Is it really risk free?

[stdanxiety1]

Hello,

I have recently been stressing about an experience I had back in June of 2014. I am a married heterosexual male but did something stupid and answered a "massage" ad post by a transexual. At the appointment, this person performed protected oral on me and then offered to let me perform anal sex on them.

I have been married for a while and was not all that experienced going into the marriage so I have never performed anal on anyone before, thus I was very nervous. Before starting, I put a fresh condom on.

I found the act very awkward and had a lot of difficulty maintaining an erection and even getting it in. I am not sure If I even successfully entered this person as I was only semi hard. I did end up ejaculating into the condom and believe the condom stayed on without incident, but I am getting nervous due to the fact that I was not very hard and also because I am not particularly endowed in the first place (condoms don't fit great).

At the time I do not remember having been concerned so the condom must have been in place. It is hard to say now since so much time has passed as it has me a little freaked out. I really want to know if this is just me being stupid worrying about it.I am scared to death about doing a test because of the possibility of false positives,if i really do not need to do one.

The CDC website gives transmission rates for one time acts to be about 11 for every 10,000 for insertive anal sex. That number seems a lot lower than I expected. I also assume with my condom use which I presume to have been successful (all ejaculate was in condom), my risk should be nil right? Please tell me there is no need to test.

[stdanxiety1]

Just tested with the Oraquick Oral Swab test just to be sure. Longest 20 minutes I have ever experienced. Came up negative, which I guess is what I should have expected. Guess I can move on now and concentrate on not making stupid mistakes.

[diver58]

Yes that would suffice

[stdanxiety1]

So I guess I do not need to test. I never had any ARS type symptoms in the 2 to 4 weeks following the incident back in June. If I were to decide to test, would the Oraquick Oral Swab test be sufficient at this juncture?

[diver58]

Yes you are right, probability of the transmission is not that high as we expect. It is nature's blessing on us that, "deadlier is the virus, more difficult is the transmission".

Having said that, it is also a fact that sometime just a single exposure is enough for the transmission to take place, therefore 100% protection is recommended every time someone gets involved with anyone, outside his/her long term mutually committed monogamous relationship. We all know very well, that that for HIV, only treatment is available, not cure,,, and care is the only cure

Coming back to your situation, it is safely believed that you are not exposed to the risk, because your penis was covered with condom, and it is safe, regardless of the degree of erection you had, because as long as crown of your penis (urethra and foreskin, if you are uncircumcised), is covered, you are safe.

Though you do not need any test for this particular exposure, however you can always go for it any time now ONLY to lay all your residual worries to rest permanently, because now you will always get a final and conclusive result.