Husband signed up for a dating site

[megochick101]

So my husband just received an alert on his phone that his new account at some dating site has been set up. HE is currently sleeping so I haven't said anything about it. But since I am a curious person, I checked the site out. It's not just a normal dating site such as match or e harmony, no it a SEX dating site. It a site that you can go to to find people in your area to have SEX with!!!!! I almost woke him up and started bitching at him, but I don't want him knowing that I know he has an account at this site. I did note the website name and his login info, as it was conveniently in the alert on his phone, and put that information in the notepad of my phone for future reference. But i'm not sure what i should do, should I just confront him about it, or do I wait and see if he uses the site? But then if he actually uses the site, I don't know how I'll handle that.

But on the same hand, if i confront him about this, he may just go to a different site and hide it better. So it may be better that I know. D*mn it i'm freakin PISSED!!

So confront him, or wait it out?? Any opinions out there?

[mami1323]

Not to put doubt in your mind cause I'm hoping it really is a spam issue but you yourself saw how hard it was to get that email sent. My theory is he said what he said on the assumption that you already saw the email. This way he makes you feel like it is spam and acts like he's not hiding stuff. So he won't log on now because he deleted the email and now will have to request a new password. So yes keep quiet and keep your eyes open. But I do hope its nothing.

[megochick101]

Well I didn't have a chance to talk to him last night as he passed out on the couch while i was putting mikey to sleep. But he did make a comment yesterday when he checked his phone messages he said something like, "why do these things keep sending me this sh*t" and I did check the keystroke program this morning and he hasn't logged on at all yet. or gone to any other sites. I also checked his email, and he has erased the message from the sex dating site and everything, so for now i'm not mentioning it. I still have the keystroke program so if he goes to any dating sites or anything like that i'll know. I still need to have a talk with him though because obviously i don't really trust him right now, for things from the past so we need to have a talk and i need to work on that.

The only reason i'm not confronting him on this is that he's not being very sneaky about it and I don't want top give him a heads up so he tries to hide things in the future. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt since he made that comment and erased the email, hopefully it was just a spam email, but I'm not sure of that as of now

[GreeneyesAz]

That's the exact thing my husband would say. With my husband he went through the whole process of answering all the questions for his profile. He even listed himself as a widower. You might want to check to see if he actually went through the whole process of creating the profile.  

[specialmom]

That must have really hurt.  I'm sorry.

[GreeneyesAz]

Thanks, I'm working to get past it

[Judy246]

I'm with teko...I have no tolerance for ANYTHING that has to do with possible infidelity or temptations. I would nick it in the butt immediately and he would have to earn his way back with trust. To be honest with you, I'm real good at dumping them right on the spot if they stray. ZERO tolerance...but, that's just me :)

[teko]

It sounds like he broke the trust between the two of you before now. Once that happens we live on high alert all the time, wondering if what we are being told is the truth. I would confront him if you find that there is a charge on the credit card, bet even if there is not, the two of you need to have a serious, what do we want this marriage of ours to be talk. I would be ticked and I am not the type to keep it secret. The dirty looks would be exuding out of my pores. I have so little control, lol
I am not sure sometimes if the stress that is caused by having a partner that does not respect us, is worth the stress. Keep us posted k?

[Nighthawk61]

it's not.

[Judy246]

My first response would be to wake him up and put him right on the spot, "What's this"? OR "keep it on the down low", so to speak. Give him the benefit of the doubt and wait and see if he dares respond to it. I would monitor it and see what choice or decision he makes.....log on and become an active member or just blow it off as unimportant, BUT at the right time, definately confront him with him, so he knows that you are on to him and he can't get away with crap like that.  Good luck, Judy

[shyguy1080]

I am sorry to hear about your huseband being up to no good. Confront him on this!! In my view, there is no excuse for cheating. I understand your upset, and its happend to me before. It is up to you of wether you want to repair of what he did to you or leave him.. If i was in a realionship and i found out my spouse strayed, thats it.. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He made an account on a dating website! The man you are married to is doing this!! I wonder if he's met anyone off that site.. I know im blunt, but ask him why he's in this site. Watch how he answers, it'll tell the story there.