WELCOME TO THE MISCARRIAGE COMMUNITY!

[ArmyPrincess819]

                                                           WELCOME

This is a community full of support and understanding for those who are experiencing past or present miscarriage of for those who have loved ones or friends who may be experiecing one. Miscarriage is a very painful and emotional time. There are so many unanswered questions that we search to try to find the answers. Sometimes all we need to hear is we are not the only ones. Most of us in this community have experienced a miscarriage. That has helped this community to provide understanding and compassion to anyone who comes along. This is a safe forum where opinions may be heard and not judged. We always welcome new posts and new friends. I hope your experience in this community will be a great one. Please feel free to join everyone is welcome!

Sincerely,
ArmyPrincess819/ COMMUNITY LEADER

[MissinMyLilMan]

i am new here and just had a miscarriage at 17 weeks its very hard to just let go and move on

[EricaB28]

I am so sorry for your loss. This community is amazing, full of amazing women who are a wonderful support system. Please feel free to post questions, vent frustrations, cry, grieve, whatever you need to do. Feel free to leave me a note if you need to talk. It's hard to move on, and in a way I don't think we ever fully do.  Again, I am very sorry for your loss. I wish you a quick recovery. Good luck. :)

[EricaB28]

AP-- What a wonderful welcome. :) Good job!

[VaBreeze]

**CONGRATULATIONS** on becoming the Community Leader.  I know you will do an awesome job helping others here and couldn't think of a nicer person to do it, or more deserving.  Welcome to the MedHelp team!!!

Take care.

Breeze

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm so very sorry. It's extremely hard to let go of the pain and not look back. I wish you the best and hope that someday your pain may turn into peace. This is a whonderful forum full of support and strength and friendship that will last a lifetime. Take care and best wishes to you...

Welcome to the miscarriage community!!

[ArmyPrincess819]

Thank you so much. I'm glad you like it! I wanted the Miscarriage forum to heve their ribbon of strength too. Take care and lots of hugs,

AP

[ArmyPrincess819]

Thank you so much for the kind words. I really appreciate it. I really take my role seriously the women on here are the strongest women I have ever talked to. Thanks again your comment really means alot.

Hugs,
AP

[mjml]

Firstly Well Done AP on becoming a leader on here i hope i get to do something like that on here one day too. Thankyou so much for your recent support totally understand why they chose you.

Secondly I am so sorry to all the women here who have had a miscarriage recently I lost my baby (sky) 2 1/2 weeks ago at 12 weeks due to a cyst on my womb that had burst so I totally understand your pain. I could do with hearing from people on here who have been through or are going through the after process.

your all in my thoughts

Love MjMl xx

[ArmyPrincess819]

Thank you. I'm glad I have been able to help you. I appreciate the compliments. I was chosen yes by a few higher ups and a few women on here and I plan on staying CL forever. I'm honored and very lucky and besides being a wife and mother this is my greatest accomplishment! I love this forum and the women on here. I have had 6 m/cs which one included a 19wk pg. I know devastation and that is why I feel I can reach out and help other women in this position. Dec of last yr was when I became cl and that was a very hard month for me. Out of something bad good comes out of it as well. Thanks again.
AP- COMMUNITY LEADER!

[AsheOfHeaven]

My wife and I had a miscarriage after 1 month.  We were so overjoyed at the prospect of another child after battling secondary infertility and then Sept 07, after coming home from 8 hours of working overnight my wife tearfully announced that we had lost our little Hope (the name we picked out).  She has been able to heal and move on. I, however, feel like time has stopped and the world keeps passing me by. I want to move on, but everything seems to trigger the grief and make things feel like it's that day all over again

[mikaleen]

I am so sorry for your loss.  It's a daily battle to begin recovery, and emotional can take way longer than the physical.  I am glad to hear your wife is doing well, but sad to hear you are not.  I hope you keep talking to her, for both of your emotional hope, sometimes it can seem like someone has moved on, but really has just pushed feelings aside.  If time is not helping you heal, you can always find a support group...and talk to other parents who have sufered a loss.  Don't think that you are always going to feel like this...it may seem like forever already but you will begin to feel a little better daily...even though some days will continue to be more difficult...it will never completely go away, but it will become tolerable.  I wish you and your wife lot's of luck and health.    

[ArmyPrincess819]

Ashe- I think it says alot about the love you have for your wife. A miscarriage can affect men as much as women. My dh and I had a very hard time accepting the loss of our last m/c. We have had 6 and it's been diffacult. We have learned as husband and wife to take things day by day. Things in time will make sense and the pain will minamize to a point that you are able to tolerate it more and feel less desperate for answers or some type of closure. I'm glad you chose to come to the miscarriage forum. I find it very therapeutic for me to hear other stories. It helps me to help others and lets me know I'm not alone. I hope your experience in the miscarriage community is a great one. I'm here anytime you need to talk. This a very supportive community so feel free to post a question or feelings anytime. Best wishes to you and your wife!
AP-Communtiy Leader

[AsheOfHeaven]

Today at work I feel like I'm talking from an abyss.  Everyone seems so very far a way, nothing seems real, and I feel empty and hollow.  I feel like I'm just going through the  motions of a prescribed routine. It all feels meaningless (which is bad considering I work in ememrgency services.. ie dispatching the FD and PD.  I want to just walk away and go home, but I know that's not the right thing to do.  I just wish I know how to get  to where my wife is, and just go on with life... but for me time and the universe stopped September 200. :(

[AsheOfHeaven]

that should be September 2007 :(

[ArmyPrincess819]

Ashe- I'm so sorry. You are not alone my husbnd had these same feelings. He fought it but he is now in therapy. He is also on medication, The losses we suffered really brought his depression to the highest. Since he has gotten himself back on track now he is the positve one and i'm the negative mess. I was his rock now he's mine. it's a see saw it goes up and down and a merrigoround it goes round and round. Have you thought about therapy or a support group not only to deal with your grief and pain but your line of work. I wish you the best if you need to talk I'm always here!
AP

[AsheOfHeaven]

Yeah.. I've seen someone about the whole thing.. I feel like a train wreck.  They tell me I have PTSD from some of the incidents as well as severe depression, anxiety and depersonalization. Just last year they took me off my meds and there was actually an improvement.  Supposedly talking abou tthe whole thing and time is supposed to make things better.  I even wrote 2 letters to little Hope.  It just seems to bring the pain back when I do.  I dunno.  I guess I just give it time.

[ArmyPrincess819]

Time unfotunately is what is needed to ease the pain. I strongly feel that you need the support of a individual counselor who will help you find your own personal way of coping with your loss. You have alot on your plate. My dh does to that is why he is back on meds and getting the help he needs. We are also in marital counseling to help deal with all of our pain etc. We have suffered 6 m/cs together and now I have been diagnosed with a high risk pg. So we are being tested really tested but somehow we are surviving and gettihg through this together. I'm always here if you need to talk. If you need to you can send me a message. I hope this makes sense to you at some point. I really hope your pain minimizes.
AP
Ps I'm sure my dh would talk to you if you need to if you have a im let me know I will pass it to him!

[sakers1985]

Hey I am new here and already posted a few questions... I am glad I ran by this site cause now the more I read .. I feel that I am not alone and I am "normal". I have also been dignosed as high risk since I lost my first in 2005 and now this one 1-26-09 at 18 weeks preggo. Many prayers to all of you.

[ArmyPrincess819]

Welcome to the m/c community. I hope your experience here is a great one. Good luck.
AP

[AsheOfHeaven]

Welcome.  I hope you find this place as helpful as I have

[Sazy26]

Hi,

I am not actually new but returning to this site. I found it very hard for a while to even think about the miscarriages or pregnancy. I lost twins late last year, 1 week apart. Recently a few of my friends have fallen pregnant and it brought all the sadness up again.  I can't even bare to see them right now.

Thanks all for listening.

S in Australia

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your losses. This is a community of women who have been or are currently in your shoes. The women on here are nothing but supportive and will always be there for you to lift up your spirits and try to guide you from their own experiences. I'm always here if you need someone to talk to. I hope you find some peace soon. Best wishes to you and take care.
Hugs,
AP

[JFisch]

Hello everyone....after TTC since 2004 with DH, we received a BFP after our 2nd IUI.  I just found out today that I miscarried at 7 weeks.  We are so sad and devastated. This would have been our first baby and were so excited.  I am grateful for a site like this to help provide support.

[EricaB28]

JFisch- I am so sorry for your loss. I'm here if you need to talk. Hugs, Erica.

[steph9803]

JFisch- I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in the right place though. You won't find a better group of supportive women. It is something that you are going to have to take one day at a time.  Just make sure that you take the time to grieve right now in whatever way makes you feel better.. You and your DH will be in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*

[Itlyncutie87]

Hello ladies!

I'm new to this forum. I have been a member to medhelp for 2 years now.
I had a miscarriage feb. 7th '08 and have been TTC ever since, I had my first
IUI last Wednesday. I'm praying for the best. AF is due on 3.3.09
Keeping my fingered crossed, has anyone done and IUI and got pregnant the first
time doing it?

[bam1014]

Welcome to our forum.  This is a great group of warm supportive women.  I will say most of the gals here aren't going through fertility treatments, just a handful of us.  But that's not to say you won't be welcome to join us in this NECOT (never ending cycle of torture).  My DH and I were TTC for 2 years before our BFP, only to end in m/c.  Now I am working with my OB/GYN and next my RE.  If things don't turn around for us soon, we will be doing IUI.  Best of luck to you!

[steph9803]

Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry for your loss. Sorry, I can't help with the IUI. I will keep my fingers crossed for you though! GL

[ArmyPrincess819]

ltlyncutie87- As you can see this is a whonderful forum full of support. The women here are amazing. I myself have suffered 6 losses 2 were 2nd trimester m/cs. I have had 5 m/cs after having my 3rd child and never thought I would ever be able to carry a another pg full term. I never gave up. It was a painful road but it has only made me stronger. Best wishes to you. I hope you have a great experience here!

AP

[Itlyncutie87]

bam1014- Thank you :) Best of luck to you too!

steph9803- Thank you :) I'm hoping for the best, the 2ww always s*cks.

ArmyPrincess819- I don't know how you do it, after having all those m/c's. I give you a lot of credit. Just going though one was hard for me. GL with this pregnancy & thank you again for your support<3

[ArmyPrincess819]

It's amazing how we all find inner strength we never knew we had. One miscarriage or 6 it is all very traumatic and painful. You wil find your way the same way I did, with the help of time. As time goes by it gets easier.  I'm always here if you need to talk.
Good luck,
AP

[youme123]

I just posted my first post a few minutes ago then went to this thread.  Just reading through it made me cry - there is a lot of support out here, it seems.  I don't have anyone to talk to all day long today, except DH who is at work, and I don't want to keep calling him.  And, I can't talk to my 20 mo old about how I'm feeling - he doesn't understand why I keep crying, and I'm trying so hard not to cry in front of him.  Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for starting this thread.  Seems that you play a huge part in this forum and we need the support.  

[ArmyPrincess819]

Aww Youme123 you are not alone. All of the women in this forum are amazingly supportive and sensitive wome. We have all walked in your shoes. I came on this forum last yr so desperate just to talk to someone that felt as bad as I did and still do. Having a miscarriage is the most traumatic thing a woman can experience. There are never any happy answers and we are always left to whonder why us why Me? Over time the pain becomes more manageable and easier to deal with. If you ever need to talk I'm always her for you. You can message me anytime and I will even give you my Instant message name if you want. You now have a friend who is always here to listen to you! Take care and please feel free to post anytime you want! Welcome to the forum..
Hugs,
AP

[youme123]

Oh thank you so much.  I've already met some really amazing women, and I told DH last night that you all were the only ones who could get me through yesterday - quite easy to say one of the worst days of my life.  I really appreciate all of your support - you don't even know me, and it's so amazing how caring you are toward me!  I will certainly take all of you up on your support - I'm going to need it.  Today is my 8th wedding anniversary, and I'm feeling a little better.  The m/c started last night, so it was a terrible night.  Today is a little better - I suppose each day may be a little better.  I'm going to get a little more familiary with how to use this site better, and having your IM name is great.  Thank you so very much.  

[Mom2littleangel]

I'm new to this community but not to MedHelp. I have had 2 very premature babies & 2 miscarriages. Docs don't know why. My 1st preemie is my miracle & will be 8 years old in June. My 2nd premie is my little angel in the sky. Long story but he was 5 1/2 months old when he passed away on Sept. 2, 2007. That is the day my life & my world changed forever.

My 1st miscarriage was somewhere between my preemies. I can't even remember because I think I was in shock & disbelief that I blocked it out. My 2nd miscarriage happened a month ago. I was 9 weeks. It has made my emotions worse because I'm still struggling with the loss of my baby. And I feel like such a failure. I'm the only one in all my family to have ever lost a baby and had miscarriages. Why me? I really feel like a freak and don't belong anywhere. I feel like I'm being treated like I have cooties. Sorry for blabbing. I don't have anyone to talk to except my hubby.

Thanks for reading this & hope it wasn't too much.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm so very sorry for your losses. I can't even begin to imagine the grief you have after losing your baby. I have had 6 m/cs but I did not give birth and lose a child. You are not a failure I too blocked out my pain especially when I had a d and e at 19 wks. Last yr was the first time I talked about since going through it. Please know you did nothing to cause these losses. I hope that you can find some support here in the forum. We can relate to your emotions and feelings of dispair and frustration and just pure confusion as to why this keeps happening. Feel free to post anytime or answer any questions you feel you can help someone with. I'm here if you need to talk or just vent! Best wishes to you and take care of yourself. Give your mind body and soul time to heal! It will happen.........Best wishes to you.

AP

[cindyandnic]

hi,i just found out that my baby heart beat stopped...yesterday i went for ultrasound and the heart beat cant be found.....i saw the tiny human shape..i was so BEAUTIFUL....dr was surprise to see it happen cause she saw the heart beats on last week during my 6 weeks plus ultrasound...
gosh..i find its hard to cope with..whenever i think of it,i burst out...grieveing and thinking why...why and why..... why god wanna take back my baby after given me all those hopes and dreams..plus im alone with my hubby in oversea due to my hubby work relocation..i wish my parents are here..i felt lonely and hurt...i would give up whatever i can to protect my baby...

[butterflybabies]

Hi,
My name is Lily. My DH and I have been struggling with infertility for over 3yrs. After spending a year with a specialist who didnt help me at all I went to another Reproductive Endocrenologyst..He is wonderful. I have had 2 Lap surgeries to unblock my tubes. The 2nd surgery was on 3/4/09. It was a success. My RE told us that we can now start trying on our own. So 3 months later on June 10th I found out we were pregnant. We were overjoyed! When I was 5wks 3days I had an ultrasound. No sac or baby found anywhere. My RE suspected ectopic ( I had higher risk due to tubal surgery) So I went back for another ultrasound at 6wks 1day and we found the baby in my left tube.
We were devistated! We saw the baby on the ultrasound and he/she was perfect.  The baby even had a heartbeat..I had emergency surgery a couple hours after that appointment. I had my surgery at a catholic hospital and I signed a release paper allowing them to bury it. I take comfort in that knowing my little one is buried with all the other angels that have been lost!
I was able to keep my tube as well.. The RE wanted to remove it saying that I have a 50% chance it happens again. But after discussing it with DH we both agreed I still have a 50% chance it doesnt..Now we have to wait 2 months before trying again. I had my miscarriage bleed already and now I cant wait to start my period. Seems like its taking forever.
It has been 2wks and 2 days since they took my angel out of me...It has gotten a little easier but its still all I think about...Some days I am ok other days I cant stop crying. I am so glad that I have this place to go to and vent to women who understand what I am feeling and give words of inspiration..If anyone has had a similiar story to mine and has gone on to have a normal healthy pregnancy I'd love to hear your story.
Thanks everyone for listening and I wish us all a bfp soon and lots of sticky baby dust!!
Love,
Lily

[secondtimearound141]

Hi everyone I too am also new to this forum.  I recently had a miscarriage on wed july 8, 2009... i was 7 weeks into my pregnancy.  It is a confort knowing that there is a forum like this were ppl. can come and read similar cases.  I'm still grieving over the lost of my sweet lil' angel.  I have a 5 yr. old daughter and i was hoping that this would be my little boy.  

I feel the pain everyone is going through when they lose a child and i'm glad we can all unite in this forum and share that pain and confort eachother.

[wantababy19]

Hello. I am still drudgingly awaiting my miscarriage. They said it should occur any day now because at 6 weeks 2 days the fetus stopped growing and I'm now at 10 weeks and some days.

I found out the baby didn't have a heartbeat and was too small at my first ultrasound appointment which was 2-1/2 weeks ago. So, I have been waiting for quite a while.

I still have all of the normal pregnancy symptoms like peeing 5 times a night and sore chest. I'm definitely ready to get the miscarriage over with so I can move on. If I don't miscarry by next Thursday then they will schedule me for a D&C.

[wantababy19]

Don't feel like you are alone if you just start bursting into tears at random moments. My baby has no heart beat and I have been carrying it for 4 weeks and still awaiting miscarriage to occur. I left the house for work yesterday and just started crying and then listened to music on the way to work and cried all the way there. When I got to the office I felt like such a dope for crying. After reading all of your posts about how some of you have been feeling the same I feel better. And a few days ago after work I was just sitting on the couch and started staring at the floor and just had a wave of emotion come over me that just made me super depressed and sad. There is no way to explain to someone who hasn't had a miscarriage how it really feels. This forum is so wonderful because you have all been through it too and know what I am feeling.

[jess719]

Hi i just found this website. I had a miscarriage a week ago and have been really emotional. This was my first pregnancy now I'm wondering if i will ever be able to carry a baby. My cousin whom i am very close to is having a baby it is so hard to see her belly growing I love her and I'm happy for her but it makes me sad to know my belly won't be growing. I keep thinking what did I do wrong how could i have prevented this so this site is helping me understand what I feel is normal. Thank you for sharing your story's.

[shreddedwheat]

my hcg level last monday was 99 and then today it dropped at 37..does it mean something? help me please..been crying all day...

[shreddedwheat]

i think i lost my babies..coz my hcg level had drop from 99 to 37...it is a big drop...it is sad...i am really really sad..this is our first try for ivf..and it doesn't go well...i am so sad and depress today...someone help me...

[kapjones]

I lost my baby yesterday - 12 weeks into pregnancy.  It happened in a public bathroom (on my way to the doctor's office).  I had been bleeding heavily so I knew something was clearly wrong.  Nevertheless, when it actually happened I was more than a little dazed and shocked.  The fact that I was alone didn't help (my husband was waiting outside the bathrooms wondering what was going on).  At 12 weeks things are shockingly developed.  I couldn't get myself to really look that closely, and now I regret it.  Worse yet, I flushed the toilet and just walked away!  I flushed a baby down the toilet - really, what kind of person does that! I just didn't know what to do and was so out of it that I honestly don't even really remember the details.  A few minutes later the doctor confirmed what I already knew to be true.  Physically I feel fine, but emotionally I'm not sure how I'm feeling.  I have a wonderful 2 year old and a loving, supportive husband.  Has anyone else ever flushed the toilet this way?  I feel like a monster.