need help

[mandy876]

my niece wants me to get on abilify to enhance my effexors does anyone know anything about this drug.  I know my niece is on it or has been on it.  I don't know what to do.  I am going to stick around and bug you guys somemore. besides it would be too lonesome without  you all.  mandy876

[mandy876]

I have no car.  I cant drive I am dizzy and  don't feel good.  I know you all want me to go some where.  but no way to get there.  no bus service, my friends moved away and or have died.  I have my best friend she had to give up driving she kept running over the curbs and going down the wrong side of the road.  her husband is in bad health his neck artery is blocked they are supposed to see a heart specialist  to perform an operation and unblock the artery.  my family never call or care they  have problems of their  own.  face it.  I am here and I got my TV my computer with a bunch of games, and my variety crossword puzzle books.  I guess that is all.  I hope I have you all as my friends.  mandy876

[sara12345]

Mandy,  Really--you cannot judge caring from cats, who have minds of their own.  If you show other people caring, you will get it back.  It's a 2-way street.  That's how it works. And that needs to be contact with more than just your niece who has major mental health problems.  But you need to get out to find others who you can care for, and who will care for you. Everyone has been telling you to get out many, many times. I'm sincerely hoping that once the Effexor kicks in, you will have the confidence and renewed happiness to do that.  You take care. Sara

[mandy876]

that was my x neighbor that moved across town.  I got to call and see how they are doing.  I don't know while ago when she got ready to go to bed at 8pm I said I cant take any more I am so tired.  I am going literally crazy.  I feel like my mind is going to blow up.  I went out back after she went to sleep and yelled for oreo the cat.  he did not come but three other cats came.  I said ok I fed them in2 bowls they don't get along with big yellow.  I try to make friend with him but he want come to me.  I fed him can food the last too night each time he does not run so far away.  then mr twig came he is my next door neighbors cat.  I said hey you are going in the house with me.  he looked at me I opened the door and he came right in went in and told my niece hi.  and another cat had showed up and was eating his food.  so I fed him some inside and big yellow had ate his so I gave him some more.  twig and I sat I the living room for a while and talked.  he did not say much but he listened.  didn't think I was going to get him back outside.  I just fell apart.  I have no one that cares about ME.  is that so selfish.  I am lonesome I need a hug.  I miss my mom so much,  mandy876

[jemma116]

Mandy, Maddie has written you some good words of wisdom.  And it is all about positive thinking.

If you feel down and talk negatively to yourself, you will feel down and all your physical problems will be much worse too.

At the moment you have a virus and we all get them from time to time.  

As your niece is in a down mood at the moment and talks about being "bored", tell her that to stop her boredom she is the only one that can stop that feeling and to engross herself in some hobby or go out for a walk in the fresh air.  It is surprising how going outside into the fresh helps to lift the spirits and clean away the cobwebs.

I agree also with Maddie that you must not let your niece get you feeling down.  I you have a friend, phone them up, or go and visit your neighbour and see how her husband it getting on.   Take a bunch of flowers or some chocolates or a packet of biscuits with you.  You will be surprised how that can make you feel good.

If you can't get yourself to doing that, then buy yourself a bunch of flowers to place in a vase in your home to cheer yourself up with the vibrant colours and floral smells.

Best wishes.

[4Maddie44]

It is a shame your niece is pulling you down with her.  Try not to let her "get" to you too much.  It is her illness talking.  

Keep away from her as much as you can whilst she is in that mood.  Try to do things that you enjoy.  Can you get out by yourself?  It would be good if you could have some "me" time, where you only have to worry about yourself.  I think if you were alone you would manage better.  Poor Tammy, her illness is very bad.  

You take care now friend.

[mandy876]

thank you you always give me something good to think.  I enjoy getting to know you.  you are a wonderful caring person.  I don't know about the Effexor yet.  we have had some problems.  my niece is not wanting to live again and want go any where and sits and says I am bored about 50 times a day.  but she does not want to go anywhere.  thank you so much.  mandy876