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The Continueing Saga.....Sober Ladies Brouhaha
Well here goes....that other one was getting 2 long...again!hope to hear from Bandida and Tjack....where is Tink?
Darn it ibi u beat me 2 it!!!! I was thinkin bout a new name 4 our thread!!!! This is good I like it!!!!! Been a long day @ wk and dealin w/the new butthead mngr. I think I almost have him trained LOLOLOL b'lieve me I'll get things my way and he won't even realize it!!! I'll b back on in the a.m and catch up with allof you girls!!! Take care have a nice evening...I'm gonna go snooze...zzzzzzzzzzzzzz LUV YA BUNCHES TERRY
I found you all!! Home and glad to be here. Mom is doing good. It is amazing. Her mind is pretty darn good. Got her a medic alert necklace, home health care nurse coming 2 times a week. P T coming 2 times a week. New MD and meds. lined out.
What a relief. Got out of Dallas yesterday, beautiful day but won't be for too much longer, rain and wind will get there too. But, nothing like the gulf is getting.
I am bushed but will be back on tomorrow. I had a beer and a half back there one evening at dinner. I can give you every excuse, a nervous wreck day mostly and i shouldn't have done it , but i did and am thankful i had enough sense to stop. That was GOD, i believe. Love to all my gals. I have missed you all. TJack
What a relief. Got out of Dallas yesterday, beautiful day but won't be for too much longer, rain and wind will get there too. But, nothing like the gulf is getting.
I am bushed but will be back on tomorrow. I had a beer and a half back there one evening at dinner. I can give you every excuse, a nervous wreck day mostly and i shouldn't have done it , but i did and am thankful i had enough sense to stop. That was GOD, i believe. Love to all my gals. I have missed you all. TJack
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glad ur mom is doing better...its such a rollercoaster oh yes it is.....ah my dear a beer and a half.....thats enuf to tease the BEAST.....prayers for u that u stop the ridiculous thought that u can EVEN have one!:)
Hi all especially Tjack glad U R well!! My sat off got so much to do but I think of U gals all the time!!! Still got a butthead MNgr!!! OMG what a pain in the A...! 2 much 2 get into and such stupid drama 4 a convennience store/subway Pleeeeeze!!!!!!! You'd think the guy was Bill Gates! I'll catch up with ya ladies later....my sched says I can go grocery shopping @10am so don't want 2 alert the POPO and deviate LOLOLOL LUV YA ALL LOTS XXXOOO TERRY C ya's later muah!!!!!!
Glad to see ya'll here. Sorry your addiction won out the other night TJack. Its like you had the angel on one should and the devil on the other fighting it out inside you. Glad the angel gave the devil the "one two" finally.
I use to say to myself " A drink is not an option".
Today is the shower girls. When it comes to curtain call, I am surprisingly alright. Izi has been a great support. I just ironed my outfit. Nails are done, gifts are wrapped, next I do pretty hair and makeup. Gees, I haven't done girly in so long it feels awkward. Heels too! My son's fiance' isn't coming. When its a choice between a big work gala event and my daughter's shower, she picks work. She is a bridesmaid. I'm turning that one over.
Well, off to wash up. Pray the prayer for me girls, that I may maintain serenity and reap the joys of today.
I use to say to myself " A drink is not an option".
Today is the shower girls. When it comes to curtain call, I am surprisingly alright. Izi has been a great support. I just ironed my outfit. Nails are done, gifts are wrapped, next I do pretty hair and makeup. Gees, I haven't done girly in so long it feels awkward. Heels too! My son's fiance' isn't coming. When its a choice between a big work gala event and my daughter's shower, she picks work. She is a bridesmaid. I'm turning that one over.
Well, off to wash up. Pray the prayer for me girls, that I may maintain serenity and reap the joys of today.
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oh boy girl...ur a bigger woman than i in all this social etiquette brouhaha...i'm quite the rebel and labeled social miscreant in them..but i don't have a daughter gettin hitched!good luck!what on the menu?any Edy's bars for dessert?alcohol gonna be there?what to drink?ur not having those wonder white bread mini chicken ham and egg salad sandwiches with the crusts trimmed off shaped like diamonds r ya?and thos lil chalky pastel green mints?and the white frosted sheet cake with Congratulations in yellow frosting?teehee!:)
Glad to be back on board and tired but have my resolve back, no drinking!!!
You are too funny Ibi, about the shower and wedding food! Phtartist, i bet you
were beautiful Darlin after you got yourself all dolled up. I know you are beautiful anyway, inside and out. Hope it all went well.
Bandida, what are we to do with your boss? Bill Gates, indeed!! too funny
Hope you all have a great Sunday. Weather is beautiful up here in the nw. Warm
days and cool nights. No humidity. Thank goodness. Oh it was humid in Dallas.
No wonder we moved from Texas all those years ago. But, i do love to visit our loved
ones down there. bye for now. Hugs, TJ
You are too funny Ibi, about the shower and wedding food! Phtartist, i bet you
were beautiful Darlin after you got yourself all dolled up. I know you are beautiful anyway, inside and out. Hope it all went well.
Bandida, what are we to do with your boss? Bill Gates, indeed!! too funny
Hope you all have a great Sunday. Weather is beautiful up here in the nw. Warm
days and cool nights. No humidity. Thank goodness. Oh it was humid in Dallas.
No wonder we moved from Texas all those years ago. But, i do love to visit our loved
ones down there. bye for now. Hugs, TJ
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oh yes the cloned protocol for showers and food...i try to avoid them at all costs with contrived previous social engagements.....some i cannot let i incur 2 much wrath!tjack-ya need to get back to meetings and regular sponsor contact....Ph hope ya get a good nap 2 day and xtra Edy's bars after all the socializing.....and Bandida some bosses are like flies...they eat poop and pester others...ya gotta get out ur mental fly swatter and swat them away!
The saying "Today is the tomorrow I worried about yesterday." It always rings true, but the boozer in me still looses it way before the occasion but when curtain calls, Voila'.
I did my daughter proud. Full course dinner for the 24 guests that came. Izi girl, we had whipped cream sheet cake with.......get this..........cannoli filling! OH BABY! Burgundy script that read "Showers of Blessing" and her name.
Booze, yea there was booze, I had wine on each table, and a champagne fountain flowing the whole time. Did I even see it. NOPE! They put a glass of champagne in front of me for the toast and I casually poured it into another glass poured water in it to rinse it and poured water in it and when we toasted her, I had my water or should I call it what my Grandpa (the other alcoholic) called water "City Gin".
It's funny when we first get sober we sweat those situations. I even bought a slim yellow handbook which was an alcoholic's guide on how to handle different situations like that. Now, I don't even think about it. I'm very open about being in recovery. I told my long time friend right out, I don't drink, as a matter of fact I'm in AA.
How can you help another alcoholic if you remain anonymous. My husband has helped two of my son's friends and I one of his other friends because we are open about it. They come to us knowing they are in good hands.
I've had friends ask me to help them figure out if they're alcoholics. First of all I tell them that is not for anyone else to do. Then I tell them not to drink for 90 days and go to an open speaker meeting and listen and see if they can identify with the stories. That's where God does his work. They can go with my husband or I.
I do ask them if they have a compulsion to drink. If they drink, do they have trouble stopping? Plant a seed. Let God do the rest.
We have one friend that has said that he knows he is an alcoholic but is no willing to stop drinking. He comes over to go to the track with my husband with his backpack and a six pack and cooler packs in it. Sweet guy who one time said, If your going to a meeting its OK, I'll go with you. funny huh. The seed sprouting.
Other girl, stopped, on her own, but there is an emptiness, shortness, shallowness, exhaustion. She never reaped the benefit of the 12 steps, of the WE of the program.
Have a great day ladies,
Four hours went so fast. I was in a time warp. An example of this ....I met my nephew's wives. I had not seen them since they were skinny little 10 year olds. Now they have their own kids. I took a picture with my 90 year old former mother in law and her other former daughter in law. It was the first wives club photo. We were all laughing our ***** off.
My best friend of 35 years who I lost touch with for the last 16 since I moved was there. We hugged and just started bawling.
Thanks girls for letting me vent and writing back in support. Like I wrote to Izi one time, Ya'll good listeners, lol.
Seriousely, you do pay attention.
Bandida, I get the feeling, you have summed up your boss and will navigate his sorry butt right into where you want him.
TJack, thumbs up on staying sober "one day at a time" through it all and your Mom is doing well.
Izi, you simply Rock.
I did my daughter proud. Full course dinner for the 24 guests that came. Izi girl, we had whipped cream sheet cake with.......get this..........cannoli filling! OH BABY! Burgundy script that read "Showers of Blessing" and her name.
Booze, yea there was booze, I had wine on each table, and a champagne fountain flowing the whole time. Did I even see it. NOPE! They put a glass of champagne in front of me for the toast and I casually poured it into another glass poured water in it to rinse it and poured water in it and when we toasted her, I had my water or should I call it what my Grandpa (the other alcoholic) called water "City Gin".
It's funny when we first get sober we sweat those situations. I even bought a slim yellow handbook which was an alcoholic's guide on how to handle different situations like that. Now, I don't even think about it. I'm very open about being in recovery. I told my long time friend right out, I don't drink, as a matter of fact I'm in AA.
How can you help another alcoholic if you remain anonymous. My husband has helped two of my son's friends and I one of his other friends because we are open about it. They come to us knowing they are in good hands.
I've had friends ask me to help them figure out if they're alcoholics. First of all I tell them that is not for anyone else to do. Then I tell them not to drink for 90 days and go to an open speaker meeting and listen and see if they can identify with the stories. That's where God does his work. They can go with my husband or I.
I do ask them if they have a compulsion to drink. If they drink, do they have trouble stopping? Plant a seed. Let God do the rest.
We have one friend that has said that he knows he is an alcoholic but is no willing to stop drinking. He comes over to go to the track with my husband with his backpack and a six pack and cooler packs in it. Sweet guy who one time said, If your going to a meeting its OK, I'll go with you. funny huh. The seed sprouting.
Other girl, stopped, on her own, but there is an emptiness, shortness, shallowness, exhaustion. She never reaped the benefit of the 12 steps, of the WE of the program.
Have a great day ladies,
Four hours went so fast. I was in a time warp. An example of this ....I met my nephew's wives. I had not seen them since they were skinny little 10 year olds. Now they have their own kids. I took a picture with my 90 year old former mother in law and her other former daughter in law. It was the first wives club photo. We were all laughing our ***** off.
My best friend of 35 years who I lost touch with for the last 16 since I moved was there. We hugged and just started bawling.
Thanks girls for letting me vent and writing back in support. Like I wrote to Izi one time, Ya'll good listeners, lol.
Seriousely, you do pay attention.
Bandida, I get the feeling, you have summed up your boss and will navigate his sorry butt right into where you want him.
TJack, thumbs up on staying sober "one day at a time" through it all and your Mom is doing well.
Izi, you simply Rock.
woops, After "City Gin" go down to Four hours went so fast... then back up to the paragraph....Its funny when we first get sober..
I inserted a line but kept on going and forgot the stuff I wrote behind it, I'm cracking up here, Duh, haha
I inserted a line but kept on going and forgot the stuff I wrote behind it, I'm cracking up here, Duh, haha
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oh wowee girl now those were some eats u had there.....the mercedes benz of shower food!oh and that cake?i'd b licking the frsoting offa the plate...pack it on ur booty..move over cellulite..theres another lump joining the clump!hahaha!sounds like such a good time getting 2 gether with women u hadn't seen in awhile.....and as far as the booze goes...ppl r more concerned with what THEIR drinking as opposed to what u r.....they r concerned with their OWN buzz!my City Gin is ginger ale.....or my fav mixed drink....ginger ale cranberry juice and the shaken iced tea lemonades...i been making my own sun tea with lotsa green tea bags and lemonade so good looks like an old fav long island iced teas now those really toasted my grey matter upstairs and scary i would drive with w/several of those under my belt....sheez! grateful i don't do that anymore......ibi's NA drinks!!!!
Gottta go to workey...enjoyed reading all ya'lls post! wow what a wkend! Hope Mr. B-Head is not there tday....Cuz I'm not in the mood 2 straighten his sorry managerial CULO out!!! Butt then again ya never know....Hmmmmmmmmm Luv ya all lot's Terry (ps culo is spanish 4 the posterior portion )
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always carry ur fly swatter......in between ur ears!if we use the real mccoy we're charged with assault..u don't need that!
Yea, that cake, I ate a little, a little more whipped cream part but left the rest. I'm thinking to myself....OHHHH wedding dress, tight wedding dress,,,,don't do it!!
Ha ahahaha
Then I came home and stress ate LOL
Ha ahahaha
Then I came home and stress ate LOL
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well Edy' s bars r good stress eating if thats what ya did......last nite had a power outtage for 5 hours.....i thought oh poop freezer full of Edys tangerine bars just bought......ate one by candlelight!
The edy's doesn't cut it for me when I'm stress eating, sorry to bust your frozen pop bubble babe. :-(
For me its crunch,and creme. I compile anything in the house that will make up those two. The candied emerald nuts and ice cream (fat free Bryers) still lots of sugar there, but when I'm stressing I look past that. Sometimes, straight for the nuts. Sometimes I add lowfat land o lakes whipped cream in the can. Stuff is good!!!
Any hoo, you sound good. I'm good too, woke up on the right side of the bed. It's cooler today 60 than the last two days 83, so I can go out and enjoy.
I wasn't able to because the bladder infection kicked up a FM thing that causes all your skin to burn like the sun is on you and its tropic and has needles in its rays., The heat outside went right through my clothes into my skin. Odd thing though, you can't see a sign that this is going on. Thank goodness or I would have been Mom the tomatoe at the shower.
Ah, "Dignity and Grace" my sponsor always says. Thats how you carry yourself with dignity and grace. Not a soul knew how I felt at the shower.
Here is where I finally talk about My MOM. I was the "Host" of the shower. She knows with the FM more than anyone that my processing ability has been compromised by the damn neuro effects of the illness. I'm not by any means unintelligent, but sometimes slower to process than I was. Acceptance. I was meeting people left and right, being asked about this and that by the staff, and the bridal party and other guests and she was annoyed at how i was with her during the party.
It was an issue when we talked Monday. Thank GOD I have the twelve steps that has taught me to love her and have patience and tolerance with her. I asked her understanding of the fact that it was my daughter's shower and I was not there for my Mom but for my daughter.
I urged her to speak her mind and she had several instances she recalled in detail. Yikes !!! I told her she needed more from me than I could give being how my mind works now and that my focus was the shower.
She told me I said I couldn't wait to see her and maybe she shouldn't have sat next to me blah blah blah. I said the only place she needed to be was in the seat next to me and I was so glad to see her.
Phew, She expects so much from me. Such a needy woman. This is the woman who abused me. She regrets her tactics but she always wanted me to perform and still does.
OK, where's Freud?
Thanks for listening
For me its crunch,and creme. I compile anything in the house that will make up those two. The candied emerald nuts and ice cream (fat free Bryers) still lots of sugar there, but when I'm stressing I look past that. Sometimes, straight for the nuts. Sometimes I add lowfat land o lakes whipped cream in the can. Stuff is good!!!
Any hoo, you sound good. I'm good too, woke up on the right side of the bed. It's cooler today 60 than the last two days 83, so I can go out and enjoy.
I wasn't able to because the bladder infection kicked up a FM thing that causes all your skin to burn like the sun is on you and its tropic and has needles in its rays., The heat outside went right through my clothes into my skin. Odd thing though, you can't see a sign that this is going on. Thank goodness or I would have been Mom the tomatoe at the shower.
Ah, "Dignity and Grace" my sponsor always says. Thats how you carry yourself with dignity and grace. Not a soul knew how I felt at the shower.
Here is where I finally talk about My MOM. I was the "Host" of the shower. She knows with the FM more than anyone that my processing ability has been compromised by the damn neuro effects of the illness. I'm not by any means unintelligent, but sometimes slower to process than I was. Acceptance. I was meeting people left and right, being asked about this and that by the staff, and the bridal party and other guests and she was annoyed at how i was with her during the party.
It was an issue when we talked Monday. Thank GOD I have the twelve steps that has taught me to love her and have patience and tolerance with her. I asked her understanding of the fact that it was my daughter's shower and I was not there for my Mom but for my daughter.
I urged her to speak her mind and she had several instances she recalled in detail. Yikes !!! I told her she needed more from me than I could give being how my mind works now and that my focus was the shower.
She told me I said I couldn't wait to see her and maybe she shouldn't have sat next to me blah blah blah. I said the only place she needed to be was in the seat next to me and I was so glad to see her.
Phew, She expects so much from me. Such a needy woman. This is the woman who abused me. She regrets her tactics but she always wanted me to perform and still does.
OK, where's Freud?
Thanks for listening
Oooo you made me hungry! Somewhere along the way i looked over the part that you suffer with FM. Oh hon, i don't have it but know a couple of women who do. Do you take lyrica for it and if so does it help? My friend in Texas was put on Clonopin for it.
I saw her last week. I said, WHAT?? That's for anxiety not FM. She needs another dr.
and to slowly come off that clonopin.
Glad you are able to talk things out with your Mom. That is a good thing.
In the midst of a big deal going on it is hard for me to take it all in and process. So i can imagine what you were going through.
Bandida, did you take your fly swatter to work? If this guy is new, he will probably settle down and get over himself one day soon. Hope so!
Ibi, thanks for your advice. Going to a meeting this morning. I know i should have went while I was in Tulsa. My sponsor told me to. I was on the go every minute it seemed or with my Mom most of the time. It just seemed impossible to do, but i should have made it a must.
Think i'll get me some shaken green tea to take to the meeting with me. Gonna be 90 again today, so it's me and the jeep.
Ph, I like that a drink is not an option!! Got to keep that in my pea brain. Also one day at a time. I look forward to the day i can say no to a drink and then add I'm in AA and can't drink. That will be a big step for me. But, you are so right about planting seeds and leaving the rest to God.
Y'all have a great day. After meeting i am meeting a dear friend for lunch. Then to the fruit stand for some fresh fruit and produce.
Thanks for lending me your ears and eyes. Tonya
ps> I go see my freud tomorrow. :>)
I saw her last week. I said, WHAT?? That's for anxiety not FM. She needs another dr.
and to slowly come off that clonopin.
Glad you are able to talk things out with your Mom. That is a good thing.
In the midst of a big deal going on it is hard for me to take it all in and process. So i can imagine what you were going through.
Bandida, did you take your fly swatter to work? If this guy is new, he will probably settle down and get over himself one day soon. Hope so!
Ibi, thanks for your advice. Going to a meeting this morning. I know i should have went while I was in Tulsa. My sponsor told me to. I was on the go every minute it seemed or with my Mom most of the time. It just seemed impossible to do, but i should have made it a must.
Think i'll get me some shaken green tea to take to the meeting with me. Gonna be 90 again today, so it's me and the jeep.
Ph, I like that a drink is not an option!! Got to keep that in my pea brain. Also one day at a time. I look forward to the day i can say no to a drink and then add I'm in AA and can't drink. That will be a big step for me. But, you are so right about planting seeds and leaving the rest to God.
Y'all have a great day. After meeting i am meeting a dear friend for lunch. Then to the fruit stand for some fresh fruit and produce.
Thanks for lending me your ears and eyes. Tonya
ps> I go see my freud tomorrow. :>)
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remember song by Human League....I'm only human..of flesh and blood i'm made..i'm only human born to make mistakes.....man PH thats some rich stuff there but sounds good.....the power came back on which i'm grateful for.email from sister and bro they been cleaning out my mom and dad's house getting it ready to rent want us to come and help and sort thru things..i been procrastinating on this.....but will go and help...good place to go and talk to my dad cuz i know his spirt is there over the awesome 72 acres....fall was my fav time of year 2 go and be with them...so i will go and help and chat with my pop...heck i do now all the time in my head!i have my greyhounds ashes i lost 3-27 in nice urn.....time to let go of him and bury him in my pet cemetery out there..have 3 other greys and five kitties there....several his former buddies!we're always mashing thru things in our heads..and trying to put them 2 rest aren't we?don't need Freud for that..heck that boy liked cocaine!i used too 2 in a past life!:)
Human League! Don't you want me baby, don't you want me now ow ow ow ow ow. I have enjoyed them and know the song you mean.
The way you wrote I could feel the beauty and spiritual essence of the land ibi. How beautiful to give them and yourself peace in the way you plan.
Hey T - No, Lyrica. it lowers the seizure threshold and so does another med I'm on so its a no go. I don't get the Klonopin script for fm. Some tricyclic antidepressants such as amitriptyline work on pain centers in the brain which helps FM. Tell your friend that. It is best in low doses at bedtime, it promotes sleep.
You sound good,
take care girls,
The way you wrote I could feel the beauty and spiritual essence of the land ibi. How beautiful to give them and yourself peace in the way you plan.
Hey T - No, Lyrica. it lowers the seizure threshold and so does another med I'm on so its a no go. I don't get the Klonopin script for fm. Some tricyclic antidepressants such as amitriptyline work on pain centers in the brain which helps FM. Tell your friend that. It is best in low doses at bedtime, it promotes sleep.
You sound good,
take care girls,
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it is a beautiful land...my bro plants corn and soybeans on it....one time a couple does were running across it and my first female grey stood on her hind legs as if to say those some BIG greyhounds.i had so many good Sundays out there....i used to stand and think on a breezy sunny day..what will i do when my folks r gone and i can no longer come here?that day came 2 fast it seems!sigh!
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i was fortunate to have had it that i know for i know many whose parents were very poor parents indeed......so i was blessed and have great memories..i travel there in my head a lot.....gives me serenity!
Just wanted 2 Pop in and say Hello! Got 2day off...not really housework,laundry etc.... Love 2 cook so I am baking a broccoli cheddar ham quiche Got 2 wk 2, 5 a,m shows for the next 2 days! YUCK! So Im just going to finish what I have 2 do and then relax 4 the rest of the day. Maybe a dvd and nap on the couch. Tonights Toms pool leage nite at the Moose so I'll just be hanging out and hitting the hay early. I'm not used 2 this schedule so I hope my Boss the Butthead is just doing it this week. Trust me that I will be talking 2 him about leaving my hours as they were 2-10 works just fine 4 me. Might ck back here thru out the day, but if you don't see or hear from me 4 the next 2 then now You's know why! Catch ya'll later XXOO Terry
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