I HATE New Year's Resolutions!!! What are you NOT going to demand on yourself this year?

[stella5349]

OK -

Resolutions are good - I suppose. They give us goals for us to "try" and achieve. They give us hope to be a better person.  ( snicker... snicker)

Yeah - OK.......... I could go with the traditional popular votes .......................

"I'm going to quit smoking" ( puff puff as I sit here)

" I'm going to lose enough weight to feel like a model" - ( yeah - this one is always a dissappointment within a day)

" I'm going to work out once a day" ( but what's on TV right now) - or - ( I think I will call my............ )

" I'm not going to blow when someone gets me upset" ( that one cracks me up!) LOL

Come on now!!! - I am now 43 years old - To a degree I am set in my ways and so many of us are!!

What will actually change our lives?? What will make us truly happy? What will be a life long committment for us?

I can't answer this one yet today - I need the "think" about it. I don't want the same dissappointments all the other years lead me to. I want this year as a real "change"

Off the top of my head - I refuse to be "June Cleaver" anymore for starters - but I refuse to be "Roseanne" too.

I am looking for a "happy medium" resolution on a few things. Life - Health - Happiness.

Hmmmmm.. this should be interesting ----------------------thinking with short term memory loss/ hypothyroidism...........

This should be be a trip!!

[Barb135]

What I'm NOT going to demand of myself is that I be the perfect person or never make a mistake.  

[Barb135]

Forgot to mention: if you break the whole goal into small sections, make sure you record each time you have a success or maybe give yourself a reward.  

[Barb135]

First of all - my mother always taught me that "I'm just as good as everyone else, but no better either".  You are intelligent, funny, and compassionate that entitles you to the utmost respect.  

Years ago, I pretty much quit making New Year's Resolutions because after a couple weeks/months or whatever, I realize that I'm not going to carry through with it anyway and I feel like I lied to myself by saying "I'm going to --------" and then don't.  

I posted in Weight Loss and Dieting earlier in the week about this subject.  I'm finding that the way to carry through is to not only set the goal, but be specific about how you plan to achieve it.  For example: rather than say "I'm going to lose weight", I will say "I'm going eat healthier food" or "I'm going to cut back to 1200 calories", including the types of foods I will and/or won't eat.  Rather than say "I'm going to exercise"; I will say "I'm going to walk at least 10000 steps/day x# of days/week".  

Deciding HOW to achieve the goal is just as important (or more so) than setting the goal.  If you don't have a game plan, your resolution is probably destined to go down the tubes in a short time.  

Your goals and plans to achieve them will be much more meaninful and you'll be more likely to carry through if you write them down.  Start out with the over all goal, then list the steps you plan to follow to achieve it.  Post your resolution somewhere obvious so you will see it regularly as a reminder (maybe on the fridge or some place like that).  Feel free to fine tune the plan as you think of more ideas to make it easier to follow through.  

I, personally, purchased a journal a couple of months in which I try to write down things that happen in my life and how they make me feel, what I can do about them, etc.  I do plan to make a couple of resolutions this year and must, for my own well being, make every effort to carry through.  They will be included in my journal.  

My resolutions will be:
1) I will learn to control this disease I have (hypo t/Hashi's) because it's beginning to control me and I must stop that.  Between now and Jan 1, I must come up with some ideas/plans on how I can accomplish this.  I have been referred to an endo, whom I will see toward the end of Jan and I will gather all the info I need to make the most of the appt.  I am putting together a couple of ideas, just need to get my brain wrapped around them, then write them down, but if anyone else has suggestions to add, feel free.  
2) For health reasons, I must lose some weight.  I already have a pretty good plan in place to achieve this, but for some reason it's not working, so I need to get it all on paper and figure out what the problem is because so far I'm not getting any help from the medical field.  Again, if anyone has suggestions, I'm open.  

My motto??  "God brought me to it, he will lead me through it".  

[stella5349]

Seriously - I jotted this below for myself - This is one I need to enforce. -  There will be others  - this year  - like this for me. ( I hope)

I am no longer going to think I am of  no value.

I never feel “worthy” enough to engage in communication without feeling like I am less of a person with anybody.

Especially when there is a disagreement or confrontation involved. I always take the back seat. (In-bedding in my head that) “I am not worthy enough to engage this way – or - “I am less of a person than them.”

I am not going to let my debts – or the way I view myself as less then others when I am engaging with other individuals.

I want to treat myself as an equal amongst other people regardless of their wealth – status – or views.