stupid homewreckers!!!

[babyC_1]

So my husband came home tonight from hanging out with that girl he's been talking to and told me that she chewed his *** out for me posting on his Facebook wall, and also told him that he needed to choose between me or her. And he is deciding which one he wants. If he wants to stay with me and be unhappy or go with her and be happy till she breaks up with him.  I honestly have no words for this. She also gets mad when he's texting me. So when he's with me he doesn't text her and when he's with her he doesn't text me.  And the way he is acting he's gonna choose her. Which is perfectly fine. She can have him.  I'm tired of fighting and putting up a fight for him to stay when I know he wants to leave. Me and my son will do fine on our own.

[Londres70]

It's NOT the other women who are the problem; it's YOUR husband.  He brought all this drama into your home; they didn't.

I would pack his things and send him walking on his merry way.

[mee25]

It break my heart to hear your story. He is an ***** to do that to you. You deserve better. Move away from him so that he get to know that you are not an option. You are strong to tolerate it so far, if i were in your place i wouldn't bear it even for a minute.

[specialmom]

I totally agree with nursegirl.  Wise advice!!

[nursegirl6572]

Oh dear, I'm so sorry you're going through this...I think you're wise beyond your years to not put up with it for another moment.  You can make his "decision" very easy for him by making it for him.  You can tell him that too....that you're just done, that you're no ones "option".  She's welcome to him.

A few things...it kind of irks me when I see someone say...":go after him for child support!".  Child support is an obligation, not a punishment.  It's for the BABY.  Any couple who isn't living in the same home raising a child should make sure that their child is getting support from the non-custodial parent.

Don't pursue this girl in any way...take the high road. Your beef is with your husband....HE took vows with you, she didn't.  I can almost guarantee that she won't be interested in anything you have to say anyway.  It will only cause you more stress.  It sounds like they will be two peas in a pod, and it will only be a matter of time before one betrays the other.  And you can look from afar and hold your head up high.

These kinds of situations are tough...just make sure you're not getting involved in any drama, and be sure not to use your child against him.  

Best wishes to you...stick to your guns hon.

[babyC_1]

Yes.  He said he was happy with her and attracted to her but he didn't know why.  I asked him if he was still attracted to me the other night and he said yes but hasn't had sex with me in over a week now. Since he's been talking to her. So that's fine.  Like I said I'm done and he will realize how selfish he's being and what he's putting me through and then will be putting our son through and I hope it eats him alive every day of his life. The fact that he would leave his wife and son that will be here in less than 3 months for a 17 year old girl that is a ***** just goes to show his true colors. And he told me last night that she thinks she's pregnant by her ex that she don't like!! Like what the hell.

[ariflowers]

Happy for you that you're going to move out **** them both! ! He's saying he's gonna be happy with her ? Why cause he's not having any responsibilities of raising his OWN child just shows how selfish he is makes me so mad I'm sorry ur going through this STAY STRONG FOR U & UR BABY <3

[mommaKatxx]

This seriously mist be the "in thing" now. Because not only isis your husband letting a 17yr old kiss his neck... In spite of HER ex... But he's treating you like poopoos.

I hope at times with my husband, that he cheats on me while I'm pregnant. He's already shown signs of lying... And not coming home... And "working late." I dare him...

But you have some doooshbag who's actually tellllling you this girl is texting him!!! What is his problem.

He's the father of your baby, but.. You have to think what's beat for you two.( you and your son)....

Think well and long about it, because divorce isn't a break up and come back because you aren't mad anymore....
Best wishes momma, and stay FREAKIN STRONG!!

[babyC_1]

Thank you ladies for all the support!!

[babyC_1]

I didn't tell him to choose me or her. She told him that he had to choose me or her. And he told me that he was thinking. Yeah. No I'm not having it. I will be gone and he will eventually realize what he has done. And i will not take him back. If it's happening now it will happen again.  I totally agree.  I'm so over this none Sense drama. He seen that I changed him name in my phone, and I told him I'm done. So.

[MahMahBeaR]

O i swear if there was no law n this was my husband i would put his car on fire n probably kill his *** -_- i hate the fact that stupid sluuttyy bitchez can get away with that zhitt !!! N him too wtf was he thinking he has a wife n a baby on the way grr makes me mad but honestly file for divorce n just be strong for ur baby u guys deserve better !

[RippedonScotch]

Change the locks, file for divorce & text him that you made the choice for him.  You do not need that in your life or your childs life. He made the choice when he let her kiss him on the neck and didn't stop it the very first incident.  

Good luck!

[ChefBlu]

I despise women who go after married men but you can't put all of the blame on her. Its both of them. He's married to you with a baby on the way!!! He knows better too and for him to do that to you disgusts me!! I'd kick him out and make his *** pay child support. She won't want him for long after he has to give all of his extra money to the baby instead of pampering her. I'd give them two hell!!! And I wouldn't take him back either. You're going to find someone who would never dream of hurting you like that! I'm sorry you're going through this :( best of luck to you and your little Angel ♥

[makeartnotwarr69]

Oh and give the baby YOUR last name.

[yesenia5]

I'm sorry this is something u shouldn't put up with sounds like u tried Alot!  I'm fed up just reading this don't let him choose make the choice for him it's hard I know but he has no excuse a real man would step up and try to fix it. he's unhappy wth does he think u feel!? Inconsiderate men I wish u the best that girl doesn't even realize he's gonna treat her the exact same way. you and baby will b just fine let him just be another check cuz frm the sound s of it he can't even be a real man much less a father

[makeartnotwarr69]

Yesssss I agree luxah.  You won't win doing anything to them or saying anything to them. No matter what, they're gonna feel like they won so anything you say will roll off their shoulders and damaging someone's belongings could get you in trouble. Just leave, get custody of your baby and move on..

[luxah]

I would just leave, don't tell him don't do anything to his possesions, because that can backfire on you, be the bigger adult and just go. I agree to file for divorce and full custody at the same time. I also agree with giving baby your last name, he doesn't deserve to be honored by the baby having his, but of course that is your choice. I would also not even waste my time giving her a piece of mtly mind. She obviously doesn't care or see the problem she has caused, and neither does he. And for you to have to wait for him to decide, no thats ridiculous. This isn't a game show where he gets to pick door number one or door number two. I'm very sorry, but this could be better in the long one. If its not her it could be someone else. Good luck.

[babyC_1]

Thanks guys.  I'm gonna go stay with my grandparents till I get me an apartment or a house. Everything that's at our house is in his name. So he can just stay there. I honestly have nothing left to say to him.  He has hurt me enough.  Enough is enough.  I'm done. I can make it on my own with my baby boy.

[alanatb]

You are a strong woman your baby will be fine without him. Even if he choses you hes surely going to keep cheating on you im sure you don't want that and dont want your son thinking thats the right way to treat women.  Please I beg of you just get rid of him.. I know its hard but in time you will find a new man that will love you and your boy unconditionally for who use are.. Goodluck I wish you all the best in the future :)

[MrsEvans0o]

Please don't give somebody the choice of "choosing you" or "choosing her". Don't give somebody that power over your life. Since he's showed interest in somebody else. Let him be with somebody else. If you let him go it could be so great for you. There are so many nice guys out there that would love you and not want other women. Please please don't let somebody do that to you. I went through it so many times with my ex and then when I finally decided to be done I met the most amazing man in the world. You and your baby deserve better. Even if its hard to let go because he's the baby's father it could be so much better for u

[OctoberBaby5]

AND I would call the police on their ***** she is a child and a minor even if she is 17

[OctoberBaby5]

I have been keeping up with your story and honestly I dont know how you can still put up with that momma specially being married.. youre so young and deserve SO much better.. if I was in your position he would have been out of the picture when it all started.. sometimes love isnt enough for some people and even if you love him I I hope realize how much more you deserve..

[nelson9babies]

You should also file for full custody. Also put adultery on the paperwork as well. Speaking from Personal experience, it is better to file them at the same time. I would give your baby your last name as well.

[1st_baby_2015]

And he sure as hell shouldnt be decided who he wants between his WIFE and some random. Like who the hell is he! .. Your not an option you should be his priority! I wouldnt stand for any of that bs you deserve a man who wants to be with you and only YOU.  He obviously has no values.

[gugu2010]

Why is it HIS choice??? You need to move on what if he puts you at risk of an std and your baby!!! Why are you devalueing yourself