Thank you so much for your support! I really do appreciate it... its hard right now for me...but I know that it has to turn around soon or later...I guess just keep wishing for the best... anyways... I guess i better go...my son has homework ofcourse..lol
Autum
You've been doing all you could, Just remember, if we planted the best seed, we will get the best harvest too, right? I wish you all the best with your son, take care.
children belong with Their mother, not their grandmother. your mom is being a B, and is trying to control how you raise your child. she didn't have enough raising her own kids! Be strong and take care of your child. You sound like a loving, wonderful mother. if you don't trust your mom, dont' talk to her. she sounds like she is a negative influence on your life. unfortunatly since your son has visitaiton to see her every other weekend, you'll have to communicate with her a little but I'dd keep it to a minimum. One day she'll realize she messed up.
take care.
fung, I do spend time w/ my son... we do alot of stuff together... actually I have to bed him to play ball or something w/ me..lol I do play games w/ him and wrestle w/ him.... I even read a book to him every night... I even set down and just talk to him... My mother....on the other hand.. I have tried everything over the years...and she has done nothing but lie to me... I dont trust her anymore... I dont really know what to do...so im just taking it day by day...thats about it...
Autum
So sad to hear your situation. It seems not easy to mend a broken relationship with your mother, but keep trying,it may take time but it's worth it. While I'm sure you are busy taking care your 3 boys, try to set aside time alone with james, doing fun activities with him as much as you could , find a way to make him feel close to you ,that it's you he wants to be around , not anybody else. . You are his mother, it's not hard to win our child's heart. Do your best.
Good luck ; )
Thank you everyone for your support! Well fung, the thing is I tried that already, having a relationship back w/ my mother, and it went sour! actually not even a month ago, I called her to go out to eat w/ me and Ill pay... she did... then after that I went out to eat w/ her and she paid... then the last time we did go out to eat... that was the end of it... We enjoyed ...well I did atleast... talking to each other...and then all of a sudden...When I told her I was worried about my son and I told her...that I would like to keep him home for atleast two weeks to get him back into routine with everything again... she didnt seem happy about it... but I said... Im not keeping him from ya'll, but this is the only option that I can think of...and I will keep you informed on whats going on... I did call her to let her know... Then she called back before the end of the week wanting him on the weekend...and I told her... sorry, but I did tell ya that I would like to keep him for two weeks... and she was like, Ill think about it!! I said, no, that is how its going to be... Im doing this for my son's benefit...I said Im not trying to be mean or anything...or try to keep him from ya'll, but Im just trying something new to see if it works... she was irritated, but she agreed... then after that... for some odd reason, she thought during those two weeks that my grandparents (my son's greatgrandparents) got him???? I dont know why, but I told her no, they didnt... I said he was at my house and only my house, thats it.. well she says that I lied?! I said no, I didnt lie, I have no reason too... but she persistantly kept saying I lied... so thats the last of what happened... well besides us asking her could she not call every five min. to talk to james, my son... because we have 3 kids, and the kids are sharing the house phone.. James, does have a cell phone, but the boy will not keep it turned on, he turns it off when he doesnt want to be disturbed, and thats all the time. I did set up counseling for him at his school...so hopefully that helps too... anyways here is some of the dilemma...ugh
Autum