. I used to be a cocaine addict too, but when I was convinced by my parents to go to a drug treatment center in Florida, I didn't hesitate to go. Don't let other people be the ones to take him there.

[mike122166]

i was in the same boat for a long time.i started when i had sergery to my knee and was on percocets.i loved them and when there was no more,i went into withdrawels and they are hell.then i went to heroin for about 6 months .i went to mental heath clinic in my county and they paid some of my treatment.i was on methadone,started in 11-2005 till present.im still on it because im scared of the withdrawels from the methadone because its worse than the heroin.i am in detox from methadone now,im at 32mg a day now ,down from 95mg.i let them do 1mg per week so i dont go into withdrawels.i notice that my cronic knee pain is coming back some due to the downgrade in methadone.i did for a while snort cocaine and while doing so at night had bad burning type pain from bottom of nose to the top gums in my mouth.i looked in the mirror and up my nose and noticed white looking ,looked like coke on the inside middle of my nose.i tryed to take a qtip and get it off and it wasnt coke,it was the grissle in the middle thats between the 2 nostrils.that scared the hell out of me and i made my mind up then,no more for this boy.i look at it like this,my son shouldnt have to worry of his daddy dying or getting ill from any mind altering substance and he knew something was going on because he talked to my wife,when i found out it killed my heart inside.when u really love your child its a love feeling like no other.it doesnt even compare to when u fell in love with your spouse.he is my life,when he hurts i hurt also and im not gonna do that to him.he always tells me i love u daddy,i allways him also no matter where we are.most boys dont do that in front of friends ,but he does and i know he loves me as i do him.i cant do it to my wife.when he gets to where he thinks and knows it hurting you inside and if you have kids,it hurting them,he should want to change.if he doesnt then he doesnt have feelings,thats all i know what to say,because love for my son most,wife,grandmother ,made me change.it wasnt easy by know mean.i even had gotten hep a  and that makes you think its withdrawels from heroin because it makes you weak with no energy so i was doing more drugs to make the feeling go away and it wouldnt.thank god it wasnt hep c,id still and never get rid of it.i had turned a yellow color on my skin and my urin was a dark orange like a carrot.i layed in the hospitol and cried my eyes out thinking i was gonna die from liver damage.it wasnt the dying part,it was leaving my son with no father.he i hope will stop but telling him you love him and your kids if you and him have any know and will tell him they want him for a long time and love him and its hurting them to see him like this,if he has a heart he will do something im telling you.be strong like my wife did,she didnt leave me but she helped me see some things i couldnt see due to my brain being blocked from the drug.god bless you all and it will get better,mike

[Jules2516]

I understand what you are going through fully, I myself is in the same position.  My husband is also addicted to cocaine.  It is now going on 4 months.  I am still waiting for him to hit rock bottom.  Thank God I left and my kids are safe.  I am so sorry and I wish you strength.

[beachtowel]

When he ends up in Jail then he might be ready to stop...........

[LadySundown]

Cocaine is not cheap. How is he supporting his habit?? Hopefully, not dealing. My fear is he will finally run out of money and friends and turn to rock cocaine (crack) The other posters are right. He has to stop because HE wants to. Take Care and I'm sorry you're going through this....LS

[GA Guy]

Can you get him to stop? No. Can you help him to stop if HE wants to? Yes!. Unfortunately, many people have to hit what they consider rock bottom before they will get help. This may necessitate you getting away from him for a time for your own health as well as his. It's a hard decision, but a necessary one sometimes. Any way you can join an Alanon meeting near your home. It's mainly for the family members of alcoholics, but it would be helpful to you, too. Find some support group somewhere.

[FLaddict]

he will not stop until he is ready and that he has had enough of living that life... for some that takes alot... for others it doesn't take as much... some people have to lose things in their lives such as jobs homes, families.. others just lose their self respect and get into a depression that is great enough to stop..
you can try to support him to stop but until he is willing he will not