This is a community full of support and understanding for those who are experiencing past or present miscarriage of for those who have loved ones or friends who may be experiecing one. Miscarriage is a very painful and emotional time. There are so many unanswered questions that we search to try to find the answers. Sometimes all we need to hear is we are not the only ones. Most of us in this community have experienced a miscarriage. That has helped this community to provide understanding and compassion to anyone who comes along. This is a safe forum where opinions may be heard and not judged. We always welcome new posts and new friends. I hope your experience in this community will be a great one. Please feel free to join everyone is welcome!
I am so sorry for your loss. This community is amazing, full of amazing women who are a wonderful support system. Please feel free to post questions, vent frustrations, cry, grieve, whatever you need to do. Feel free to leave me a note if you need to talk. It's hard to move on, and in a way I don't think we ever fully do. Again, I am very sorry for your loss. I wish you a quick recovery. Good luck. :)
**CONGRATULATIONS** on becoming the Community Leader. I know you will do an awesome job helping others here and couldn't think of a nicer person to do it, or more deserving. Welcome to the MedHelp team!!!
I'm so very sorry. It's extremely hard to let go of the pain and not look back. I wish you the best and hope that someday your pain may turn into peace. This is a whonderful forum full of support and strength and friendship that will last a lifetime. Take care and best wishes to you...
Thank you so much for the kind words. I really appreciate it. I really take my role seriously the women on here are the strongest women I have ever talked to. Thanks again your comment really means alot.
Firstly Well Done AP on becoming a leader on here i hope i get to do something like that on here one day too. Thankyou so much for your recent support totally understand why they chose you.
Secondly I am so sorry to all the women here who have had a miscarriage recently I lost my baby (sky) 2 1/2 weeks ago at 12 weeks due to a cyst on my womb that had burst so I totally understand your pain. I could do with hearing from people on here who have been through or are going through the after process.
Thank you. I'm glad I have been able to help you. I appreciate the compliments. I was chosen yes by a few higher ups and a few women on here and I plan on staying CL forever. I'm honored and very lucky and besides being a wife and mother this is my greatest accomplishment! I love this forum and the women on here. I have had 6 m/cs which one included a 19wk pg. I know devastation and that is why I feel I can reach out and help other women in this position. Dec of last yr was when I became cl and that was a very hard month for me. Out of something bad good comes out of it as well. Thanks again.
AP- COMMUNITY LEADER!
My wife and I had a miscarriage after 1 month. We were so overjoyed at the prospect of another child after battling secondary infertility and then Sept 07, after coming home from 8 hours of working overnight my wife tearfully announced that we had lost our little Hope (the name we picked out). She has been able to heal and move on. I, however, feel like time has stopped and the world keeps passing me by. I want to move on, but everything seems to trigger the grief and make things feel like it's that day all over again
I am so sorry for your loss. It's a daily battle to begin recovery, and emotional can take way longer than the physical. I am glad to hear your wife is doing well, but sad to hear you are not. I hope you keep talking to her, for both of your emotional hope, sometimes it can seem like someone has moved on, but really has just pushed feelings aside. If time is not helping you heal, you can always find a support group...and talk to other parents who have sufered a loss. Don't think that you are always going to feel like this...it may seem like forever already but you will begin to feel a little better daily...even though some days will continue to be more difficult...it will never completely go away, but it will become tolerable. I wish you and your wife lot's of luck and health.
Ashe- I think it says alot about the love you have for your wife. A miscarriage can affect men as much as women. My dh and I had a very hard time accepting the loss of our last m/c. We have had 6 and it's been diffacult. We have learned as husband and wife to take things day by day. Things in time will make sense and the pain will minamize to a point that you are able to tolerate it more and feel less desperate for answers or some type of closure. I'm glad you chose to come to the miscarriage forum. I find it very therapeutic for me to hear other stories. It helps me to help others and lets me know I'm not alone. I hope your experience in the miscarriage community is a great one. I'm here anytime you need to talk. This a very supportive community so feel free to post a question or feelings anytime. Best wishes to you and your wife!
Today at work I feel like I'm talking from an abyss. Everyone seems so very far a way, nothing seems real, and I feel empty and hollow. I feel like I'm just going through the motions of a prescribed routine. It all feels meaningless (which is bad considering I work in ememrgency services.. ie dispatching the FD and PD. I want to just walk away and go home, but I know that's not the right thing to do. I just wish I know how to get to where my wife is, and just go on with life... but for me time and the universe stopped September 200. :(
Ashe- I'm so sorry. You are not alone my husbnd had these same feelings. He fought it but he is now in therapy. He is also on medication, The losses we suffered really brought his depression to the highest. Since he has gotten himself back on track now he is the positve one and i'm the negative mess. I was his rock now he's mine. it's a see saw it goes up and down and a merrigoround it goes round and round. Have you thought about therapy or a support group not only to deal with your grief and pain but your line of work. I wish you the best if you need to talk I'm always here!
Yeah.. I've seen someone about the whole thing.. I feel like a train wreck. They tell me I have PTSD from some of the incidents as well as severe depression, anxiety and depersonalization. Just last year they took me off my meds and there was actually an improvement. Supposedly talking abou tthe whole thing and time is supposed to make things better. I even wrote 2 letters to little Hope. It just seems to bring the pain back when I do. I dunno. I guess I just give it time.
Time unfotunately is what is needed to ease the pain. I strongly feel that you need the support of a individual counselor who will help you find your own personal way of coping with your loss. You have alot on your plate. My dh does to that is why he is back on meds and getting the help he needs. We are also in marital counseling to help deal with all of our pain etc. We have suffered 6 m/cs together and now I have been diagnosed with a high risk pg. So we are being tested really tested but somehow we are surviving and gettihg through this together. I'm always here if you need to talk. If you need to you can send me a message. I hope this makes sense to you at some point. I really hope your pain minimizes.
Ps I'm sure my dh would talk to you if you need to if you have a im let me know I will pass it to him!
Hey I am new here and already posted a few questions... I am glad I ran by this site cause now the more I read .. I feel that I am not alone and I am "normal". I have also been dignosed as high risk since I lost my first in 2005 and now this one 1-26-09 at 18 weeks preggo. Many prayers to all of you.
I am not actually new but returning to this site. I found it very hard for a while to even think about the miscarriages or pregnancy. I lost twins late last year, 1 week apart. Recently a few of my friends have fallen pregnant and it brought all the sadness up again. I can't even bare to see them right now.
I'm sorry for your losses. This is a community of women who have been or are currently in your shoes. The women on here are nothing but supportive and will always be there for you to lift up your spirits and try to guide you from their own experiences. I'm always here if you need someone to talk to. I hope you find some peace soon. Best wishes to you and take care.
Hello everyone....after TTC since 2004 with DH, we received a BFP after our 2nd IUI. I just found out today that I miscarried at 7 weeks. We are so sad and devastated. This would have been our first baby and were so excited. I am grateful for a site like this to help provide support.
JFisch- I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in the right place though. You won't find a better group of supportive women. It is something that you are going to have to take one day at a time. Just make sure that you take the time to grieve right now in whatever way makes you feel better.. You and your DH will be in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*
I'm new to this forum. I have been a member to medhelp for 2 years now.
I had a miscarriage feb. 7th '08 and have been TTC ever since, I had my first
IUI last Wednesday. I'm praying for the best. AF is due on 3.3.09
Keeping my fingered crossed, has anyone done and IUI and got pregnant the first
time doing it?
Welcome to our forum. This is a great group of warm supportive women. I will say most of the gals here aren't going through fertility treatments, just a handful of us. But that's not to say you won't be welcome to join us in this NECOT (never ending cycle of torture). My DH and I were TTC for 2 years before our BFP, only to end in m/c. Now I am working with my OB/GYN and next my RE. If things don't turn around for us soon, we will be doing IUI. Best of luck to you!
ltlyncutie87- As you can see this is a whonderful forum full of support. The women here are amazing. I myself have suffered 6 losses 2 were 2nd trimester m/cs. I have had 5 m/cs after having my 3rd child and never thought I would ever be able to carry a another pg full term. I never gave up. It was a painful road but it has only made me stronger. Best wishes to you. I hope you have a great experience here!
steph9803- Thank you :) I'm hoping for the best, the 2ww always s*cks.
ArmyPrincess819- I don't know how you do it, after having all those m/c's. I give you a lot of credit. Just going though one was hard for me. GL with this pregnancy & thank you again for your support<3
It's amazing how we all find inner strength we never knew we had. One miscarriage or 6 it is all very traumatic and painful. You wil find your way the same way I did, with the help of time. As time goes by it gets easier. I'm always here if you need to talk.
I just posted my first post a few minutes ago then went to this thread. Just reading through it made me cry - there is a lot of support out here, it seems. I don't have anyone to talk to all day long today, except DH who is at work, and I don't want to keep calling him. And, I can't talk to my 20 mo old about how I'm feeling - he doesn't understand why I keep crying, and I'm trying so hard not to cry in front of him. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for starting this thread. Seems that you play a huge part in this forum and we need the support.
Aww Youme123 you are not alone. All of the women in this forum are amazingly supportive and sensitive wome. We have all walked in your shoes. I came on this forum last yr so desperate just to talk to someone that felt as bad as I did and still do. Having a miscarriage is the most traumatic thing a woman can experience. There are never any happy answers and we are always left to whonder why us why Me? Over time the pain becomes more manageable and easier to deal with. If you ever need to talk I'm always her for you. You can message me anytime and I will even give you my Instant message name if you want. You now have a friend who is always here to listen to you! Take care and please feel free to post anytime you want! Welcome to the forum..
Oh thank you so much. I've already met some really amazing women, and I told DH last night that you all were the only ones who could get me through yesterday - quite easy to say one of the worst days of my life. I really appreciate all of your support - you don't even know me, and it's so amazing how caring you are toward me! I will certainly take all of you up on your support - I'm going to need it. Today is my 8th wedding anniversary, and I'm feeling a little better. The m/c started last night, so it was a terrible night. Today is a little better - I suppose each day may be a little better. I'm going to get a little more familiary with how to use this site better, and having your IM name is great. Thank you so very much.
I'm new to this community but not to MedHelp. I have had 2 very premature babies & 2 miscarriages. Docs don't know why. My 1st preemie is my miracle & will be 8 years old in June. My 2nd premie is my little angel in the sky. Long story but he was 5 1/2 months old when he passed away on Sept. 2, 2007. That is the day my life & my world changed forever.
My 1st miscarriage was somewhere between my preemies. I can't even remember because I think I was in shock & disbelief that I blocked it out. My 2nd miscarriage happened a month ago. I was 9 weeks. It has made my emotions worse because I'm still struggling with the loss of my baby. And I feel like such a failure. I'm the only one in all my family to have ever lost a baby and had miscarriages. Why me? I really feel like a freak and don't belong anywhere. I feel like I'm being treated like I have cooties. Sorry for blabbing. I don't have anyone to talk to except my hubby.
Thanks for reading this & hope it wasn't too much.
I'm so very sorry for your losses. I can't even begin to imagine the grief you have after losing your baby. I have had 6 m/cs but I did not give birth and lose a child. You are not a failure I too blocked out my pain especially when I had a d and e at 19 wks. Last yr was the first time I talked about since going through it. Please know you did nothing to cause these losses. I hope that you can find some support here in the forum. We can relate to your emotions and feelings of dispair and frustration and just pure confusion as to why this keeps happening. Feel free to post anytime or answer any questions you feel you can help someone with. I'm here if you need to talk or just vent! Best wishes to you and take care of yourself. Give your mind body and soul time to heal! It will happen.........Best wishes to you.
hi,i just found out that my baby heart beat stopped...yesterday i went for ultrasound and the heart beat cant be found.....i saw the tiny human shape..i was so BEAUTIFUL....dr was surprise to see it happen cause she saw the heart beats on last week during my 6 weeks plus ultrasound...
gosh..i find its hard to cope with..whenever i think of it,i burst out...grieveing and thinking why...why and why..... why god wanna take back my baby after given me all those hopes and dreams..plus im alone with my hubby in oversea due to my hubby work relocation..i wish my parents are here..i felt lonely and hurt...i would give up whatever i can to protect my baby...
My name is Lily. My DH and I have been struggling with infertility for over 3yrs. After spending a year with a specialist who didnt help me at all I went to another Reproductive Endocrenologyst..He is wonderful. I have had 2 Lap surgeries to unblock my tubes. The 2nd surgery was on 3/4/09. It was a success. My RE told us that we can now start trying on our own. So 3 months later on June 10th I found out we were pregnant. We were overjoyed! When I was 5wks 3days I had an ultrasound. No sac or baby found anywhere. My RE suspected ectopic ( I had higher risk due to tubal surgery) So I went back for another ultrasound at 6wks 1day and we found the baby in my left tube.
We were devistated! We saw the baby on the ultrasound and he/she was perfect. The baby even had a heartbeat..I had emergency surgery a couple hours after that appointment. I had my surgery at a catholic hospital and I signed a release paper allowing them to bury it. I take comfort in that knowing my little one is buried with all the other angels that have been lost!
I was able to keep my tube as well.. The RE wanted to remove it saying that I have a 50% chance it happens again. But after discussing it with DH we both agreed I still have a 50% chance it doesnt..Now we have to wait 2 months before trying again. I had my miscarriage bleed already and now I cant wait to start my period. Seems like its taking forever.
It has been 2wks and 2 days since they took my angel out of me...It has gotten a little easier but its still all I think about...Some days I am ok other days I cant stop crying. I am so glad that I have this place to go to and vent to women who understand what I am feeling and give words of inspiration..If anyone has had a similiar story to mine and has gone on to have a normal healthy pregnancy I'd love to hear your story.
Thanks everyone for listening and I wish us all a bfp soon and lots of sticky baby dust!!
Hi everyone I too am also new to this forum. I recently had a miscarriage on wed july 8, 2009... i was 7 weeks into my pregnancy. It is a confort knowing that there is a forum like this were ppl. can come and read similar cases. I'm still grieving over the lost of my sweet lil' angel. I have a 5 yr. old daughter and i was hoping that this would be my little boy.
I feel the pain everyone is going through when they lose a child and i'm glad we can all unite in this forum and share that pain and confort eachother.
Hello. I am still drudgingly awaiting my miscarriage. They said it should occur any day now because at 6 weeks 2 days the fetus stopped growing and I'm now at 10 weeks and some days.
I found out the baby didn't have a heartbeat and was too small at my first ultrasound appointment which was 2-1/2 weeks ago. So, I have been waiting for quite a while.
I still have all of the normal pregnancy symptoms like peeing 5 times a night and sore chest. I'm definitely ready to get the miscarriage over with so I can move on. If I don't miscarry by next Thursday then they will schedule me for a D&C.
Don't feel like you are alone if you just start bursting into tears at random moments. My baby has no heart beat and I have been carrying it for 4 weeks and still awaiting miscarriage to occur. I left the house for work yesterday and just started crying and then listened to music on the way to work and cried all the way there. When I got to the office I felt like such a dope for crying. After reading all of your posts about how some of you have been feeling the same I feel better. And a few days ago after work I was just sitting on the couch and started staring at the floor and just had a wave of emotion come over me that just made me super depressed and sad. There is no way to explain to someone who hasn't had a miscarriage how it really feels. This forum is so wonderful because you have all been through it too and know what I am feeling.
Hi i just found this website. I had a miscarriage a week ago and have been really emotional. This was my first pregnancy now I'm wondering if i will ever be able to carry a baby. My cousin whom i am very close to is having a baby it is so hard to see her belly growing I love her and I'm happy for her but it makes me sad to know my belly won't be growing. I keep thinking what did I do wrong how could i have prevented this so this site is helping me understand what I feel is normal. Thank you for sharing your story's.
i think i lost my babies..coz my hcg level had drop from 99 to 37...it is a big drop...it is sad...i am really really sad..this is our first try for ivf..and it doesn't go well...i am so sad and depress today...someone help me...
I lost my baby yesterday - 12 weeks into pregnancy. It happened in a public bathroom (on my way to the doctor's office). I had been bleeding heavily so I knew something was clearly wrong. Nevertheless, when it actually happened I was more than a little dazed and shocked. The fact that I was alone didn't help (my husband was waiting outside the bathrooms wondering what was going on). At 12 weeks things are shockingly developed. I couldn't get myself to really look that closely, and now I regret it. Worse yet, I flushed the toilet and just walked away! I flushed a baby down the toilet - really, what kind of person does that! I just didn't know what to do and was so out of it that I honestly don't even really remember the details. A few minutes later the doctor confirmed what I already knew to be true. Physically I feel fine, but emotionally I'm not sure how I'm feeling. I have a wonderful 2 year old and a loving, supportive husband. Has anyone else ever flushed the toilet this way? I feel like a monster.
Wow, poor girl. That must have been shocking to see. I have read stories of miscarrying naturally, and none of them are very nice. I had a d&c the day after I found out I lost mine at 12 weeks. (Baby measured 8w3d) You are not a monster!! I'm sure if I was faced with the same situation I would have panicked too.
That reminds me of what I did when my cat had several stillborn kittens. I picked them up as soon as they popped out and flushed them down the toilet without even thinking, and afterwards felt sooo guilty, thinking that maybe they just needed to be taken out of their sacks..I know its not the same thing..But still..
I have read some of the postings and if anyone can understand what I am going through it is you ladies. I just had a miscarriage at 17 wk, I was induced last Thursday. It has been the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my life. I miss my precious boy.
i recently found out i was pregnant and i have had light pink and light blood spotting.. and i went to the hospital and they took a ultrasound and its not a eptopic pregnancy but they said it seems as if the baby has stopped growing and i will mostly likely miscarry but my hcg was 3179 but i stopped bleeding with the bed rest.. and now i have very dark brown spotting and its alot it takes about three to four wipes for it to stop and it goes into the toilet does that mean i lost it or that i started my period.. but now i back to light spotting of a dark blood.. and it comes and go ugh i am so confused someone please help me
I read your your story with complete understanding, I had 2 miscarriages last year, the second one was end of June 2009, we have been trying eversince, I totally know what you are going through, sometimes I am upbeat and positive, and other days I am low, sad and angry, everyone around us is pregnant and it really really hurts. We have been trying in total for 18 months. I find it so heard to sleep, I am up for hours wondering if my husband and I will ever have children, it is my dream. It makes me angry when people say it will happen, just relax, but I can't relax until I get pregnant!! We have had the basic tests done, blood tests, spem count, ovaries ok, but my doctor is referring us to the Fertility clinic, so I can have further tests done, maybe my Fallopain tubes are blocked and that's why we haven't conceived since? My husband is also desperate for a baby, we both are, we have been together for 10 years, married for 2. I pray everyday, but sometimes lose faith. Each month that passes feels like a year, and the disappointment is torture when we have realised that we are not pregnant. I hope that you are still trying and your still positive, I hope that 2010 is a better year for us all.
I just went through my first miscarriage, the baby was 13 weeks. They estimated that the baby stopped growing about 5 weeks ago, we did see a heartbeat once, but after that I guess something went wrong. My husband and I are coping as best as we can but I feel so upset and angry that this happened to us. We were looking forward to having our second child and this was my second pregnancy. We feel grateful to have our daughter who almost 7 months, but also so sad that she won't have her baby brother/sister. I can't bear thinking of becoming pregnant again and still have aches and pains as still going through the process.
For everyone that is going through or has been through the same, I really feel for you as well. Thankfully we are not alone in our pain and have supportive people around us.
hi i was 12 weeks pregnant with my first when i started bleeding, it was painless bleeding and i got rushed to AnE, i was kept in untill the next day where i had a scan and everything showed up was fine. they thought it was a failed twin or a hemorage but said that my baby was fine. so in and out of hospital for scans and plenty of rest the next 2 weeks i then started clotting i went back to the hospital where they said i had low fluid in my babys sac he had a good strong heartbeat tho. but said it looks like i will misscarry they waited another few days to see what happend then sent me for another scan my baby was still alive but all the fluid had gone completely, i had to make the discision of waiting natually to give birth or be induced, they adviced me to be induced because id been bleeding for over 3 weeks now and was really poorly, i could get an infection so i had to be induced, after 9 hours i gave birth to my lovely baby that i miss so much and feel so bad for, but it was best for me and my baby, i then had to go on and have a blood transfusion, so im so very sorry for all u mums out there in simila situation i wish doctors could help us more as its so heartbreaking... love goes out to you all.. and my precious precious lil baby xx
new to the community here were 41 common law married for 5 years in Canada BC vancouver and so much in love with each other we decided not to get married its just a legal paper to spend money on wed rather spend that money on trying for a baby.
I had a m/c on june 20th passed the embryo at 8 weeks old saw the formation begin to happen with the skin starting or so it looked like skin formming on it. saw where the embryo was the head arm and feet stubs. no one was around to comfort me till a few days later. however i look at it this way at least we were fertile enough and i didnt need a d&c this round. we are 41 trying for a first one yet.
I went to the hospital on the 4 june and they told me there was no heartbeat, i was 9 weeks and 4 days, they gave me 3 options let it go naturally, take tablets or hv a dnc, i chose to let nature take ts course, after 2 weeks nothing happened, i went in and decided to take the tablets, now i no that wasthe worst decision i have ever made. i took 1 tablet last tuesday and had to go back last thursday to have 4 pesiries inserted into me. i went through labour till the baby passed. i was in hospital for 10 hours waiting. it finally happened. i was then asked to sign a form because it was a recognisable foetus it had to be cremated, i recieved a phone call yesterday from funeral directors telling me that they are holding a funeral for my baby next tues 29 at te crematorium, its killing me and i feel as if my head is very screed up. Has anyone else been in this position and how did you overcome it all
i had a miscarrige 2 weeks ago and i was 4 weeks 5 days. i went to the hospital and the doctor didnt tell me i had to wait for 2-3 cycles before trying again so as soon as my bleeding stopped, me and my fiance had unproected sex and now i may be pregnant again and i'm scared to death.i cant handle another miscarriage at all.
hello ladies i was 12 weeks pregnant when i went into labor . I went to the er because i was bleeding and it felt like i was having contractions . the nurse told me i was miscarrying most likely and wouldnt be having contractions . i have four kids and i know what labors feels like . unfortunately i was out of town with my boyfriend for work and had no one to watch my two children that went out of town so i had my 12 year old son and my 6 mth old baby with me . they put me in a room and told me to put on the gown . i felt a sudden urge to push . naturally my body began to push . after a few pushes i gave birth to my baby in my hands . my oldest son was right there . i had a d and e done . since then it has been really hard . sometimes i dont even want to get out of bed . me and my now fiance have been trying to concieve .every month i get my hopes up . this month i even began lactating and just knew for sure i was pregnant . but another negative test was all i got . i dont know what to do . and to be honest all i want is baby back . i dont understand how and why god could give me such a gift and then take it away . my youngest sister found out she was pregnant a few days ago with her first . i found myself somewhat jealous . i guess i just need some people who have been through the same thing to talk to .
There is nothing I hate more than when people think you are crazy for knowing your own body. Really bothers me so I try to be as confident as possible but that is hard. Your experience sounds like it was extremely difficult. I had my miscarriage 4 weeks ago and I just wish it was all a dream and I was still growing. I see pregnant people everywhere! I know I have to be strong for my kids and keep myself healthy so that I can try again to and give them a sibling. You are not alone.
Im sorry for your loss. How did your son take it? He must have been really upset to see his mom go through such a terrible ordeal. I've had 2 MC and the first one it felt like contractions. Even the nurse told me they pretty much are contractions.
It's normal to feel jelous. My 2nd MC was this January at 8 weeks and I was SUPER DEPRESSED after. Noone seemed to understand the grief except those here in the forums who felt the same way. Then I found out my good friend was pregnant and she had concieve the same time as I did, so I had to hear her talk about all the ultrasounds and pregnancy stuff that I was supposed to be doing. I tried not to talk to her as much as I can unless she spraked conversation. I was so jelous that it was her and not me.
Luckly I got pregnant again soon after so now i'm at 17 weeks and praying all goes well with this pregnancy. She is about to have her baby soon and well now I am happy for her. But I bet had I not gotten pregnant I would have been Really upset right now wishing it were me!!
It's normal to feel like the way you do. I couldn't understand how God could remove my baby from me. I even heard a song on the radio which i would play on repeat the day I MC.
I'll never forget my angel. Keep faith.
hello everyone. i would just like to say a huge thank you to everyone on this forum. i recently had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks, it took a gruelling three weeks for it to be confirmed with every hour feeling like a week. but coming onto this site really helped not only me but my boyfriend too. it's our first baby together but my 6th miscarriage. making it hard for us both in different ways. the advice and support of the ladies on here is phenomenal. it really helped to know i wasn't alone. I'm now being referred to the recurrent miscarriages clinic and will absolutely be visiting here a LOT more often in my journey of conception and beyond, keeping everyone updated as to how it's going and keeping myself sane taking your sound advice. thanks again. xx
I had my spotting begun on june 29th,2010.Went to my doctor,had an u/s and i had only 4weeks sac without fetal pole when i'm supposed to be at 6 weeks(i'm sure of my dates).doctor told that i started to miscarry and no intervention needed.Finally i had cramps started on july 2nd and i had cramps for 3 days and i bled like my periods(didn't bleed heavily).
Returned to my doctor after 2 weeks and had an u/s.my uterus was empty but they can see some clots at my cervix and my doctor told me probably i'll bleed lightly for another 2 weeks.Went to the doctor again after 2 weeks,still i'm continuously spotting with some lite bleeding.Again had an u/s and the same findings but with less clots at cervix.My doctor didn't do my hcg levels and he said it may take another 2 weeks.I took a home pregnancy test and it came out clear negative.On august 12th ,2010 suddenly i started bleeding bright red blood for one and half day and i saw few pieces like tissue coming out with bleeding(thought those were the cause of my bleeding).From then i again started to spot and with light bleeding till today.
Not knowing what to do?This is disturbing me psychologically.Is this common?Why i'm still spotting(almost its been like more than 6 weeks).Do i require d&c,actually i don't want to go for that.Thank u for ur patience.any solution for my problem?THANK U.
hi Iam new here. I never thought I would. I was 6 weeks pregnant. I thought everything was good but my doctor called and said the HCG level was going down so she did a ultrasound. See the baby but small. She said for us to give it another day. I went by myself DH was working. She took blood again and said the baby stopped growing and to do a d/c. That was the hardest thing to do. It hurt so much. I asked her to stop for a min cause it hurt so much as I looked up I seen a baby picture and started to cry. Now I am trying to move on but its hard. I feel for all you women who have went though this. God bless you!
I share each and everyone's grief on this board. If you have gone through or are going through a MC, you are all in my thoughts.
Have been married for 10 years and have been TTC for 5 years. We have been seeing a fertility specialist for the past 9 months and the problem was with my husband. With a few antibiotics and vitamins the doctor managed to increase his sperm quality. I fell pregnant 2 months ago on our 10 year anniversary. We were over the moon by the news. Our first scan was at 6w2d and there were a little heartbeat. It was such an amazing experience and one that I will probably never forget in my whole life. The second scan last week Wednesday at 9w2d was probably the worst experience of my life. I had a transvaginal scan and the first thing that popped on the monitor was a beautiful little baby. It looked perfect. My husband and I were super excited seeing the little one. The Doctor soon trashed our excitement with his worried face and when I looked back at the monitor I realised that the little mini us had no heartbeat. When the doctor measured the fetus it was two days ahead of schedule. I had my hopes up for a split second when the Doctor said he is sorry but the baby must have died a few hours before. Words cannot describe how I felt.
He scheduled another appointment for Friday to see if there were any changes but I already knew by Thursday that my baby is no longer alive seeing that ALL my pregnancy symptoms have vanished. All of a sudden I miss having morning sickness and tender breasts.
I have to go back today for them to insert the pills to soften up the cervix and tomorrow they will do the D&C. I am so scared and emotional and have no idea what to expect. In my home country my doctor always educates his patients on what the body is going through no matter what the illness. Here where we live now its different. It is also very hard to go through this MC without the support of our family.
Good luck to you all with the healing process. I trust that soon we can share our beautiful pregnancy stories and have little baby talks for hours on end.
i am 6 weeks pregnant i started having brownish discharge 2 days ago then today when for a scan to check and the baby and the heartbeat we fine but there was a concern as they noticed the fluid around the baby i was starting to lose some and then i get home and go to sleep for an hour or two waking up in a bit of pain and then started to bleed pretty heavy like a period but now its gone again what could this be? does it mean miscarriage? can someone help me please i am 23 this my 2nd pregnancy i am really worried and doctors not seeming give me the advice i need
i am new here and having a hard time. i just lost my baby at 10 weeks. found out on Dec g 2010 that my baby was no longer alive. i have so much guilt over not being happy because that would have been baby 7 and it was a very unexpected pregnancy. it took until the 26th to pass everything. i do not know how to deal with this. i feel it is my fault and i don't deserve to grieve because i did not want to be pregnant. i have never been through this and feel like so many people think because i never held this child i should be over it. r they right and me wrong. could really use some support from people who have been there. i feel so alone and confused.
Please see my comment on your other post. Don't feel guilty, you did not do this, you had every right to feel the way you did and every right to feel the way you do. It is your miscarriage and nobody else's, nobody can tell you how you "should" feel. Get your rest and get back your normal tone (pregnancy hormones really spill over and make you almost feel crazy after a miscarriage). Take care.
Hello am new here, miscarried @16wks (Nov16 2010) just a little scared went 2 doctors (on Jan 21 2011) and tested positive for pregnancy. Very unexpected !!!! I haven't had my menstrual in two months but no other symptoms. Tomorrow 02/02/11 going to get my blood results, crossing my fingers
Hi, i'm new here and would really love to get some answers and support, i just keep crying n dont no wat to do with myself,
when i first did the pregnancy test that confirmed i where pregnant, i added the dates up and it said 9-10weeks gone, after visiting the midwife, ect.. i started having quite strong pains (not like period pains) .. so i took my self to the hospital, (better to be safe than sorry) .. i had a scan with the vaginal wand.. she was confused about the dates i'd told her because the scan showed i'm only 6weeks, she looked around my womb for 5-10mins and couldn't discover a heartbeat.. she asked me to come back a week later. i returned on friday 4th feb, another scan with the vaginal wand.. after only a few seconds of her inserting it, she said '' it doesn't look good '' , she said the sack has grown but the fetal hasn't and still there was no heartbeat, the nurse handed me a '' missed miscarriage '' booklet , at this point i'm thinking ( she obviously thinks it's dead ), she offered me 2 options, i can come back in a week and try again, or have an operation as my body has not physically removed the (miscarridge) itself. Not wanting to believe it's dead, i took the option of coming back on friday 11th feb. I have no pains, Normal coloured Discharge, and no bleeding what so ever. Me and my partner hope its a miricle baby, but i dont want to get my hopes up, to be even more distraught on friday. I'm scared about accepting the operation, because i keep thinking i haven't given the baby time to grow, but i know i can't keep waiting week after week for something that isn't coming. I have thought of something which i think may have happened, i think my dates i calculated where correct, i think i may actually be 9-10weeks, but maybe the baby died at 6 weeks and hasn't grown since? , please can somebody give me advice
As of today I would be 9 weeks pregnant, but unfortunately on Monday I learned that my baby no longer has a heartbeat. I am devastated. I just heard and saw the heartbeat two weeks ago and now there isn't one. My poor baby is still in me, but no longer living. I think that is one of the hardest realizations ever. How can I have this being in me, yet not be able to provide it with life. I feel as though I must have done something wrong, but no matter how much I rack my brain I can't think of a single thing. I feel cheated and have been asking why. I know there aren't answers, but I still would like to know. This has been very hard for me and my husband. We both have wanted another baby for so long. Last night was really bad for us. My boys went to sleep and my hubby and I just held each other and cried. When will the pain stop.
I may have to schedule a d & c and the thought of that scares me and makes me uneasy. How can I just willing get rid of my precious baby? How do you get past it? I really need to know that what I'm feeling is ok and that I can make it through.
I found out I was pregnant the day after my birthday. I noticed a little spotting and thought it was normal but then I started having cramping. The bleeding was getting worse. A week in a half later, I was at work and I passed out. I went to the ER and was told that I had a miscarriage. I was almost 5 weeks along. I'm still noticing that I'm getting bad headache and dizziness now. I'm going to the doctor today to see if everything is ok. I lost a daughter when I was 39 weeks pregnany that was a stillborn. My husband and I are hoping to have another baby.
I'm so glad I found this forum. I am going through my 2nd m/c right now, and have never felt so alone and awful. I feel like no one cares, but really they just can't understand what this feels like. I feel like a failure as a woman and a daughter, even though I know that is crazy. I just want to give a baby to my husband and to my parents, and I can' t seem to do that. I could barely handle the first loss in December (at 10 weeks), and so I feel like I don't know what to do now with the 2nd one (found at at 10 weeks, but the baby was only 6). I can't go through this again and have to act like I am fine on the outside, when on the inside I am a complete train wreck. I want my 2 babies back. That's all I want. My first due date is coming up in June, and I know it's going to kill me.... Thank you for offering a place of support where people DO understand what this feels like!
Went for our dating scan and found out we had miscarried at 11 weeks 4 days...that was 2 weeks today, had d&c 1 week 1 day ago. The memory of seeing a large gestational scan and a baby with no heartbeat will always haunt me, It's so hard to let go knowing how close we came to the end of the first trimester. We've started trying again but im not sure whether it's too soon for my body? Bled after the d&c for a few days, it started to go brown (old blood i guess), have been trying and now have started bleeding again with clots, What does everyone think? Too soon after the d&c op? :/. Our little family would be perfect if we could just have what we want and have wanted for a long time :(
Replies would be amazing!
Hi everyone. This is my first pregnancy/miscarriage. I went to the ER on Mother's Day, 10 days after getting BFP. I started cramping and spotting 1 day prior and figured I would go. I had an U/S and the Tech said she didn't see anything except a cyst on my right ovary (which I found out later helps the pregnancy and is on the ovary that released the egg) She said I could possibly be earlier than I thought. (Which confused me more because although the pregnancy was a total surprise, I only BD 1 time that month and I am regular 28 days, so when I used calculator I actually BD on my ovulation date! I knew the time conception occurred could throw everything off) Well the DR came in and said my hcg was 39 and he doesn't consider it positive til 50! And he didn't think I was pregnant but since I was "trying" he wouldn't give me pain pills!! He said it was probably the cyst that made my hcg go up. So I worried, became depressed, researched and everything thinking the cyst I had was cancerous. Well needless to say after all the poking and prodding from the ER I bled heavy, bright red blood for 3 days and then the last day I had contractions (which I never had them before but I knew) I timed them apart and they were way stronger than my normal cramps. I never felt that pain before so I ran to the restroom because it felt like a bowel movement too. Well I passed a reddish-blackish and gray slug like clot. Afterward I felt a little better and continued to bleed for a few days. Nothing heavy. So I went to see an OBGYN and he explained some things to me and told me never to go back to that ER because anything above hcg 5 is pregnant. But that my urine test was negative this time and that they didn't need to do a blood test. And that the gray slug clot I saw was the gestation sac. He told me I could expect my cycle to return 4-8 weeks. Then I saw my regular GYN and she explained further saying she's surprised I didn't get ultrasounds and if my period doesn't return that they'll investigate further. She said the cyst didn't hurt the pregnancy and none of my other medical conditions. She gave me a blood test and I'll find out if it's gone back to 0. I want to buy a urine test so badly just to ease my mind or have a glimpse of hope. I just needed to vent, thank you ladies. I researched that NSAIDS can cause miscarriages. I remember taking many of them for a bad tooth and after I got it pulled. I feel so bad because I didn't know about the pain medicine or else I would have taken Tylenol. I didn't know I was pregnant at the time either but ppl say don't feel guilty even though it's apart of grieving. I will ask my DR about NSAIDS when I find out my results. I searched this whole internet for answers each time after the DR visit when I forgot to ask them or needed assurance. Hopefully this answers someone's question out there. =)
*An Angel in the book of life wrote down our baby's birth, and whispered as she closed the book; "Too beautiful for earth."
Hi I'm new to this site, and must say found it very helpfull. I'm 24 years old, and Just went through a missed miscarriage, had a D & C last wk. Can't get over the pain. I' ve been married for 8 months and this was our first child. The only thing going through my mind is if I will ever be able to have any children :(
My husband and I have has several miscarriages. 3 to be exact, maybe more. After my 3rd they tested me for a blood clotting disorder. It came back positive three different ways. When my husband and I become pregnant again, I will have to take a shot one time each day. I am already taking the special vit. called metanx it opens your blood vessels and i also take a baby asrain a day. They found a cyst on my only overy, my left one. He was able to remove the cyst without the overy. He didn't find endometosis. He said my tubes were clean as a whissel. I started my cycle the very next day after my surgery. I counted 12 days. Then the next 7 I would be ovulating. So we are trying. I won't find anything out yet, its still too soon. Maybe saturday? The whole surgry I think is a blessing, because after a surgry it is easy to get pregnant. I know how it feels to lose a baby. Especially when pregnancy is everywhere you go.. Some encouargment from me is to read: 1samual Chapters 1 and 2 in the HOLY BIBLE and exodus 23 verse 25-26. Also TBN prayer line the number is 1-800-365-3732. I really hope and pray this helps someone. May God Bless you! We are to praise God in the good times and praise God in the bad times. Gods ways are always good and for the best. God knows more than we do. Even though sometimes we don't understand we arae to trust him and thank him for what we do have.. Satan comes to kill, steal, and distroy, but Jesus came to give us a real and abundant life. All you have to do is ask him to come live in you..( ABC)... Accept.. Believe.. Confess..
You are so young and strong and you will have another. I have a story, not quite the same and maybe it will help. My mother had her first born, a son, in 1977. When he was a year old he was diagnosed with neuroblastoma, a cancer in the brain. He died November of 1979. My mom was scared to death to have another child, go through all the pain again, but her doctor told her this: The worst thing would be to deny yourself the happiness of having another child. You have so much love to give and don't let a tragedy stop yourself from experiencing the greatest joy in life, having children.
My Mom in 1981 gave birth to my older sister, my brother a short 13 months after she was born, and then me 2 years later...We are all healthy and happy and I am 27.
so....don't let yourself think for a second that you won't be able to have another child. the loss of a baby is the worst thing you can experience, but in time it will become bearable, and you will get stronger each day...rely on close friends and family for support, turn to this site and find your strength. But don't deny yourself of having another one. You will, I can feel it!!!! good luck my dear
Hello, been lurking here alot since my first miscarriage on june 24, 2011 and this place has just helped so much, Thank you all. I'm 26 and already have 2 beautiful and healthy children who are 9 and 4. My husband and I were trying for almost a year before we became pregnant with the latest one. I surprized him on fathers day with the news and he immediatly told everyone (this would have been his 1st child, so he was excited) and it never crossed my mind that anything could happen because I already had 2 successful pregnancies.
But just a week later I started bleeding reall bad at work and was sent to ER, was there for 11 hours and the doctors were just unbelievably rude the whole time. In the end I was told to go home and be on pelvic rest for 4 days because I was having a miscarriage and there was nothing they could do. Doctor apt. 4 days later confirmed that everything was passed naturally and doctor gave us the go ahead to start trying again.
Just wanted to introduce myself and share my story. Im praying that it doesnt take another year to get pregnant again.
where do I begin. I guess I can start off by saying some days are better than others. I recently suffered a miscarriage on June 30 2011 the same day that I suffered my miscarriage my DH close friend gave birth to their son and I was doing great until this weekend after he went to go and visit his friends baby I felt and still feel very angry with him . There are so many questions goin on in my head I miss talking to my cousin @ Earthangel who has been my rock throughout all this and just you know having one of those days am okay with teh lost of my baby because I believe any baby I have will be my angel baby in another body its just the lack of communication about my lost with my DH. I wish I could just get a hug from him... Recently its become even harder as I have been experiencing alot including feeling very naucious, tired, dizzy, tender breast, insomina just not sure if this is my stress from my lost or a new pregnancy as I have had unprotected sex since the m/c. Could I be pregnant 4 weeks after a m/c oh yea forgot to mention i had spotting for two days only in the morning last week what could this mean? I don't believe its pregnancy as I have waayyy more symtoms than the last time help
Hi im new here and have suffered 4 miscarriages in 1 year, its so nice to be in a community with people who understand how i feel, alot of my friends just brush it off, tell me to cheer up and get on with it, but its not that easy. I have 3 children already and fell pregnant with them so easily, so dont understand why this time is hard. Its been over a year since my last miscarriage, we had a 6 month break and have been trying now for 7 months. But the thought of getting pregnant and losing it again scares me to death :( x
Hi everyone, I am new to the community...I just had my 3rd US this morning and my OB said that the embryo is not growing. I am supposed to be in my 10th week from my LMP. Last week's US revealed that the embryo was 5 wks and gestational sac was 7 wks. This morning I just heard my OB talked about either to choose on waiting for a natural miscarriage or having a DCE. I guess everything have not sink in yet. I felt like he was wrong and still hoping for the best. I maybe in my first stage of grief at this time. I am glad I found this community as I was trying to find answers online. I felt relieved to know that I am not alone to have this experience just reading the posts. This is my first pregnancy ,we've been trying for almost 2 years now and I'm already 34 years old.
Just want to join this community for support and supporting others as we just had our 3rd M/C. It hasn't been an easy journey for us, as each pregnancy took about 2 years of trying. And I will be 37 in 2 weeks.
But I still count myself blessed to have a happy marriage, family and friends, and I know Lord Jesus holds my future.
Don't give up!
Im so sad I miscarried last friday at 12+2 days :( went hospital wednesday night with slight blood and they said everything was fine and just have my 1st scan on the monday. Went back up there the thursday cos more blood and got told can't have a scan as no one is available to give me one :( woke up friday with period pains and more blood I rush to the toliet so scared and out come my baby :( was so shocked I could not look closely at him/her I panic as there was so much blood so I flashed the toliet I cannot forgive myself for doing that. I held my baby in my hand for like 20 secs and could not see any facial features oh I wish I took time to look I so regret that I did not. Why did I flash the loo why :( ended up have a dnc so sad cant stop crying.
I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago, it was my first pregnancy. I flushed it down the toilet in a panic and deeply regret it, I wish I'd held it. My baby did not deserve that. I feel so numb, I think I've been in denial about the pregnancy and the miscarriage and I feel like I don't deserve to grieve my baby. I've been trying to keep myself as busy as possible so that I don't have time to think. I can't cry or anything, I've barely eaten, I've lost almost 2 stone. I'm just emotionally numb, I want to cry and feel something but I can't, its like there is a humanity button which has just been switched off. All I have is this dull ache in my chest, like a physical weight. I don't know how to get rid of it. I have absolutely nothing from the pregnancy, no scan, nothing. I need something that means my baby was real, even if its pain.
It's almost impossible to say if bleeding was a miscarriage if you didn't have a positve pregancy test beforehand. From experience of having had 3 miscarriages tho, I only bled once for about a week. Your cycles may be messed up for some reason. do you have a doctor you see? It would be good to get a check up to find out what is going on. Good luck
I believe I miscarried back in March 2005. I failed to show on a urine or blood test. By the time my doctor ordered an ultra sound it was too late. I was about 18 weeks along. I felt movement and all. My question to all of you is have any of you heard of a test they can do in an exam? My mom was in the room. He did a physical exam and he took a Qtip looking thing and said, "If it turns blue, she's pregnant." It turned blue. He then said well I had been on birth control a couple months prior so that could interfere. I have yet to find out what test he did???? I have tried to come to terms with it, but I am doing the same thing now and not showing. I want to try and figure out what test he did so maybe they can do it again. I would be about 6 weeks my mom says. I have missed 2 periods. My last period was July 3rd through July 9. I did have a light brown discharge on July 31 and again on August 4th. Nothing since. I just am afraid the doctors won't listen again :(
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