Positive Results with I.V.F.

[Mary61]

Hi, I just had an embryo transfer done five days ago. Two embryos Grade1 and 2. Now I am going koo koo waiting for eleven days(six more to go) to get my pregnancy test done.  I am on Prometrium pills and Progesterone suppositories.  I have been having some cramping just about every day and it's driving me crazy not knowing if it's due to implantation or side effects of the meds or if I'm about to get my period.  Has, or is anyone out there gone or going through the same experience and if so have your results be a positive pregnancy.  I am about to lose my mind wondering if it's one or the other.  Also, my nipples are sore to the touch. Help! I am going crazy.

[Mary61]

Hi, thank you for your response.  I greatly appreciate all feedback that I am getting. It is really helping me to get through this. I don't have anyone to talk to about it as no one knows what my husband and I have been going through. Nobody knows about all the treatments and all. I am truly hoping that the next embryo transfer will be a successful one and that my husband and I will finally be blessed with a baby. If it does not work out then we will just continue trying naturally. I did become pregnant twice last year, once in March and once in December but they were early miscarriages. I am 47 years old and the doctors have told me that I have no chance really at even becoming pregnant at this stage, naturally. I don't believe them and I refuse to believe them. After  all it happened twice, I was 46. What I am beginning to think is that maybe some woman don't need all that medication and injections because it only messes up and confuses their reproductive system. I don't know, it's just a thought. I only know that I truly want a baby and my husband truly wants a baby and I know that if we never give up, it will eventually happen. I just don't understand why doctors have to charge so much for procedures that give you very low chances of success and yet they are always very vague in finding out what the problem is . I just feel that they do not do enough research on each individual patient to find out what the true root of the problem is.  Sometimes I feel that we are being used as guinea pigs.  I'm sorry maybe it's just anger talking. It's just that I feel that it would be so easy to find the problem and find the cure before they attempt I.U.I.'s and I.V.S's. Some doctors really don't care enough, they're just thinking about their bankbook and a "quick fix".I wish you all the best of luck Carisa and if I were you I would ask your doctor exactly what he thinks the problem is and exactly what is being done about it. Take care and once again Thank You very much for your support.

[carisa]

Hi,
I'm so sorry you are feeling so terrible. I know how hard infertility can be on a couple. I have told my husband several times that I'm worried he will leave me because I cannot have children either. It happens to couples of all ages. I'm 30 and I'm having major problems getting pregnant. We've done several failed IUIs, laparoscopy, endometrial biopsy, 2 hsgs, failed IVF, etc. Finally surrogacy worked for us. I know the financial strain is hard too, especially when it doesn't work. But I know he must love you so much to go through all of this with you. I'm sorry about your MIL. She sounds terrible. I wouldn't listen to her. I hope you don't give up. I have heard several stories of women going through several IVFs before having one work. I don't think it's as unusual as your nurse said at all. I don't know why she would say that. I dont' think it's true. Anyway, good luck to you and I hope you guys do try again. I don't think it's hopeless!!

[Mary61]

Hi Jennifer, I am so very sorry that you lost your little girl. I don't even want to imagine what that feels like. I'm always told that there is a reason for everything in life and we won't know what that reason is until sometime in the future. I hope that you will not give up as I will not give up. I feel that when you want something so bad it will eventually happen. I just don't understand why it has to be so difficult for those who are willing to give their heart and soul for a baby.  I hope that one day you will have your precious baby. I will pray for you too, but please don't give up.

[Mary61]

Hi Jennifer, thank you so much for your response. Yes, I am desperate to have a baby for my husband and I. You see, we have been together for eight years and married and trying for 5 years now.  His mother hates me because I am a little older than my husband and she has always put me down calling me an "old bag" and other nasty names.She also keeps telling my husband how having a child is something that he really needs to experience in life.She has never shown us any shred of support as far as having children because she feels I am too old and feels that my time is up and it will never happen. I really don't care about what she thinks(I don' speak to her anymore)but what really bothers me and hurts me very much is that I know that deep down inside my husband truly and desperately wants children and it seems that I can't give him that. He tells me he loves me very much and would never want to lose me and if he can't have children with me he does not want them with anyone else. I feel that he is trying his best to cover up the fact that he is completely devastated  regarding this because every now and then he goes into "depression" episodes about it especially when he sees how easily children came to other people. All of his friends are "popping" up babies left and right and all he can feel is that God is punishing him for one reason or another, in my mind I feel he is being punished for marrying me. So far I have tried just about everything to have a baby, I have had two laparoscopies, uterine biopsy,two I.U.I's, now my  second I.V.F. and will be going through what will probably be my last I.V.F. embryo transfer (again with donor eggs).  What kills me the most is watching my husband and wondering if he feels he's made a mistake by being with me and regretting it. Maybe I was a little harsh about the suicide thing but right now I am already feeling so dead inside. I will still be going for my pregnancy test on Tuesday but I know what the outcome will be as I have gone through the same bleeding with my previous I.V.F. and I was not  pregnant. If only God could feel how much pain I'm in and how this is all putting me through years of torture, then maybe this last time will be successful. Thank You for your support Jennifer, I will keep you posted as to the outcome of one more try.

[40smama]

Mary - I'm very worried after reading your post.  Nothing is worth suicide - not even getting pregnant.  I don't want to sound harsh and I've been there w/the suicide thing.  I guarantee your husband would much rather have you around than have a baby w/out his precious wife.  I wish so bad your husband was with you so you could bear this news together.  It sounds like you're desperate to please your husband but it shouldn't be at the expense of your own life!

Maybe you're just speaking metaphorically & if you are, I apologize for taking it seriously but when I read posts like this, I get worried.  I understand about not knowing where God is - I really do - I felt like this when I lost a precious baby girl at 19 weeks.  I wondered why God would do this to me - kick me when I was at my lowest and I too contemplated doing something really bad.  But I'm so glad I didn't as there's so much good to come - it's just hard to see when you're on the bad side.  It's so easy to lose perspective when you're hugely depressed.

Mary, if you are serious about this suicide thing, you need to seek counseling.  Counseling will help you deal w/the grief you're experiencing over infertility & help you gain perspective.  Pm me anytime - I hope things will look up for you and I will keep you in my prayers - jennifer

[Helen72]

I am so very sorry you are going through this.  We also had to pay out of pocket for ivf and I know how much stress that can put on your family, like infertility is not stressful enough!  I can only hope that FET works for you.
My heart goes out to you and your dh.
Hugs!

[Mary61]

Hi, thanks for your response.  I am on my sixth day of 11 day wait before my pregnancy test and this afternoon  I got my period.  I am completely devastated and I just want to die. My husband is away and I was contemplating suicide because I dread telling him the news that will tear him apart.  At this moment I am crying and wishing that I truly was dead. We have remortgaged our house for the third time for this and now I have to tell my husband that it failed once again. I am at the point where I feel to tell my husband to leave me and find someone who can give him a baby.  I truly feel that there is no God for me and there never will be,as I've prayed each time but He's not listening. I called the nurse at the clinic where I had this embryo transfer done and she told me that this is not normal but to stay on my medication and still go in for the pregnancy test on the eleventh day. Is there anyone who has gone through the same things (bleeding) but still turned out to be a positive pregnancy?  I have two more frozen embryos left and I guess that will be my last try. I desperately need hope as of right now I feel none and I feel so empty inside. It's going to be my husbands birthday next month and I was planning on giving him some good news. Instead, I will only be breaking his heart .  I just want to die.

[sarge1]

I had cramping after my first IVF and was told to watch for OHSS and to drink a lot more water (dehydration can cause cramping).  Also I think the sore nipples can be due to the meds?  
Good luck to you!

[ChrisHealy]

Hi, I went through IVF and had three embryos put back.  I had cramping, too, but was able to conceive one baby.  I'm not sure if the cramping was the other two not adhering or if it was from the one embryo implanting.  Anyway, success on the first try!  I'm 28 wks tomorrow!  Good luck!