advice

[ilyxxme]

Are they any moms that had they kids young I had my twins b/g at 21 then had my daughter at 22 I'm now 23 weeks pregnant with my fourth and I'm 23 what the best advice you can give me having four kids so young

[kjskibum]

Why are you not married if you have been together 5 years and are choosing to become pregnant over and over again? Does your job as a LVN and his job allow you to support your choice to have kids without using public assistance for medical, food stamps, and your education/ tuition? If not, then please do stop procreating. Children deserve to be raised by parents who are able to teach them to value education and self sufficiency. I worked full time through my 20s in union jobs that had apprenticeship programs that gave me a skill and trade. In my 30s I paid my own way through college, and am able to work in management in a high paid position. I saved money and found a man who values women as partner/equal. We bought house in a good school district and quite neighborhood. We married and are now preg. with a honeymoon baby. We are both able to work from home part time and will both be able to be involved raising this child and any others. I am bitter that because I made the choice to work hard to EARN a quality lifestyle, that I am now excessively taxed to pay for women who aren't willing to ensure they can afford to raise kids before getting pregnant. With the amount of pregnancy education out there and free access to birth control there is no reason why women can not become equal wage earners. I work hard for my money and lifestyle, and for it I am taxed to the point we will probably choose to only have one kid so we can afford to pay for its college and our retirement....yet the government steals my money from me to support women who choose to stay in low pay jobs, who don't have enough self esteem to find a man who respects them enough to marry them, and chooses to have too many kids to support without MY TAXES! Argh! Quit being so selfish. Your children deserve better!

[mom9908]

Sounds like u got it under control then. Good glad to hear that. Sit back and enjoy then :)

[ilyxxme]

I just pass my state test for LVN  I'm currently working in a doctor office as an medical assistant and I wanted to further my education as LVN I just got pregnant it was no addicent because I knew what I was getting and me and my boyfriend been together for 5 years just not married but we do have our own place  and do ever as a married couple do we just not marry

[mom9908]

I had my daughter young unplanned obviously.  But after the first unplanned u would think u could figure out how to prevent it,  if thats not what u want. Babies are a blessing be grateful for everyday w them. I dont know if ur in the  U.S. but I think some states they will tie you tubes after three kid's, but that's a tough choice bc u are so young. Like I said I had my first senior in high school second at 27 and now im 34 hoping it happens again. Best of luck to you there are lots of options for u. . Remember how lucky u r to be able to have a big family.

[JulieKuhnert]

Slow down having babies.  Get your college degree, get a good paying job, and support your children. Hopefully your husband or significant other has a good job, if you're not married or in a committed relationship start some sort of birth control after you give birth to this baby.  That seems like an awful lot for someone so young to deal with.  I'd talk to my doctor about a tubal.  Mostly I'd stop worrying about having sex(if you aren't in a committed relationship) and concentrate on my children.  If you are married or in a committed relationship, I'd talk to my partner about the tubal or him getting a vasectomy.

[TMMB]

...I hope that helps. Take care.