Help for Mom of Bi-Polar, Stealing, Lying, Son

[deebee208]

Hi- My son was diagnosed with Bi-Polar 1 with Schizo Affective Disorder starting at age 19.  He is now 27.  There are genetic components from both families, and he used lots of street drugs in high school and college which he seems to think helped trigger his first psychotic break.

Long story short, many hospitalizations, much family work, many doctors, many different drugs, a marriage, two children, many jobs, a divorce. Some stable times.

What I am writing about now is that my son has continued to victimize me and his wonderful, generous, loving Step-father who raised him.  He has robbed many thousand of dollars from us, all of our heirloom jewelry, and many of my precious jewels.  From a locked safe. For drugs, we think.  He also falsely accused me at one time of abusing his child, resulting in a long term legal matter and months of anguish.

Much of this happened while we had moved him back into our home to recover from his divorce, after forgiving him for the false accusation.  And several other things in the past-he totaled my car while drinking,etc, etc.

We finally called the police and he has been arrested.  He was moved from our home as well.  

I find I need help.  I am angry, depressed, and feel like I have failed as a Mom.  All the therapy, support groups, time spent with him.  He has victimized me over and over again.  I can't take any more. Any ideas on how to deal?
Sad Mom

[Kelz72312]

I'm not really sure I know he's your son and you'll always love him I would try to stay away from him. Or even try to call around to get him help. If he is doing the drugs I would report it and get his child his child doesn't need to be around that... But as far as the stress goes I would get out and walk everyday and while your walking talk about all your problems and how you want to help make it all stop. Also warm up some tea or drink hot coco or hot chocolate while you walk it should help.. Just try to get your son help and get his child if possible drugs are not a good thing for kids to be around they will grow up doing them

[deebee208]

Hi it's me again- wanted to clarify-that the genetic component are a generation back- or two.  My mental state is usually ok, and I am the family caregiver.  Just find myself overwhelmed at this point and not sure how to handle this, and no one to talk to.