Will he do it again?

[confusedme178000]

My boyf has had another girlfriend, unbeknown to me, for the last 4 years. I have dated him for a year.
He has promised that he will stop texting his longer term girlfriend and will not call her anymore.
However, my friend has just told me that he saw them at the airport kissing, hugging and biddign a teary goodbye just days after speaking to me. Does this mean I should end it as he will cheat with her again?
Help asap!

[peaceinknowing]

There are so many amazing men out there in the world....NEXT!

Although I've never been a fan of hearsay, you have to ask yourself how trusting you are in your friend and the information that she has provided you with revolving around what she apparently saw happen at the airport. However, I would have left him the first time around when after a year of dating this guy, I find out he has a girlfriend that he has apparently been with for four years....? Like I said before -- NEXT!

[heatherlynn22]

he isn't cheating on you...he's cheating on HER with YOU. well he probably is cheating on you too with another woman (i've seen my guy friends juggle 3 or 4 girls at once). he's a serial cheater...leave while ya can.

[Judy246]

Ya think! ... Let's see...b/f had another girlfriend while with you for "4" yrs. He promised he won't text or call anymore, BUT, he didn't promse to break up with her did he?
Your friend saw him warm and fuzzy with other girlfriend at airport and you ask if you we think he's going to cheat again...SNAP OUT OF IT!

He's dishonest, opportunist, unfaithful and playing you both. He doesn't love you, because if he did, he would respect you and never cheat on you, so the answer is dump him as soon as possible, before he dumps you. Also, avoid all the drama that comes with other woman. If you have doubted weather to leave him that means that he has you insecure with low self esteen, which you need to work on. Dump him, show him that he can't play with you or with this other girl.

[vmvnpv]

And also, you need to look at it this way.  If you had been dating him first wouldn't you hate it if he started seeing another girl on the sly?  Imagine what that girl is going through.  She's invested a lot more years into their relationship.  It's going to be even more devastating if and when she finds out he's been cheating on her.  It's your duty to break up with him because he obviously isn't going to.  Unless you like the idea of dating another woman's man.

[vmvnpv]

I'm sorry but imanaddict is right.  He's cheating on her, not you.  He was with her first so you are the other woman (even though you didn't know it).  Chances are he's not going to dump her and is going to keep you around until YOU say enough is enough.  And even if he did dump her and stayed with you chances are he's going to cheat on you.  Remember that.

[imanaddict]

It sounds to me as if YOU are the "other woman"

He's a jerk and I hope you won't tolerate it! If you forgive him and take him back, you are sending the signal that it's okay for him to cheat and he'll only continue. You do deserve better than that!

[iam1butterfly]

Not only is he cheating on you with this other girl; it's likely that this other girl doesn't know about you... so, he's probably cheating on her with you...  Dump him!

[SweetiePie411]

Hun, I would just leave him now. Obviously he is cheating again. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

[vmvnpv]

He's a cheating jerk.  You deserve better than that.  Leave the guy and find someone who wants to be with you and only you.

[jo929]

I do hope that you do not beleive him , you are not married so that gives him a right to do as he pleases, also you can do as you please if he loves you why has he not popped the question , also you have to look at it this way she has lasted 4 years, and he has not married her either, looks like he likes to play around   luck  jo