I recommended a air mattress or a cot. He said it's an idea. But you still cant be "alone" with another child in the room. You know what I mean? So Last night he was finally going to have him sleep with his sisters. His son was cool with that...I thought. So We went to bed. We were going to have "quality" time in our own bed for the first time in almost 2 weeks without him being in our bed and he walked in on us. This is what I am talking about. He walked in our room 4 times! catching us the last time. I hate that because what does that tell your children? does it give them a visual for a long time catcing your parents in action? his son finally got his way to sleep with us again and we never got to take care of business. We have to have our alone time as well. Well, we will seee how tonight goes.
Boy...those were some amazing conclusions to which you jumped. Very silly.
I stand by my post.
what if he slept on a air matress on his dads side of the bed and then you could either keep him there or slowly move him somewhere else but its baby steps not a huge leap and then u dont feel as un comfortable its kind of a compramise
So exactly how long do you think it is appropriate for a child to co-sleep with their parents?? No matter if it's in a home that has step-parents on or in a home that has the bio dad and mom? What? Until they are teenagers? Just let them decide when it's time to sleep in their own beds? Do you feel that a child should run a household? Do you feel that the children should make the rules? And what about a house that has more than one child, a home that has to see to multiple childrens needs? Should the other children suffer because there is one insecure child? This is not only a problem for step-parents.. my brother and sister-n-law have the same problem with their youngest.
In order to have a happy healthy home the parents MUST be able to function as a team. Without the captains the team would crumble, and lose. Kids need boundries, as well as their own space. Kids at some point need to be taught how to be independent, and not co-dependent. Wouldn't you agree?
I'm with your husband. They're only young once, he's used to sleeping with his dad, and he probably feels very insecure and probably not overjoyed over the situation.
I've always believed that kids should come first--despite the adults' wants, needs, desires, etc. But many people post here complaining about their step-children and how the child/children are making their lives unbearable. Kids don't have the same experience or coping skills as adults and to expect them to conform when they are likely feeling insecure and unhappy is not reasonable. And they didn't sign up for this two-home, back and forth life--it was created for them.
Try pushing the bed up against the wall on your husband's side of the bed and have your husband sleep in the middle if you feel left out.
Gosh, this is tough. I would say you both need to sit down with your fiance/husband and tell them once more that it has to stop. If you have to look online or call a child psychologist or counselore and ask them what the effects of co sleeping at these ages can do to a child. It may not be harmful, but then again, there may be some effects that could be discouraging to your spouses. Good luck to you both.