Hi,
I'm 25 and I was diagnosed with BP a couple of years ago. Unfortunately, it went undiagnosed for many years and as such, life hasn't exactly been easy to cope with. I've always used this as a way to justify the lies that I've told, but it dawned upon me the other day that this is a real problem and it's hurting those I love. I mostly have no reason to lie; it's largely an impulsive reaction and it can be to the most basic of questions, where the truth would be a LOT more desirable and cause no problems. Even so, I can't stop myself from inventing stories and pretending to be someone different.
I can be having a conversation with someone and I'll say, "Oh, yeah, I watched a program about that a few months ago and it said..." and then proceed to make up something, for absolutely no reason whatsoever. It doesn't enhance the conversation nor does it give me a thrill to lie, it's just an instictive reaction that I can't seem to stop.
I will always exaggerate the truth, no matter how irrelevant it may be. "I was in the hairdressers for 6 hours!" or "The dogs didn't stop barking all night!", when truthfully, the appointment was only 2 hours and the dogs might've barked once.
Those are examples of the little white lies I tell on a fairly daily basis, but it's the bigger lies that concern me the most. My boyfriend thinks I'm 18, a lie I justified because I didn't want to have to explain why I'd done nothing with my life and I felt like those lost years were somehow owed to me, since it wasn't my fault they'd gone to waste. We're still together over a year later and he still doesn't know the truth - despite the fact we're now having a baby together. I've lived in constant worry of him finding out through someone else or seeing a document with my D.O.B on, yet rather than tell him the truth, I've kept trying to think of more lies to cover it up should it ever be found out.
I don't know if this is typical BP behaviour and it isn't something I've discussed with my psychologist, though I will at my next visit, but does anyone else suffer with the same compulsion to lie and/or have any tips on how I can start to undo all the mess I've gotten myself into?
Thank you so much. X