"Protected" Condom Sex with Professional Sex Worker

[blurt]

Dear Doc,

A couple of days ago I visited a professional sex worker. I've noticed that she had big marks of rape os somekind of abuse. She put me a condom, cleaned my body with wet wipes and started doing me oral sex. After a few minutes she inserted my penis into her vagina and very gently started to move up and down...it took me a minute before I pushed her away telling her that I want oral sex only. She continued with oral sex... After the intecourse I asked for a wet whipe and pulled down the condom, not touching it. Than I went to the bathroom and washed my penis with soap - I used a lot of soap and water, but didn't take a shawer. I didn't touch her vagina nor mouth, but massaged her breasts. I've been reading articles and formums for STDs since than and got VERY CONFUSED. I guess some of her vaginal fluids got in touch with my body or some saliva got in touch with my body.

Please tell me what are the chances I got STDs from the described stupid mistake I made?

I'm SCARED TO DEATH about my family as I have a life and we've been trying to have a baby.

[london08]

Er maybe because you don't think about it like that at the time of the deed and clearly with the benefit of hindsight he can see what he did was wrong and I'm sure wouldn't do it again. Oh if only we all had you all seeing oraclesque gandhi powers. Not quite sure how that is "easing his concerns"

I actually meant to say get her tested so sorry for being unclear Blurt and I don't think you were worried about getting herpes on your arm were you because otherwise I would have clarified skin to skin contact aswell!

[auntiejessi]

I didn't judge him, thank you.   I was pointing out that his actions are contradictory to his concerns, and that if he wants to stop being concerned about these things, to stop having sex with other women.  Its about easing his concerns.  If you don't want your partner getting something, why would you have sex with other people?  

Skin to skin contact means genital contact.  You would not get these on other parts of your body.

There is also no test for HPV for men, so he can't test for that.

Do not squeeze the sore again, and just get it checked.  It doesn't sound like an std to me, either, but you do want the doc to check it out.  The fact that you wore a condom does reduce your chance of HPV, herpes and syphilis, but doesn't eliminate it.

AJ

[london08]

That doesn't sound like any STD I've encountered, you had protected sex so your risk is negligible. The risk of catching gonorrhoea from oral sex is miniscule. However, if you're trying to have a baby then get tested just in case as congenital gonorrhoea can be nasty for the baby. Basically though your chnaces are tiny, there is an outside risk of herpes and HPV from skin to skin contact. If you are worried then get tested because if you give your wife HPV she will not be impressed as it leads to cervical cancer. And we are here in these forums to help and advise, not judge (auntjessie). This man made a mistake like we all do sometimes, he is doing the right thing by sorting it out, lets leave it at that. Good luck.

[blurt]

Hi Auntiejessi,

In the next day after the intercourse i've noticed a bump (about 5mm diameter) with dark spot in the centre and red surrounding area. I sqeezed it to let the blood go out, but in the next day it formed in the same way. Can it be STD??  

[blurt]

just to make it more clear. The vaginal sex was protected, too.

[blurt]

Thank you for your answer.

Last 2 questions?
I've had protected oral and just less than a minute vaginal sex (tender movements without any hard staff).

1. Can I get any STDs from her fluids touching parts of my body, but not my penis and mouth?

2. Can Herpes or HPV or some other STD infect me through my skin?

I do need your answers to go on wih my life.