advise needed please

[Nina159]

I want advise from some one who wont pick a side I havent been here in a long time let me start off by saying my bf well now ex we had a baby 6 months is he and we almost were together for 3 year he lived with me and my parents but the problem is at night once he wantef to have sex with me but thats not the first thing in my head  so he starts grabing me I tell him to stop dosent puts me on my back gets on me and sticks his fingers in me im saying stop stop he wont I ttying to brake free but cabt mined the baby sleep on the bed with me and I start crying uncontrollable he puts his hand on my mouth to shut me up and keeps going till he lets me go hlgets mad and walks out came back I forgave him told me sorry at some other points sisn I dont want to have sex he got the idea I was cheating but im not like that he puts his arm around me telling me to say I cheated I told him never he tell me u beter n9t but pressing his arm on my neck well this happend like 2 other time and I finally told him if he did this I would not forgive him so I started texed my to guy friend cuz only one have lost most of friends started dateing he got so mad I was texting them I really needed to vent to some one he says im cheating I tell him no told me im ******* lying and he talk to me how ever he feels like it he dumbed me next day forgave  him that night he try to stick his fingers in me again told him to leave me alone he stoped after I screamed at his minutes later he asked for a his I said no put his hand on my throat pressed on it I told him to leave and get out and we are over so been broken up for 2weeks or so comes and visit today my sisster told him a was talking/ hanging out with my friend and we kisses he said why u cheating on me reaches to my under area trys to put his finger in me saying let me see how many guys have you ****** :/ my mom wants me to work iy out for the baby but I dont want to tell her the story am I wrong dl???? Was this all my fault .? Im so lost and I cant get the guy I kissed out my head no harsh comments please and thank you for reading

[Nina159]

No I never been in one this be the first and the first time it happened he said was sorry never do that again I forgave him because i love him

[nursegirl6572]

Good for you...hold your bottom line and stay away from him...no contact at all, either initiated by you, or in response to contact from him.  People like that can be dangerous, especially in a break up situation, so be aware of your surroundings, and if he starts harassing you, or stalking you, get the police involved asap, and get a PFA.

Hopefully he will just give up and move on, but I wanted to say those things...just be careful.  He's obviously got some big issues, and may take the rejection badly.

Spend some time sorting through why you let this go on as long as you did.  Have you ever been in an abusive relationship before?  You need to be sure there isn't an issue with YOU that would either draw you to those kinds of people, or would allow you to put up with it.  Best to you!

[Nina159]

Thank you everyone yes its over he wants me back but I said no because I told him he should take anger management and stuff like that he did not want to and im sorry im on my phone and it messes up my lettering and punctuation I didnt notice

[Bree_05_15]

First of all as soon as a woman says no its no if they continue its rape I had a bf I was with along time ago nd he raped me so hard for me to say cuz its horiable for me to talk about but please stay away from him he also seems like someone who could eventually hurt u and when.I say this to u its not only to protect u but ur baby as well do it for both of u nd I know its hard to talk bout it with ur mombut at least let her know somewhat of what's happening

[nursegirl6572]

Just some friendly advice, please use punctuation (like periods, commas, question marks) when you post.  I really struggled reading your post.  It all runs together.

Obviously, this man is abusive, and you should be glad it's over.  I think telling your Mom is important.  She needs to know why "working it out for the baby" isn't a possibility.

Good luck to you.

[specialmom]

Well, and it's over right?  Not sure if this is a question or just your telling us what happened.  Obviously it wasn't a good situation.  good luck

[Nina159]

18 and 19 but I grew up alot sins I got pregnant

[TTinKKerBBell]

This sounds like a dangerous relationship - dangerous to You - and I think You should separate YourSelf from this person N O W.  I'm sure Your Mother would agree if She knew the whole story.  Most of us would like to see an intact Family for Baby's sake but N O T under these circumstances.  Please, take Your Mother into Your confidence and do whatever it takes to protect YourSelf from this person.
It's not for me to say if You are "right or wrong" other than I do think it's a mistake not to confide in Your Mother.  I'm so sure She would not be supportive of You staying with Him if She knew what You telling us here.
I'm curious.....How old are You and He?