pregnant and smoking??

[marieramirez]

This is my first pregnancy, i have been a meth smoker for a while, on and off, i stopped smoking when i found out i was pregnant, but i recently relapse at 7 months, the last time i smoked was on sunday 3/8/15; i am due on april 10, i really do regret that i was selfish! i do not plan on smoking after i give birth, i will breastfeed, i know they drug test newborns in ca , im really scared that child services will get involved and i wont be able to take my babygirl home with me, i need 32 days to go will my baby be cleaned?? anyone else had experience smoking while pregnant?? please help

[nursegirl6572]

EXCELLENT post above,.....please read it a few times, and then again.

NeverAgain is spot on.  Your baby shouldn't be born with the job to help keep you clean.  Sweetie, if it was that simple, this board wouldn't be FULL of addicted mothers and fathers.  Truth is, addiction will almost always win...an addict will choose their drug over everything, including their beloved children.

Like NA said above....everything needs to change, starting with a plea for help from your doctor.

Thinking of you...praying for you honey.

[NeverAgain127]

Honey,

You can't count on your baby to stop your addiction.  She needs YOU to be clean and strong.  
You came here looking for help...well, here is my 2 cents:

1. You need to change your whole life.   Everything.  NO friends who use. NO baby daddy until he cleans up. If he doesn't, he is OUT.  Get a restraining order if you have to.  He can't be near the baby, hold the baby, feed the baby, NOTHING.   Imagine if you let him near her and something happened?  You'd never forgive yourself.

2.  Honey, you're in deep.  You need the grace of God and a lot of support. Please, please, consider entering a treatment program for moms and their babies.  

You can't just rely on "my baby will help me stop."  That's not her job, and it won't work; I GUARANTEE it.   Raising a child is the most stressful thing you will ever do in your life. Yes, it is joyful and amazing (I"m a mom) but it is also VERY hard, and you don't have the tools to cope with the stress.  Your method for dealing with stuff is to use drugs.  

You can't do that anymore.   This young life needs you to be in RECOVERY and that means a whole lot more than just not using (which I don't think you could manage...)  A drug treatment program is what you need, and desparately.  No judgment, just love for you...I'd drive you right now myself if I could.

Start with your doctor...confess everything and ask for help.  

What do you think?   Do you love your baby enough to do this?  

Hugs,
-Robin

[marieramirez]

all yu ladies are so helpful and thank yu for not being judgemental, i am really hoping for the best, n that my babygirl doesnt get taken away because i will be hurting alot of people and verytime i thibk about it just tears me apart, i am mad at myself because it took me so long to get pregnant n i ended up smoking, so sad,  but i knw my baby will give me the strength to stop smoking and be a good mother, ill be praying for all of us fighting an addiction!

[tcprice81]

My heart goes out to you for I am an addict and addicted to meth I snort it but it's a really hard thing to kick and I am also 7 months pregnant I have a post out but scared people aren't going to hear my cry for help so I understand what your going through my ob knows about what I've done I was clean for a whole and like you had it shoved in my face the temptation is to strong I am suppose to start substance abuse counseling soon but I'm terrified even though my ob knows that cps will step in anyway. I am dedicated to my daughter and want to stay clean to be a mommy to her this is my chance and she is going to save my life but if she gets taken ill lose it literally. My suggestion to you is start your life over for the baby it's about them get away from the daddy as hard as it may be walk away go to counseling or treatment if they can help live your life for that baby not a man men come and go that baby is one in a million and yours. Good luck honey I'm doing the same I want help I want a chance addition is a disease and killed my sister so I get it totally.

[luvdolphins58]

I agree with all above. Tell your doctor. If he's been smoking it in same room with you during pregnancy than most definitely talk with Dr asap. Chances are very high baby will yest positive. As you know you can get contact high. Yes stay away from him. If he's doing this while baby is forming and growing. Extremely disrespectful to you and unborn. Prayers going out to you and baby.

[dominosarah]

How are you today?

[Krissy_123]

**but atleast you'll have your baby** is what that was suppose to say.

[Krissy_123]

It's all up to what choices you make from hear on out on weather you get to bring her home or not. If you don't say anything to your OB meth will be detected in her tests and she will be taken. If you go in now and tell them everything you just told us and how you're working to stay clean (because you have to have a plan and work a program to stay clean,I have two kids and I'm still a addict) then at least you'll have a chance of bringing your baby home. You may be drug tested weekly/monthly for awhile,but already you'll have your baby.

[marieramirez]

i relapse at 7 months, and thats when i started on n off smoking, the last time i smoked was on sunday bt i still ate and slept that same day, i jst want to know if im going to be able to take my baby home, i knw once i have my daughter, i wont think about smoking because i know she will keep my mind of that

[Krissy_123]

Well he sounds like he's living in his own addiction right now,and until he decides to get and stay clean the meth is what's going to be the only thing that matters to him. If you're an addict you must understand this? We always picked our drugs first no matter what,that's why we are addicts. I'm glad you don't live with him. That's a bit easier,you need to work on you and being the best mum you can be. You can't fix you're bf he has to do that. He won't be there for you unless he gets clean. You need to choose,and you're running out of time. Please get to the doc get working on yourself. Do you go to any form of aftercare?

[dominosarah]

You NEED to stay away from him.  When we are actively using our addiction comes first so until he decides to stop nothing will change.  Have you smoked quite a bit during this pregnancy?

[marieramirez]

yea the times i smoke is with him, i even cry because he knows how hard it is for me not to get tempted and he still does it and expects me to be okay with it like even if  didnt smoke i would still be getting second hand smoke

[marieramirez]

we dont live together, its just when i stay at his house, sometimes he does it and sometimes he doesnt, i just really wished he would supportt and help me .

[Krissy_123]

Not to mention I couldn't even imagine the temptation he's causing you. Was he smoking it infront of you this last time you did it? Is that why you caved,because it was being shoved in your face? What's wrong with him? Sorry,I just feel for you. I know how hard it is to stay clean well having no drugs around to tempt me and not being pregnant.

[Krissy_123]

If you're wanting to stay clean and keep your baby, you're going to have to make some serious changes. Even if you tell the ob all of this and it works out good,you just said "the baby's dad is smoking in front of you all the time" so in a few weeks it won't just be YOU. He will also be doing it infront of your baby. So there is another reason for CS to step in.

[marieramirez]

im so scared, n it makes it harder when.babydaddy doesnt do anything to help out, i tell him to please dont bring it around me or smoke around me n thats the first thing he does so it makes it so much harder!

[dominosarah]

You need to talk with your OB and tell him/her what you did as that way there will be no surprises.  When we arent honest with the doc's that is when CPS walks in.  I hope you will think about some form of counseling also.  Babies are a such a blessing but it is also can be very stressful for awhile and meth is a beast.

[spider6]

Honey idk but I'm sure someone will see this if I bump it up again.  I hope everything works out ...prayers hugs