Losing all hope

[JB8308]

I have a 20 year old sister and she is destroying my family and killing my mother slowly.

I believe she suffers from some type of Bi polar disorder but these are the symptoms i have noticed.....

a complete inability to compromise (if she doesnt get something her way immediatley she slams doors and punches walls and stomps around the house)

Violent mood swings (one minute shes fine but then will explode because of something insignificant) usually she punches holes in walls, screams at the top of her lungs, says terrible hurtful things to me and my mother and will only get worse and worse until she leaves or we leave.

Complete lack of respect for herself and anyone else (she simply does not care she is promiscuous, drinks regularly, smokes marijuana constantly, and sleeps all day)

Literally i cant even unload my dishwasher without her screaming at me for not doing it right.

I know this is not a very well written post but im watching my mother die slowly she cries every night. tonight my sister assaulted her (punched her in the jaw) because I parked my car in the driveway instead of in the street.

Help.

[JB8308]

thank you for the advice and kind words I will pass this along to mom and the next time she acts like this I will do something about it

[LeftCoastChick]

It sounds like it's more then pot, but then when my best friend started smoking pot, her personality changed, she became mean and moody. If you want to be sure, lay down the rules, get her drug tested everyweek. I personally think she should be removed by the local athororites. She has to hick rock bottom before she'll get help, especially since your mother is getting affected by all of this. Alot of people hate to hear this, ever seen the show called Intervention, I suggest you watch it. It's frank view of addicts. Most of them suffer from Con-current mental health issues. Having her arrested and committing her is an act of love, though she will vehimently say that all of you are cruel and mean.

[monkeyc]

I dont see much bipolar there I just see a lot of behaviour which is out of control.

I tend to agree with RJ233 here - this is out of control and you can either get her help or she gets help - she wont do this so you might need to.

However there may be nothing wrong with her mentally - its not possible to commit somebody if the doctors wont diagnose.

Your mother would be better off pressing assault charges but will she do that?

[RJ233]

You can call the police. Tell them your sister is out of control and has hurt your mother. They can either comitt her if you think it is a mental problem or have her arrested. You can get a protective order for your mother and yourself and she has to stay away from both of you. She can't come to the house or near you anywhere. She can not call or send messages. Absolutely no contact. It would be the best decision you could ever make. They can comitt her for psychiatric evaluation if she is harming or threatening to harm. She already harmed so go to the Magistrate asap. She has no business putting her hands on your mother. When she is in that state of mind, it is time to do something. If you need to talk, feel free to contact me. God Bless, RJ