need help

[mandy876]

my niece wants me to get on abilify to enhance my effexors does anyone know anything about this drug.  I know my niece is on it or has been on it.  I don't know what to do.  I am going to stick around and bug you guys somemore. besides it would be too lonesome without  you all.  mandy876

[mandy876]

guess I cant be helped you all picked the perfect day to pull this,  I was sitting here looking at my stupid pills.  but I want give you the pleasure.  I don't wanr to go to the library.  I am angry at god for taking my life away.  no one wants to under stand.  so why bother.  you are all so perfect.  I hope no one treats you like this.  mandy876

[jemma116]

Mandy, if you are feeling so dizzy and you did complain of your ear hurting you the other day, I would suggest you go and see the doctor to examine your ears and throat.

Although you are on the Effexor, that will not make your ears hurt and although the Effexor makes you feel drowsy in the day time, you should not be experiencing these dizzy spells so much.

Inner ear infections and other infections like throat and urinary, can make you feel dizzy, as well as having anaemia and too high or too low blood pressure.

Because you complained about your ears a couple of days ago, you may have an inner ear infection that will need treating.

So it would be worth getting your doctor to examine your ear, blood pressure, blood test to check your iron and B12 levels and have your blood pressure checked.

In the meantime, keep drinking plenty of fluids, take things easy and talk positively to yourself.

I will not have access to a computer for a week, so I wish you well and hope you get over your dizziness and ear problem soon.

Best wishes.

[4Maddie44]

For many months your friends here have been trying to help you.  We have made many suggestions about how not to isolate yourself.  You always make excuses.  Do you really want to get out and have fun as you saiud?  If so, do it.

Yes we all have depression.  Yes at times we feel dizzy, we feel p;oorly.  Even when I was really really bad I volunteered, I went out and tried to help others.  I helped out my daughter with her children.  I hid my depression behind a mask.  

What else can we suggest?  You have isolated yourself, you complain about your niece, but after all these months nothing has changed.  if you can't help yourself, no one else can.  A few messages above you said you want to go shopping, you want to have fun.  Yes you want to be happy.  Don't let depression isolate you.

What more can we do for you?  Yes we are here and listen.  It is frustrating telling you things that might help, only for you to dismiss them.  Look how much Sara, Jemma, Nursegirl and I have tried to help you.  So many times we have so kindly tried to get you out of your negative thinking.  I know that is due to the depression, but please do try and do something with your life.  No good complaining all the time.  Only you can  help yourself.

Sorry for the sermon, I don't mean to hurt you, I just want you to understand how we all feel.  We are your friends, so we want so much to help, and see you contented with your life.  Tell us some good things that are happening to you now.  Don't dwell on the past.  It is gone for ever.  Yes cherish happy memories, but move forward with your liufe.

Come on, you can do it.

I am your friend, and I am sorry if I sound harsh, it's just that I care so much.

Your friend Maddie

[sara12345]

Mandy, Sorry, this is the first time I learned about your difficulty getting rides. It's hard to believe that a church would need to get you 2 hours before the service and return you 2-3 hours after it.  Are you sure?  

What about taking a taxi to the church?  Just trying to think of ways to help you.  Your isolation is so terrible.

My love to you as always, Sara

[mandy876]

they only do that for medical reasons. and you have to give them a 2 week notice. she is very involved with her grandchildren.  that is why they moved.  she does everything for her daughter. it is hard to catch her at home.  they are at her daughters or at a doctors appointment. I belong to a church they pick you up about 2 hours before the service and come home 2 to 3 hours after.  you must be younger.  when you get my age you don't feel like running all over town.  I am not paying her insurance any more.  as stated on a precious note.  look this is getting where you expect me to be you not me.  so I guess I will close for now and maybe take a break.  sems like I am irritating you.  mandy876

[sara12345]

Call up your friend who cannot drive.  That is some helpful contact for you.  She is your best friend.  I have a lot of contact by phone with a best friend of mine who lives more than 1000 miles away.  If your friend is long distance, you can get a plan that allows unlimited long distance for not much money.  That is a very good way to spend your money instead of paying for car insurance for your niece's lazy daughter.  

Why haven't you called the city to find out about senior rides?  Most areas do have them.  They pick you up at your place and take you back home again.  

Look in the yellow pages, even on-line, for a senior center in your area. Then call them about rides.  You could go to one of their events. Or you could go to church.  Either place you can just sit.  I know that you don't feel good, but you still need to get out. If you're dizzy, be sure to use a walker and have the driver escort you into the building.  

You need to go out for your mental health which is a good part of why you physically don't feel good.  Believe me when I tell you this.  I used to feel like I had the flu when I was in severe depression.  But I still got out.

I pray that you will stay on the Effexor which should help you get a new lease on life.  I do wish you the best.
Your friend,
Sara