an absolute surprise on the affair, but worse, that he would lie to me and tell me he could guarantee I didn't need tested. Well after watching him over a period of a week or so, I changed my mind about believing him and asked to be tested. Now I have to live with this reminder of his affair the rest of my life, and all he can say is "I'm sorry, but I don't desire you anymore" What a B.....
he refuses to go get tested, since he doesn't have an outbreak, and she told him she now doesn't have it, how nieve can one person be. I am devastated by this, and by the fact he is standing by her, when she should of informed him with an outbreak, they had no business doing anything.
Anyway, his saying he was tested three months ago and is now negative is wrong. Obviously, he is either not so bright or confused or lying to you.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I want you to know that my best friend contracted herpes in her early 20's and has managed it without it interfering in her life too much. So, you will go on to have a regular sex life. They make some great medications for this nowadays.
I'm sure you are heartbroken. You were married a long time! Was the affair a surprise? Let us know how we can help you. Peace.