Another Scar Question

[mathriley]

I'm less that a week post surgery so I'm still keeping my stitches covered.  I have worn tutrle necks both times that I have left the house to cover the bandage.  I don't think it is a vanity issue.  I'm not worried about the scar but, I don't want to deal with nosey people.  Is there any way to avoid the issue and wear lower necklines?

[mathriley]

Thanks!  I guess my real issue is that I don't want to talk about it yet.  Everything came back non-cancer but it is no one's business how I feel!  I am still so emotional about this that I get teary thinking or talking about it.  I guess I'll stick with turtle necks and scarves for a while.

[Liz94]

I'm two weeks post op and went to a party last night and wore a v-neck because  I don't give a flip. And the comments I got were....."WOW, you can't even really see that scar!"  And "what was all the complaining for, didn't even notice it!" And "Your surgeon was awesome, it totally blends in with your neckline."  Of course, everyone there knew I'd had surgery.  And anyone who doesn't and wants to ask, I will feel free to tell them. I'm not going to be self conscious about it, life is too short.

[Avee3]

I stopped wearing scarves and turtle necks two weeks ago (6 weeks post op) and even wore a low neckline over the Holidays.  I actually forget about mine until I notice someone look but, so far, no one has asked me what happened.  I think it has a lot to do with how you feel about your scar and carry yourself.  If you're ok with it people may wonder but they generally won't ask because you seem unaffected by it.  Then again, there are always the nosy people.  In that case, I guess I would rather them ask then assume or gossip.  

Interestingly, the only thing that made me self conscious was the "no comment" from my family over the Holidays.  They all knew about my surgery but no one even mentioned the scar, which is very unusual for them.  It meant "oh, it's really noticeable but don't say anything because it might upset her."  This bothered me a little but I got over it.

[ChitChatNine]

I wore silk scarves as I wasn't able to "talk about it" if anybody even asked how I was doing .. after I came to terms with my own issues (not the scar but the small cancer found) then I was able to wear it without too too much of a problem .. it bothered me more that people would stare at the scar while I was speaking instead of me!  Moreso than actually asking what happened, it moreso invoked "how are you doing and was all ok" type of ?'s for which I wasn't able to readily answer for about 2 mos with some therapy to help me along .... me, the one who thought I would be 100% fine with any type of diagnosis cringed that my life changed overnight with the word cancer now part of my medical history.  Well, at least I am ok now .. sorry to ramble on your thread ...

Cheryl

[utahmomma]

I swore by scarfs and "choker" necklaces for a year after my first surgery.  After the second I just didn't care anymore.  :-)