50yr old son is back

[tooter212]

I need help!! Our son is back home no money had no truck and on some kind of drugs. Hubby more or else asked him to work for him on this job. Its not working out . Even the other help can't believe how our son treats him. The last 2 nights he's come home after we go to bed and wakes us up wanting in. Hubby told him he didn't need him any more. That left him home with me. He got up at 12:00 wanting to know where his dad was. I have a lady come in to clean and she did it yesterday. He leaves a mess everywhere he goes. He wasn't raised like that. He used to be the neatest person I know. I can't live like this. I feel like I'm going to have a heart attack.  As you all know I'm  7 months clean and about to lose it. They had to postpone my surgery because of my pulse rate. I can barley move around because i'm so weak. I finely got mad enough that I have some energy this afternoon. I liked to never have gone back to sleep last night. I know I could get some pills but don't want too. Maybe I do. I don't know. Hubby just wants me to be up and about doing things. I need some encouragement  please!

[spider6]

Hey Toots, awww, sweetie, it must be bad cuz you haven't really been on here much lately.  Jeez man, it just never lets up with you does it? You poor thing!  You deserve some peace. Ya, I agree with the above peeps.  Man, if he's desrespectful on any level, he has to go.  Sounds like he needs help too.  Maybe his doctor can direct him.

I'm sorry you are still not up to par.  It's been a long row to hoe hasn't it hon.  I'll send prayers your way for sleep and strength and healing. hugs xo

[nonights]

I know you love him but I dont and this makes me want to.come and kick his ***. You dont need this stress right now honey. If you need me to do the above just let me know. One thing Im good at is kicking ***. But seriously this situation has to change you have come to far to let this mess it up. Praying for you for a peaceful resolution.

[Amandag78]

Oh Tooter, im so sorry. Siblings at the best of times dont know what they have till it gets taken away from them.
My grandad always told my mum, no matter how many times your children fall, its our job as parents to pick them up no matter what.
But when your child is a 50 year adult, it becomes a job very long in the tooth, and quite unacceptable.
You and your husband deserve love and respect and you need people to understand what you are going through.
7 months is fantastic and extremely tough for us addicts to even reach.
You are a beautiful woman, wife and mother and we love you so much.
Nobody should be getting you upset enough to feel pills are an option.
Your doing so well Tooter and your continuing on the right path.
A very hard path, but you know things can only go up from here, much love to you xoxo

[Merri123]

I agree. These are the rules - follow them or leave. His choice. Write them down - get a job, pay rent, clean up, be homeby certain time, no drugs alcohol in the house, treat both of you wil respect, help around house.....

You don't need this. You have come way too far.

[vicki595]

You and your husband need to show him a united front...by the door!  He needs to go and should just be ashamed of his behavior toward you.  If her behaves this way at 50, I doubt he's going to change.  So tell him to get out of YOUR house; you don't need this BS from him!  (Makes me mad...). xo

[dominosarah]

Does your son not have a home to go to anymore?

[tooter212]

Thank you guys! I know the pills won't help anything just make me feel more guilty. God Bless

[dominosarah]

You are going to have to gather up the strength and tell him he needs to go.  You dont need to be disrespected tooter.  There is no drug in the world that will help you get thru his behavior issues right now.  Just know we all care tooter so keep talking with us~

[lulu747]

Ah Tooter.  I feel for you girl you're having a rough go.  Your son is a full grown man.  You can be supportive and give him some TOUGH love.  YOU and YOUR recovery are the most important things right now.  Stand your ground.  Take care of you.
Sending love and support...
Lu

[mommymarieme]

Oh tooter I am so sorry. Did he say why he went to your house? Honestly tooter he is a grown man you can tell him you love him but right now you have alot on your plate and you need him to leave. It is about YOU honey and what YOU want and need right now. You are doing so great right now and I am so proud of you! :)