You are non existent to me. Don’t bother.:) I know who you are,but .... if I am wrong ,.....I really hope I am....then...
I am sorry Jack !!!
That is really great...quite commendable. However from what I've been able to glimpse of you through your posts here, the only personality you would have been able to love or been able to be kind to and not make miserable would have been the dog in the whole situation. The fact that your kids learned to take care of themselves is not at all surprising. I'm sure that they learned this at a very young age.
OOPS...I almost forgot....God Bless.
Being so saintly, I'm sure you love this type of sign off.
LOL.....Can't wait for your retort. You make me smile and laugh! What a hoot you are!:)
And you are so right, SurfingSue or PVCQueen or Hineywhiney or whatever you newest alias is (your writing style is just too easy to pick out).....this is SOOO MUCH FUN!!!!
I believe in Karma. I might get mine for that, oh why oh why I am not kind with Jackie and ‘hug’ her, or maybe not, there is an ultimate truth in everything and I do not say that is mine.
I do not think the only right thing is home care for the ill and old, but it doesn’t mean our decision right if more people saying it is just from politeness, or from sorrow and I mean it in general not in this case only.
In Jackie’s case if she started to explain the whole story in her first post, the awful pounds that her poor mother in law has, I am sure I would just shut up and this conversation never took place.
…but who knows maybe I could pick up on that how the earth can somebody be over300 pounds ,while being 42 years insulin dependant!!!!????.
Sorry I am not here to hug everybody but to tell what I think. It might be useful for somebody and won’t see me as a personal attacker.
I like to see black and white somtimes.
Bad habit.:)
Rest my case.
Next we can talk about pounds, overeating and exercise!!
while the fact remains poor mother in law at the place that she HATES....life goes on...
...I feel sorry for HER.
I'm just scanning the comments and want to ask - why isn't hospice an option? JRG just said that doctors don't like to admit someone to a hospice unit. I know there's certain criteria that have to be met before someone qualifies for hospice but it sounds like the MIL is ready for that. My Dad has the best of both worlds I guess. He has hospice care at home, my Mom cares for him in her own grumpy way and my husband and I go over to care for them both (work around the house, run errands and listen to them talk about their troubles). Because of my own goofy heart and fatigue I'm not sure if I could handle full time care for them but we are certainly available and do what we can. I don't want to be a martyr but I won't feel any regrets either. I'm there for them, not because I get any benefit from it (their anger is quite toxic and draining) but as vienna said - it's the right thing to do. JRG - this isn't actually answering your question but maybe all these comments will give some more ideas and options. I know it's rough.
Not just yet. Sort of testing the waters
I think that you did a great thing in taking care of your mom is very commendable. No need to try and convince me - I'm convinced. But you can't convince me that anyone who doesn't follow your course of action, judged by reading a couple of blurbs on a website, is a bad person or taking the wrong course of action. The world would be a great/easy place to be if it were so black and white, but it simply is not that kind of world.