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Donna

by Jan214, Oct 30, 2008 06:51PM
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It is with a very heavy heart that I bring this news to you.  Donna passed away at 4 AM this morning.  Johnny called very early and I know I should have posted this earlier, but there were several people Donna wanted me to call personally and I could not go against those wishes.  I am sorry for those of you who have not returned my phone calls but I tried desperately to get ahold of you by every means available & I didn't feel that I could withhold this information from the rest of the forum any longer.  It has been 12 hours or so since he called.  Donna passed away quietly in her sleep with Johnny by her side.  She is finally at peace and although they never allowed her to be in pain, I know she was very fearful at the end.  We all like to think that we go quietly in our sleep, but that is not how it always is.  At the end I know she fought to cling to life.  She is most definitely in a better, more peaceful, pain free place now.
I know none of you will be able to make it, but Cory and I will be going down tomorrow afternoon, the visitation will be tomorrow night and we will stay overnight for the funeral on Saturday. The videos they do now will be on a website and I will get that to you after the funeral.  Her obituary will be in the paper tomorrow and I will send you that link in the morning.
After much consideration, I have decided not to do flowers.  If any of you feel so compelled, I can give you the number of a florist down there, but I think donations to ovarian cancer research or perhaps a small scholarship to a photography school in Memphis would better honor Donna, but that is an individual choice.  Besides, Donna was allergic to flowers so.  That sounds stupid doesn't it?  I am all over the place & I am sorry.  If any of you would like to participate in something like a small scholarship than I will let you know what I can set up.  RIght now I can't think anymore and that doesn't have to be decided today.  Donna loved you all and this forum meant more to her than you can ever know.  It was her lifeline to the world, and it made her feel like she was not alone.  I know that she expects you all to keep fighting and win.  Towards the end she realized that she should have fought harder, but by than it was to late.  Don't let that happen to you.  If you are all agreeable I will print out whatever prayers and comments you all make and take it to her family tomorrow.
With much sadness, sorrow, and joy that she is in God's loving embrace,
Jan  
Member Comments (55)

by Mary 53, Oct 30, 2008 06:58PM
I opened this forum and all I saw was the title of this post, "Donna," and I knew. I just sighed out loud. A sigh of relief and sadness at the same time. Relief that Donna is now pain-free... and, well, I don't have to explain the sadness.

What a special woman she was. Thank God Johnny was able to be with her just to hold her and comfort her. It sounded as though they had a wonderful relationship, marriage, and friendship.

Knowing that Donna is at peace is a comfort... but it still does not make hearing this news any easier.

Thank you, Jan, for letting us know.

Much love,

Mary

by dawnlyn, Oct 30, 2008 06:59PM
To Johnny and All of Donna's family and friends....My heart goes out to all of you....You have my deepest sympathies.....

Donna was an exceptional woman.....I will miss her....

Jan...Let me know about  the scholarship.....I am so sorry I am at a loss for words....

Love,
Dawnlyn

by TrudieC, Oct 30, 2008 07:19PM
I've been constantly coming to the forum hoping to hear news and glad now that she is finally at peace and passed with Johnny at her side.  Donna was such a unique person - her humour, her wit, her compassion, and her beautiful photography will be so missed here on the forum.  

Donna, I will miss your friendship and I will shed my tears in honour of your memory and for the relief of knowing you are at peace.

Much love, Trudie

by Sharon2714, Oct 30, 2008 07:23PM
Donna was important to me here in this setting.
She shared her wisdom and her struggle with me and
gave me a friendship I will never forget.  I think if we
look for Donna in the dictionary we will see a one word
entry: "grace."

Donna's passing, to me, is like the setting of the sun.
We know it is dark but only for a little while.
We will see her again in glory, shining brightly,
running freely, breathing deeply without pain or suffering.
We will know her in heaven and she will be there to show us the ropes.

I have so much sorrow for her family to have lost her
and I am grateful that they shared this beatiful spirit with us.

Love
sharon

by vegas2cr, Oct 30, 2008 07:32PM
My world was a better place having known Donna.  We laughed together and we shared jokes and mischief...A piece of my heart is gone now...but never will it be forgotten.  I will not forget the lessons she taught me.. Grace dignity and beauty.  My dear friend rest in peace. I love you Ronni

by SimplyStar, Oct 30, 2008 07:38PM
To: Donna and family
My dear Donna, you have gone from us now, to your final rest. It hurts us to lose you,  because of all the things you were to us. Each person has many gifts to share and you shared yours so generously.  My heart is heavy, with memories of happier times,  my tears start anew at another beautiful life snuffed out too soon.  Now spread your wings and fly where you wish, there will come a time when we will all meet, and be free to have total love and happiness forever.  I will miss you my friend.  Marty

by nyc lady, Oct 30, 2008 08:08PM
I am really having a hard time writing something....I keep erasing and starting again.....I cannot find the words.

Jan - Thank you for being there for Donna and for sharing everything with us.  I know how hard it is to lose a friend.


Donna - you will be missed.  Thank you for giving of yourself and thank you for allowing us to be part of your journey.  You have taught us all alot about dignity and grace.  Rest in peace, dear lady!  You will forever be in my heart, Pam


by justscore, Oct 30, 2008 08:18PM
As I type this through the tears I can't help but feel ANGRY and devasted at the same time...........
As with every passing I read about on this forum, I will plant a tree in Donna's memory as a tribte to a fight well fought.  
This morning I saw 3 deer and immediatley thought of Donna and was wishing her peace and freedom from the disease.  Deer in my area are rare and a treat to see....... Everytime I see wildlife I am reminded of her beautiful photographs.

Please send us the info about a contribution.  

Heidi

by PinkTissue, Oct 30, 2008 08:36PM
I am so sorry to hear about Donna. I have been dreading for the news for so many days now yet when I read the news, it is with a sigh of relief that she is in a better, painfree world now. I am going to miss her wicked humour and missed her notes. She is going to be missed greatly.

by cirella, Oct 30, 2008 08:38PM
This is the news that I have been dreading for weeks.  My mind knows she's in a much better place but my heart hurts.  Donna is one that I was hoping would go to Springfield so we could meet face to face.  I'm sorry she couldn't go but so very glad that I got to know her here.  

I would like to donate to a scholarship, Jan.

Love, L

by crybaby1961, Oct 30, 2008 08:46PM
I really never knew Donna but followed her story for the last couple months.  She seemed to be one of those special people that touched the heart of many.  I know she's in a wonderful place now, enjoying herself and free of illness.  God Bless you Donna.

by fungirl1011, Oct 30, 2008 09:05PM
Eventhough this is a day we have all been praying for, I am so sad.  I am sad for us that we lost such a wonderful person, but happy for Donna that she is now free of pain and suffering.  She fought such a hard battle, and she will be missed terribly.  I think that Donna would want us to celebrate her life, and to make sure that we are PROACTIVE in our health care.  Jan, please give my deepest sympathy to her family and good friends.  I wish that I could be there to honor her, but she is not far from my mind.  

Donna, I will miss you terribly, but do feel comfort that you will be watching out for all of us.  I hope you know how much you were loved and respected.  You are a ture inspiration to us all.  God definately knew what he was doing when he made a wonderful woman like you.  Love, Kasie

by Conquerer, Oct 30, 2008 09:15PM
god bless and may god protect her family

by StillFighting, Oct 30, 2008 09:22PM
sniffles. my heart to her family and friends.

by turtle221, Oct 30, 2008 09:32PM
Dear Johnny & Family & Friends,

God has brought Donna home.  She is now pain free and we are thankful for that.  I only had the opportunity to have a few exchanges with Donna but I followed her posts and saw what a beautiful person she was.  She had a big, beautiful heart that had enough room for everyone that she encountered.  Thank God Johnny was there to comfort her in her last moments. Donna will never be forgotten by any of us and will always be in our hearts.  

God bless.

by ShawnP, Oct 30, 2008 09:36PM
I am confident the Lord has embraced Donna with open arms and she is no longer suffering.  My heart goes out to her husband and family.  God bless you all.

by junamgen, Oct 30, 2008 09:40PM
Donna you will be greatly missed.  

Peace and Love

jun

by Sandymac, Oct 30, 2008 09:42PM
I simply cannot find the words to express my sorrow at her passing. I only knew Donna for a few short months.. almost a year,  yet I felt I had known her longer.. This was a post I knew I didn't really want to open, yet I'm sure she is at peace in a better place.

Jan, please let me know about the scholarship as I would like to contribute as well.

Donna, you truly were a beautiful soul and you will be missed terribly.

Thank you Jan,
Love,
Sandy

by marie3B, Oct 30, 2008 09:48PM
Knowing this was going to happen does not make it any easier.  The world was a better place when Donna was in it.  I am thankful she is at peace and I pray that her dear husband will be able to find comfort for himself in the days ahead.  Love, Marie

by Laney8463, Oct 30, 2008 09:52PM
Donna will be greatly missed. She was truly a beautiful soul and has found her way home now. I pray she is at peace now sitting at the right hand of God, smiling and pain free at last. I pray for Johnny and her family to find the strength to endure such an awful time.
God Bless You all
Laney

by ireneo, Oct 30, 2008 10:19PM
I just couldn't sleep, decided to get up and browse the site. I don't know what to say because all the things I've said before seem too small somehow. There is so much in my mind and heart. Perhaps some day I will meet her face to face and then have all the right words to express how special I think she is. For now all I can say is farewell.

Irene

by JC145, Oct 30, 2008 10:19PM
Dear Msjazz .. you will be missed.  Judy

by gah_70, Oct 30, 2008 11:08PM
I, too, am having a very hard time coming up with the right words.  There have been so many tears today, yet I know she's where she will know nothing but peace. I feel almost selfish to be sad.  She was one of those people who draws you in and knows exactly what to do to make you smile.  She was a part of us all, and the best way I know how to explain it is to say it feels very lonely being on this side.  I'm praying for her family, and for all of us, too.  

Hugs to all,
Gail

by kimmywah, Oct 31, 2008 12:14AM
My heart breaks for Johnny and Donna's family, but I am happy that she is at peace.  She was a phenomenal, brave and very caring woman.

My love to the family and a poem for Donna....

Life Goes On

If I should go before the rest of you
Break not a flower
Nor inscribe a stone
Nor when I am gone
Speak in a Sunday voice
But be the usual selves
That I have known

Weep if you must
Parting is hell
But life goes on
So .... sing as well

Joyce Grenfell
1910-1979


Lets sing for her.....Peace and love Kim

by kimmywah, Oct 31, 2008 12:15AM
My heart breaks for Johnny and Donna's family, but I am happy that she is at peace.  She was a phenomenal, brave and very caring woman.

My love to the family and a poem for Donna....

Life Goes On

If I should go before the rest of you
Break not a flower
Nor inscribe a stone
Nor when I am gone
Speak in a Sunday voice
But be the usual selves
That I have known

Weep if you must
Parting is hell
But life goes on
So .... sing as well

Joyce Grenfell
1910-1979


Lets sing for her.....Peace and love Kim

by kimmywah, Oct 31, 2008 12:16AM
Sorry...something happened with computer..I guess I just wanted to say it again.  Jan I will make a donation here to the Ovarian cancer fight in Donna's name.

Peace..Kim

by yrrek, Oct 31, 2008 01:12AM
My tears now are not that Donna has left us, but that she left far too early.  My tears are for all of us who have to deal with this day in and day out.  Our lives are so fragile.  Donna was here for me many times when I first was DX, I was full of fear and her knowledge and kind words helped like nothing else could.  We all have unique experiences but we all have a bond that is so strong and even though she is not physically here, I still feel her presence in that bond.  Thank you Donna and Thank you to all of you.

by Steve H, Oct 31, 2008 02:02AM
To: Donna & Johnny
There are no words at this time, as I think we have all expressed these over the past days, yet, like all I have been opening this forum expecting & even wanting to see this news. Not that anyone wants a true fighter to leave, but to hope she was in no more suffering. Donna you are with the Angels now, many you already know, other you will meet, stay fighting for all those left as I know you will, keep a eye on Johnny, leave him your little signs. Missed already.

Johnny, be brave, think of the great times you had together, how much Donna was a fighter, do her justice in the way you now move forward. Don't be ashamed that you cry, that’s normal, and at the most unexpected times, when you realize I was here with Donna, but smile as YOU WERE WITH HERE, THEN AND ALWAYS.

If you need anyone, shout we are all here for you. -Steve H

by Brownie3321, Oct 31, 2008 03:05AM
I LOVE you Donna. You will be greatly missed.

by butterflytc, Oct 31, 2008 03:53AM
May God hold Donna in the palm of his hands.
I am glad your suffering is now over, but sad to lose another friend to OVCA. Knowing you're  finally at rest, makes it easier to say Goodbye.

by gma718, Oct 31, 2008 06:14AM
Even though I was anticipating this...it is never easy....it saddens me so much...I will continue to pray for Johnny....I will Miss our MSJAZZ!!! Even though we never met just by her posts I knew what a warm, compassionate, woman she was.....Jan, I know how close you were to Donna and you showed all of us the definition of a friend...Find comfort knowing you were wonderful to Donna....Please take care of yourself....Love, Gia

by lvfrogs, Oct 31, 2008 06:22AM
Jan, I have been dreading this day but I do thank you for letting us know and for being such a compassionate woman to all of us on here and for being a wonderful friend for Donna. I feel like you took all of us with you when you visited and for that I am forever grateful. I would like to donate to a scholarship - how very kind of you to think of that.

For Donna,
I am so glad that you are no longer suffering and that you are at peace and with God. Although we didn't meet in person, you reached out to me through your pain and offered love and friendship. I am a lucky woman to have known you.  I will forever think of you when I see all the wildlife around me.  God Bless You and Johnny.

Love,
Colleen

by silver&gold, Oct 31, 2008 06:48AM
Donna will be sadly missed but remembered with love. Sending prayers of strength to Johnny and family .

Love Angie



All Is Well
Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It it the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.

By Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)
Canon of St Paul's Cathedral

by Tybear, Oct 31, 2008 07:14AM
Although we all knew this day was coming, It's still such a shock. I'm so very sad that we've lost yet another wonderful woman to this disease.
Donna was an inspiration to all of us here and I know she will continue to cheer us on from the other side.
Be at peace Donna...
With much love,
Becky

by bmcd, Oct 31, 2008 07:17AM
God Speed Donna, you are now free of pain and worry.  God bless you and your family.  Rest now brave warrior.

Bob

by bohan54, Oct 31, 2008 07:38AM
I am grateful to have known Donna through this forum and would be honored to contribute to a scholarship in her memory.  

Sharon

by OzBron, Oct 31, 2008 08:48AM
Even though I didn't have the chance to know Donna personally, I am so saddened by this loss. Donna made such an impact on so many people and she will be truly missed. Though I wish it could, nothing I say can bring comfort to Donna's friends and family or change anything. The stark reality of this terrible disease, is so hurtful and upsetting know matter how you try to prepare. I am glad that Donna is at peace . . . . .

by Cindy809, Oct 31, 2008 08:50AM
To: Donna (I know you are listening)...
Even though our friendship was just beginning I had a deep connection to you.  Thank you for reaching out to me first at this forum.  I will miss you.  You were such a kind sweet lady.  Johnny, I will be praying for the strength you will need during this difficult time.  God Bless you...Cindy

by PPhelps, Oct 31, 2008 08:54AM
I really never got to know Donna, but her posts were always so heartfelt. She made you feel like she was your friend no matter that she really didn't know you. I will miss her posts greatly. Paula

by coogeegirl, Oct 31, 2008 09:40AM
I am sending my condolences to Johnny and it is good to know she is now free of pain and at peace

Jenny

by butterflytc, Oct 31, 2008 09:45AM
   Donna,
     Though you are no longer with us here on earth, I know that you are with us always.
As hard as it will be, we will try not to mourn, but to celebrate the life that you had. I know that you are home now.

    To Donna's family I send my deepest sympathy. She will be missed by us all.
          Love Chris Recco

by Angie_Lou, Oct 31, 2008 10:53AM
My deepest sympathy to Donna's husband and family.  I hope that knowing she is at peace will give you some comfort during this time.

Sincerely, Angie

by vallieanne, Oct 31, 2008 10:57AM
Donna,
Thank you for being such a kind and gracious woman, for sharing you love of all things bright and beautiful with us, and for giving us so much love and friendship.

I am sending my deepest sympathies to Johnny and her family, may God Bless and give you strength and peace.
Love,
Valerie

by kipland, Oct 31, 2008 11:05AM
I only corresponded with Donna a couple of times, but followed the posts with updates of her.  While I am glad that she is no longer suffering and is at peace, I am so very sorry for the rest of her family.  That's what she told me in her post to me too - that she hated what this disease did to her loved ones.
So for Donna, rest in peace my friend.  It's obvious that you touched many, many lives.  For the rest of the family, I will keep you in my prayers.
~ Lori

by Teresa222, Oct 31, 2008 11:45AM
Of course, this news saddens me.  But, Donna is in a better place, free of pain now. I will miss her so much.
Teresa

by Cindy, Oct 31, 2008 12:08PM
To: All
We are so very sorry to hear about Donna.  Our thoughts and prayers are with Donna's family and all those who loved her and whose lives she touched.  We hope that a cure for this terrible disease is found very soon.

Cindy Thompson
MedHelp

by ChrisP2236, Oct 31, 2008 12:43PM
I am so very sad to hear this for Donna's family.  My thoughts and prayers for peace and comfort at this time are with them.  Chris P

by Hindat, Oct 31, 2008 01:05PM
To: Donna
I am sad to get this news but I will take comfort knowing that you are at peace now.  When I think of you I will think of you sitting in a pretty meadow surrounded by flowers and all the animals you loved to watch with a big smile on your face.

Linda

by Mid, Oct 31, 2008 01:16PM

My deepest sympathy to Donna's husband and family.



Be at peace Donna.

Mid

by msjazz, Oct 31, 2008 11:56PM
Well ladies, I made it.  The angels you prayed for surrounded me with love and light and carried me home.  I am so much better than I was and it is more beautiful than anything you could ever imagine, just as He promised. Please take care of yourselves and each other. I know I will see you again, but I want you to continue to fight and I want you to win.

Lv
D

by jlock, Nov 01, 2008 09:21AM
I am so sorry to hear this news...may God hold her and her family in his palm right now and give them the strength needed on this very sad day.  My condolences to her family~~~Joanne

by CaydensMommy, Nov 01, 2008 04:54PM
I am sending my deepest sympathies and prayers to Donna's husband and family. I was so sorry to hear this news.
May Donna's family be comforted during this time,

Glenda

by Knotmeg, Nov 03, 2008 08:07AM
Donna....
My heart will never forget you.  I can't believe you're gone....
Love, Meg

by crecco, Nov 05, 2008 04:09AM
Donna,
  You were loved more than you could ever know, and you touched the hearts of all that met you. You may be gone but you will never be forgotten.
  You are home now.
  My dear friend, I promise you that I will continue this fight, just as you did. Who knows whether I will win or lose. But I will never give up, in honor of you.
  Yes we will meet again one day, all of us. Until then, I feel safe knowing an angel like you is watching down on us all, and I know if I look, you will be the brightest star in the heavens.
   Rest in peace our lovely ms jazz and thank you for letting us all be a part of your life.
      Love Chris

by milashka, Nov 13, 2008 03:03PM
OMG I didn't know...it's bad to return here after a long absence. I am at work and crying reading this. A chemo-buddy of mine also lost her fight a week before Donna so it hits home. We are losing too many good women...So sad.
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