advice

[ilyxxme]

Are they any moms that had they kids young I had my twins b/g at 21 then had my daughter at 22 I'm now 23 weeks pregnant with my fourth and I'm 23 what the best advice you can give me having four kids so young

[ilyxxme]

My twins was unplanned what I meant by mistake I don't want them to have kids young I do want them to get there education first because it was hard going to school with newborns at home thank god I have my family because my boyfriend was in police adcamdy my baby girl was planned

[ilyxxme]

Yeah right about the whole age thing I don't because ya are oldee mom ya might be with thru the same thing as me can give some advice and wiser but I guess now all ya think the same but thanks to the one who did give me advice my third baby girl was planned this no I got pregnant off IUD  so I was on birth control with this baby so I'm just praying for healthy baby and one more thing people getting mad over what I said because having a baby cost a lot it do but what to love that what mainly what a baby needs they don't know about nothing else they need it but still what to love I haven't hear nobody mentioned nothing about love just money money

[mom9908]

Wait where did she called her babies a mistake. In my comment I referred to the first child unplanned.

[mom9908]

She prolly was in this group looking for ladies w kids to relate to. Not to be stereotyped.  Who are we to judge. Her family could be well off not that its anyone's business.  I also pay taxes and will not be able to have 4 kids but its also about the lifestyle and where u live. Don't keep up w the Jones's and have two kids.

[JulieKuhnert]

And if you have everything so perfect at 23, why come into the 35+ forum asking for advice?  Or are you just trying to start a topic you know will sir things up?  Most of the women in this forum are having babies, some ftm, who have waited, planned, etc,.  I get kind of annoyed being told in this forum dedicated to older mothers that this 23 year old has everything figured out. I come here to talk to older mothers who are going through the same things I am, not have a 23 year old act like she has everything figured out at the store old age of 23.  At 23 I knew everything too. I don't post in the 18-24 year old forum, so why do the kids come here?

[JulieKuhnert]

I understand where she comes from to be honest. My husband just got a $16,000 /yr pay raise, and about $10,000 of it is taken in taxes.  We also will probably only be able to have 1 child because we are so heavily taxed.  Why work hard, get an education, etc only for so much of your paycheck to be taken to support those who don't make good choices?  4 kids before 24 isn't showingthe best choices, birth control is so readily available.  How are you able to take care of 4 kids, work a full time job, finish school, and hold togethera relationship?  You call the kids a mistake,yet you continually made the same "mistake" over and over. Why not just wait and use birth control until you were a bit older?  I understand 1 mistake, but to make it a2nd and 3rd time?  Your words. ...... not mine.  Having babies doesn't make one grown, a 13 year old can have babies, but they are still a kid.  There is nothing wrong with being a younger parent, there is something wrong with continuing to do the same thing over and over and hoping for different results. Getting married isn't just a"piece of paper" it is an affirmation to everyone and God that you are in love and committed to this 1 person.  Acting like it's nothing is basically putting down all those who are married.