Mother who doesnt love me

[autum]

My mother who I have lived w/ with out my father being in the picture since I was two, I have not had a mother/daughter relationship for 5 years now.  This is sick but here it is: when I broke up w/ my son's father, my mother got with my sons father's father. In other words its my son's grandpa....  anyways one night I went to her job to see her and she asked to get my son for two days...  well those were my days off and I wanted to see my son... so i said could you get him another day or so, because I want to spend time w/ him..  well she got pissed and threw my son's father's visitation papers in my face by saying ill take you to court! I wasnt being mean or anything, I just said I wanted to see him those days, she wanted him on....  I just said could you get him after or before those days...  then she really broke my heart by saying that so we didnt talk for a while... then I tried talking to her again, but she was just using me for info...  after that... my sons father kept on going to court (w/ his dad and my mother) saying those were his parents...   she was on their side...  anyways..after five years I tried having a mother/daughter  relationship w/ her again, and then my son came home from their house, all screwed up..  he is 7yrs old...  I didnt know what was wrong w/ him, but come to find out they messed w/ his head some how... he was going to therapy for a couple of times... because he would cry all night until 5am in the morning, he stayed depressed, he told me he wanted his grandma(my mother) to be his mom, and when i was goin to die!  So I told my mother, his grandpa, and dad(which they all live together) that I was keeping him for two weeks to get him in routine again for school, since he wasnt doing so well..  (by the way when they took me to court for grandparents rights, even though they got him every weekend, they then were only allowed visitation every second week sat 9am to sun 5pm...)  it wasnt even their visitation time...and they got all pissed starting stuff...  now my mother treats me like ****...  I asked why she was treating me like this and she is saying it is my fault...  what should I do??  this is just a brief summary...there is alot more going on..

LOST and Lonely
Autum

[Victoria1762]

You're his mother so my advice would be to stop your son seeing this crazy woman and let your mother know until her behavior changes then she will not be allowed to see her grandchild.

YOUR SON, should not have to deal with your mothers frustrations. You agree that these incidents should not happen infront of your son, protect him and TAKE CONTROL!

Good luck Autumn, not a pleasant time for you

[autum]

I wish my mother would stop this ****!  she is telling my son that she is burning old pictures, meaning me when I was a kid, and then she is telling him its ok to say bad words!  How can she do this to a 7yr old! My son...  ugh! Im just sick of this junk!

Autum

[autum]

Thank you for your support...  sometimes I dont feel strong, but I do it for my kids and husband..  its hard not having a mother by my side through thick or thin, but all I have been doing is taking it a day at a time...  


Thank you for your input!
Autum

[fung]

Whatever happened in your life ,no matter how hard it is, it will pass. You sound like a strong women and a very good mother . Keep doing what you think is right for your kids.
Best wishes

[autum]

cowgirlnerd : Thank you for your support!   and thank you everyone for the support you have given me!  You all are alot of help!

[cowgirlnerd]

Gotcha!  Got confused for a second.  Continue to be strong for your kids and yourself.  I hope your "mother"  sees what she is doing soon!