Community ages - NEW RULES

[Emily_MHManager]

Hi everyone -

This group is for those who are 35+ years old.

We will be limiting this community to 35+ years old exclusively, with few exceptions (high risk pregnancies, for example). If those exceptions cause problems, then we will address those as they rise. Please, PLEASE, PM me (click on my name here, choose Send Message), and let me know if there is an issue if you are on a mobile device, or use the report feature if you are on a computer or on the full site on a mobile device. (Do not use the Leave a Note option - that is public.)

It helps no one if people are insulting others. We are a support site. There is no room in support for people to call other members immature, insult life choices, life situations, etc. Perhaps they aren't the choices you'd make, but that's okay. I've yet to meet a perfect person.

Support is GIVE and TAKE. It isn't just about giving. We need to make sure that everyone is in a safe place to get the support and info they need, and right now, this community doesn't feel like a safe place for our members that are 35+.

A note - if you are close to 35, or pregnant at 34, and will deliver at 35, etc., you are free to post where you feel most comfortable.

I hope this helps, and I hope we can get back to the wonderful, helpful caring support you all provide each other.

Emily

[spade22]

You might consider renaming the forum to something like pregnancy : maternal  age 35+.  Pregnancy 35+ has been interpreted by some to mean a forum for those with a baby with gestational age of 35+ weeks.

[TMMB]

Emily, point taken and well said.

[Emily_MHManager]

Hi everyone -

So it appears that I needed to clarify some things.

The comments about being immature, etc. - those aren't supportive, but they are also insults and against our Terms of Use. They aren't allowed. The MedHelp site has over 300 forums (we aren't just the app, for those of you on the app), and these rules apply to everyone. If you haven't read them, or need a refresher, here they are - http://www.medhelp.org/termsofuse.htm  ; It seems like some of you need at least a refresher.

We can't restrict those under 35 from coming in this group, but we are taking steps to lower the rate of this happening. Some of these changes are technical and require our engineering team to make the changes so they may take some time. While that is happening, we will need your help. Instead of reacting negatively, let us know when this is an issue, as it was in this thread. I asked you all to PM me, and only one of you did. We can't be everywhere, and will be relying on you to help us. We hope you do.

We need everyone to help. We hope you will.

Again, PM me if there are any issues.

Emily

[CutieMommy2be]

i was 34 the first few months of this pregnany and now 35. I stick to 25-34 age group and have not came here except once or twice. Now at almost 7 month's im 35 so i will go to both. Glad this post said that is ok :)

[TMMB]

Dragonwings, I don't think it's enforcable. But hopefully if they make it a rule, instead of just a guideline, enough women will honor it. Perhaps we can keep the thread bumped.

[Dragonwings]

I'm curious. How are they going to restrict the post from the younger ages. Right after this was posted, there was still a post in this forum from a younger poster. Surely they don't have time to go through every single post. So women don't even have their age posted to their profile.