Ok, long story short as possible, my husband ans I have been married for 6 years. When I met him, he had a girlfriend that I could never understand why. He is a very handsome man, I mean almost to handsome for his own good. She was this overweight, no personality, lazy, not goodlooking in any, way shape or form. Im all for all woman have some beauty but I knew this woman and she had zipp. OK, so because all she did was lay around the house in her pajamas and was addicted to prescription pain meds, and wouldnt take a shower for 3 to 4 days every week, he was done with her after a year. When I befriended her through another freind, I met him. I was like wow, youve got a great husband. Hard working, goodlooking, funny, always happy, just all around nice guy. Well she needed me to stay with her for a few days due to her son being sick and needing my help. Well, you can probably guess what happens, me and him just clicked, at that same exact time my boyfriend was addicted to the same pain medication, he actually has passed away since then at the age of 29. So when I was living there me and him did alot of talking and he told me he was over her, he just wanted to make sure the son (not his) got through school and then he was going to kick her out. So he was already done with her. So I am not a homewrecker or whatever people call it these days. He is a maintanence supervisor, and is a good one at that. So we got together, she moved out and I moved in. Yes it was to quick, but our chemistry was like the ocean . We just knew that this was it, we were the ones for eachother. He was all over me, always wrote sweet letters, great sex, he could not get enough of me and kept telling me ,gosh if I had only met you earlier on, you are my destiny. He found a better job, alot better pay so we moved. It was a smaller community and we got a free house in the back of the property he worked on. The first week I was there, he only had one guy to help him with the grounds and thats it, the rest were the leasing agents in the office. I met the manager she was a total anna nicole smith. Lets just say she wore the red lipstick, bleach blonde hair and was beautiful. Well, they didnt have radios like they did at the other complex that I met him at. So, everyday he would come home, I would need to use his phone or something and I would look at the history and her and him talked on the phone 15 to 20 times a day, mind you, he was always in the office working with her. He started to change, its hard to explain, but more confidence ,less dependency on me, less affection towards me and I contributed it to him getting this from her. It was as if they had something mental going on. She was married and I met him at a christman party and he was a total goof, my husband had everything on him. So I started to wonder is this lady after my husband.She could turn any mans head.So this went on for two years , we started fighting , then the sex went down. He never came up to me like he used to and gave me a passionate kiss, and I was for sure he was falling for her. He called me a jealous !@#$ and it got real vicious. So much, I moved out and we seperated for 6 months. but he kept calling swaring he loved me and shes moving to colorado and all he did was go to work to work and come home to me. He even wanted to go to couples therapy.. So she moved and I just let it go, I will never know what went on between the two of them and I loved him so much that I thought we could have a second chance. Well, another girl comes in. Shes not as pretty, I wasnt worried until I looked on her facebook page and her profile picture was half nanked. The worst part was she said she worked for his company , so here she is in a bathing suit (not classy) and representing my husbabnds company. One day I even called him to see if he wanted me to bring him something for lunch, he never answered, I got to the property went to the office and he was with her in there on her lunch. And he was walking out just as I was walking up to the office door (locked by the way). I said wtf are you doing in there. He said , shes new sandy and I was going over procedures and I couldnt lose my train of thought while explaing this procedure to her. He had always picked up the phone when he is busy and said "hon, let me call you right back" so I was , to say the least ,very upset. He even went on to say I cant answer every call of yours when Im working, I have done that many times. But thats when hes actually doing physical labor and he is using his hands to install air conditioning units or something to where he cant get to the phone. So when that happened , it was like going back to the days of when we first moved in with the anna nicole look alike. So I looked this girl up on facebook and there she was . She looked like a cheap *****.Excuse the language, but she did. And I made a fuss out of it, she is representing your company and you dont care shes shows her self this way. He said its not my problem , what she does on her own time , is her own deal. That just tells me how unprofessional this company is. In fact, prior to her, the assitant leasing manager and my husbands worker got caught having sex in an empty apartment and they were both married and the girlfriend to Marks friend thta got caught worked side by side in this leasing office. they were good friend, yet she was having sex with her boyfriend. Thats to give you an idea about how unprofesional this place is. We just had a baby, well 6 months ago, and I found myself losing my mind over his work and what he does out there considering his changed behavior, insensitivity and just alot more **** that It was a man I did not know. Im getting a large settlement in october. So instead of having my daughter witness his rage everytime I bring up his work or he calls me jealous and we fight like cats and dogs. Him claiming , yes other men probably would of slept with Julie (anna nicole) but not me, Im a moral man and your all I live for. I even asked him, when was the last time you were just flirted with, just nonchalantley. He said NEVER, and if he was he didnt notice it. Im like, so your telling me your just this walking robot.Youve never been tempted, youve never found another woman pretty etc... he said nope, only you !!! OK, thats actually insulting, we all know that human nature is JUST THERE. The reason I brought up the settlement, is I have nobody to help my daughter and I, so once i get it, I wll take him to our marrige counselor for the last time and tell him get honest and tell me that you are a human and any mistakes youve made I will forgive you for, or Im out. He is too damn good looking for not one woman residents, staff to not even flirted once.So here was the straw that broke the calels back. 1 week later, after I fussed about her facebook picture, she put a professional black dress on as her nre profile piecture. So he tells me he does not know these girls, they just telepathically knew at that moment we were discussing how unproffesionl she looked on her face book and decided to change it. The slutty on had been on hter for 3 to 4 months. So that tells me , he talked to her or someone about it. Whcih he denies , telling me he talks about nothing unless it has somethin to do with getting job done. INSULTING. Do you think that a man that claims he is the most moral man sayus it to cover up his immorality and thats waht Im dealing with. Like he is the exact opposite of what he says, or am I totally jumping the gun? Im so tired of this , I think he is someone I dont know and I also think he has cheated on me maybe not with anna or this new girl, but a resident, oging if its not Please any advice ould help, Im desperate here I want to !@#$or get off the pot and go on with my life, I just turned 40 and I want the second part of my life not trying to figure out the man I thought I knew?Thanks, Sandy